mwolverine saidIn the 1970s, the gay movement was anti-marriage and anti-military.
By the 1990s, the focus of our fight was gay-marriage and gays in the military.
With gay marriage in this country gaining ground (slowly but surely... next week?) what impact will its achievement bring?
Will the white picket fence, along with adopted or biological kids, become the aspiration of younger gays and future generations?
Wasn't marriage itself meant to tame wild straight men, to know who are the fathers and provide for their children?
Please cite support for your saying that the gay rights movement was ever anti-marriage because I just caught a whiff of revisionism in your statement. What I remember of the 70s was that marriage wasn't even a consideration for most us. Never mind that the first half of the 70s, before my political time, was mostly about gaining psychological legitimacy and getting a foothold in politics, we were already being locked out legally from marriage at that time. That didn't mean that we didn't want our long term relationships recognized even when not monogamous, that many of us weren't acutely aware that our relationships weren't deemed by society as valid. We just didn't have the number or the strength yet to change it. And there were other complications. Here's a paragraph summing that up pretty well...http://www.salon.com/2013/09/08/the_secret_history_of_gay_marriage/
... Baker and McConnell were in the minority as they publicly pushed for the right to marry. Many homosexuals rejected marriage and monogamy. Some, having been one half of a heterosexual marriage, negatively associated the institution with their closeted lives. Marriage was not an initial goal of the gay rights movement, and many activists of the 1970s and early 1980s offered explicit critique of the institution or ignored the subject. Others seemed content to create their own versions of marriage, untouched by state sanction and unmarked by public recognition or celebration beyond their closest friends.
So while the notion of marriage--that we might be able to have what they have--was congealing from having lived for a millennium marriage-less into what we know today, I think that a statement which says that the gay rights movement was against marriage confuses some issues.
That some were coming to terms and out of the closet with having engaged hetero marriage, that they might have had issues with marriage did not speak for the rest of us. That some of us were in practicing bisexual relationships did not speak to being against marriage, but that the relationships might not have fit the paradigm. And even those specifically against marriage might simply have been rationalizing a way to find comfort in a world that didn't let them marry.
So to say we were anti-marriage really takes things out of context. Even while not allowed, marriage was not unknown. Further from that article:
Mary Mendola, a writer “married” to another woman, conducted an investigation in the late 1970s to determine just how many same-sex couples existed. The resulting publication, The Mendola Report, while hardly scientific, proved that gay men and lesbians resided together as married couples throughout the United States. Using only an informal network of gay and lesbian contacts, Mendola found 1,500 potential couples to survey and received an astonishing 27 percent return on her distribution. Of her return sample, 67 percent of respondents described themselves as permanently committed or “married.”
I'd also like to see citation for us having been anti-military other than that we might preach sex not war. The 70s was the end of the Vietnam War so there was a lot of protest against the military, generally, leading up to that and that was also the big initial thrust of the gay rights moment fresh out of Stonewall, but those were still separate issues even if played out on the same battlefield. I was out by 1977 but by 1975 I had already looked into the AFROTC, hoping then to become a pilot. I don't recall any association in my mind of being gay and by that being anti-military. Those issues weren't the same.
What I see as the big impact of marriage rights for our future is that it further legitimizes our humanity, empowering us to gain the rest of our civil rights here and to export our new found freedoms to our brothers and sisters still struggling around the world.
This is a landmark to step up upon.