How to tell if guy at gym is gay

  • bmorethanu

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    Apr 23, 2015 9:49 PM GMT
    Im a masculine guy and am ok with being gay but because of the way I act, no one knows I'm gay unless I tell them. There's this guy at the gym who I find to be really attractive that I keep feeling like we're giving each other constant eye contact. I cant tell if im just wishing he was gay, if hes just looking in my direction, or something else. How would I know if hes like me? What should I do?
  • Bunjamon

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    Apr 23, 2015 10:54 PM GMT
    You would have to ask him, I'm afraid. Why not just say hi and see what happens? Guys make small talk in the gym all the time.
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    Apr 23, 2015 11:42 PM GMT
    I would really like to know! There's this guy at my gym who in my opinion is a wetdream! I have the feeling as if we're sharing looks, but it could be my imagination. But today we had the slightest interaction.

    I wanted to do bench presses and he said to me, I have 2 more sets to do. I know It's NOTHING. But my heart stopped. I smiled, he smiled and I went doing something else. When he left, he did walk in my direction, and discretely waved. I don't even know whether he's gay or not. Maybe he was just being nice. icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 24, 2015 12:07 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]JudasOfCrossfit said[/cite]
    I wanted to do bench presses and he said to me, I have 2 more sets to do. I know It's NOTHING. But my heart stopped. I smiled, he smiled and I went doing something else. When he left, he did walk in my direction, and discretely waved. [quote]


    All this means is that he has common courtesy.
    If somebody is waiting for equipment you're using many (including me) will wave at the guy to let him know you're done.
    No flirtation intended unless the wave was accompanied by a meaningful look.
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    Apr 24, 2015 12:25 AM GMT
    TexDef07 said[quote][cite]JudasOfCrossfit said[/cite]
    I wanted to do bench presses and he said to me, I have 2 more sets to do. I know It's NOTHING. But my heart stopped. I smiled, he smiled and I went doing something else. When he left, he did walk in my direction, and discretely waved. [quote]


    All this means is that he has common courtesy.
    If somebody is waiting for equipment you're using many (including me) will wave at the guy to let him know you're done.
    No flirtation intended unless the wave was accompanied by a meaningful look.


    I meant to say, when he left the gym. I'll probably see him again tomorrow, so we'll see.
  • mystery905

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    Apr 24, 2015 1:35 AM GMT
    Just drop a note in his locker ;-)
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    Apr 24, 2015 2:34 AM GMT
    If his photo turns up on grindr or scruff, then I know he's gay. At the gym itself I avoid making assumptions.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 24, 2015 2:44 AM GMT
    I would just mind my own damn business.
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    Apr 24, 2015 5:29 AM GMT
    LMAO...whenever I wish I was back in high school I know I can go on RealJock and remember how I used to be back in the day. Then it's like nah, I'm glad I've grown up.

    Pick a daisy and then pull out the petals one by one. Each time alternately say "He loves me" and "He loves me not." Whatever you're saying when you remove the last petal is your answer.

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    What pathetic shit.
  • secondstartot...

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    Apr 24, 2015 6:08 AM GMT
    to the OP ...fortunately for you , you really do have a very sexy body...and this situation takes place in a gym...so you have a unique opportunity to make this work for you .
    you need to very subtly "work" this guy ..make sure you wear stuff that shows of your arms etc...and make sure that you are always working out near him ...if he is gay he will get uncontrollably turned on ..then you will know ...
  • buddycat

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    Apr 24, 2015 9:34 AM GMT
    Personally, it really depends on where your gym is. If it is in a gay area and they are straight, they will make it clear to you. I would leave it alone otherwise. There are plenty of gay guys out there, just go to a bar or something.
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    Apr 24, 2015 12:34 PM GMT
    No way to know unless you ask. Approach if as if you would anyone else you wanted to befriend and go from there.
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    Apr 25, 2015 8:19 AM GMT
    You will know when he wears pink spandex to work out.
  • jeep334

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    Apr 25, 2015 12:49 PM GMT
    Riko_Tal saidNo way to know unless you ask. Approach if as if you would anyone else you wanted to befriend and go from there.


    +100. Best answer offered. Talk with him like he's just another guy. If he's interested in more than friendship, he'll let you know. Invite him for coffee. Smile. Be interesting. Keep us updated and good luck. icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 25, 2015 10:55 PM GMT
    I meet a really cool guy at the gym . We work out together! i don't know if he's gay or not
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    Apr 26, 2015 3:00 AM GMT
    Easy. When his entire exercise routine consists of staring at YOUR entire exercise routine, if you were looking for a gay guy at the gym, WHOOT there it is.
  • rnch

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    Apr 26, 2015 2:56 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidA subtle yet effective approach would be to corner him in the locker room, preferably while he's changing or garb free. Just walk up to him, and immediately drop to your knees and start pawing at his underwear like a dog begging to be fed.

    If he responds favorably then you'll know he's part of the "G"-Team.







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    Apr 26, 2015 3:00 PM GMT
    It's all in the gaze.
  • sethfr

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    Apr 27, 2015 8:17 AM GMT
    There was this super hot guy at the gym. We had some eye contact and sometimes he was smiling at me. I wanted to know if I had a chance with him but I didn't want to be too direct so I decided to do the same routine as him so we can share a bench press and talk.
    After our routine we went to the locker room and had some small talks, he was very charming not just a beautiful body.

    When we step out of the gym his gf was waiting for him.

    Then I realized he was just being polite.
  • Suetonius

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    Apr 27, 2015 10:53 PM GMT
    Even if he is gay, that does not mean he will want to get into bed with you. Where a T-shirt that discreetly announces your probable gayness, and hit him up for conversation.
  • sethfr

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    Apr 29, 2015 10:16 AM GMT
    That a very good advice!
    Have you got a T-shirt to recommend???
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    Jun 11, 2015 12:42 PM GMT
    I think sometimes it is just visible.
    At the gym I attend now, there was this guy. When he was around, I could feel that strange tension in the atmosphere between us. Once he even appeared in the gym and it was me the only one he greeted.
    I also notice the other guys. Some are 100% not gay - their personality and actions show it. For the rest - I have doubts, but when someone stares at your direction for no particular reason makes your doubts disappear.
    Not that I am interested in the gym guys. I go to the gym for working out and hitting on others, even if it was common in my country, is not the purpose. It is like a straight guy hitting on girls in the gym. Just tells this person is hyper-sex-active, nothing else.
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    Jun 11, 2015 12:59 PM GMT
    sethfr saidThat a very good advice!
    Have you got a T-shirt to recommend???


    http://www.zazzle.com/gay+tshirts

    I kind of like this one:

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    Jun 11, 2015 1:41 PM GMT
    YCYL
  • Dainesredline

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    Jun 11, 2015 1:51 PM GMT
    We all glow pink under black light. Time to get your CSI kit out