do you find outgoing people attractive?

  • giodude

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    Apr 25, 2015 8:20 AM GMT
    personally I love friendly people or very shy people. I don;t really mingle with those in the middle (strange right?)
    Anyways do you find one more attractive than the other? Because I think shyness is so cute on guys, but then again I'd love to give my potential boyfriend hugs and kiss and such things in public. So which do you guys prefer?
  • giodude

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    Apr 25, 2015 6:27 PM GMT
    I hate it when confidence steps over that o-so-important threshold into arrogance. I also love cologne eeeeerrmeeeerweerd it drives me mad (in a good way)
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 25, 2015 6:35 PM GMT
    As another shy person, I find myself drawn to extroverted, outgoing types because they often help me come out of my shell. but this isn't to say I don't like other shy guys, I've had a few crushes in the past on guys who were shy or more introverted but in the long run, I just see myself with someone more outgoing than I am because they could help me be more outgoing every now and then lol.
  • Unnamed6

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    Apr 25, 2015 8:03 PM GMT
    TomSOCAL said
    giodude saidpersonally I love friendly people or very shy people. I don;t really mingle with those in the middle (strange right?)
    Anyways do you find one more attractive than the other? Because I think shyness is so cute on guys, but then again I'd love to give my potential boyfriend hugs and kiss and such things in public. So which do you guys prefer?


    I'm shy except on message boardsicon_redface.gif So in person, I prefer Extroverts - guys with their shirts off, talking non-stop about themselves, covered with strong cologne or strong deodorant. But we just don't see that much of this out west - people are so reclusive and difficult to start conversations with. Everyone is very socially conservative. In the Midwest and more liberal areas of the Southeast, you'll find more outgoing extroverted guys. People in Colorado are extroverts, mostly the Denver-Boulder area.


    Was this really your experience in LA or the OC? It seems to me that it's non-natives trying to conform to people that they think are like themselves that contribute to this issue, and they tend to be concentrated in certain parts of LA and the OC (like West and Central LA, the rich parts of the Southbay and South OC). Natives might be somewhat cliquish (in the sense of them being Asian, a skater, a surfer, etc.) but are really much more open to people of different backgrounds than what I can imagine happening in other parts of the United States. I really thought being "closed off" was a stereotype of New Yorkers, not people out in the West...
  • collegedude12

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    Apr 25, 2015 8:16 PM GMT
    It's funny I'd usually say I'm really outgoing but when it comes to that PDA stuff I guess I can be a little shy. Idk if I prefer one over the other though. My bf is pretty outgoing too but things like pda hes really shy about lol. I kinda love it when he gets shy about stuff. and maybe shy isnt the right word for it but i can tell when hes sorta embarrassed about somethin or he feels kinda vulnerable and all that shit. I think its mad cute lol
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    Apr 25, 2015 9:21 PM GMT
    All I can think of is what my sister, newly separated and en route to divorce, put on her dating profile:

    "sociable is good, gregarious is too much for me."
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    Apr 25, 2015 9:21 PM GMT
    I am shy and socially awkward but I can still be outgoing when I want to...I'm not alien. icon_evil.gif
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    Apr 26, 2015 2:10 AM GMT
    If he's too outgoing and knows everyone, I'd wonder if he had slept with all the guys he met?? Lol JK, well yes and no, it depends on how he comes off. If he acts like he's too good to talk to you or too douchy, then no, not attractive at all. But yeah, I tend to be a little bit introvert and shy and I warm up quickly to people I know well.
  • giodude

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    Apr 26, 2015 8:05 AM GMT
    [cite]collegedude12 said[/cite]It's funny I'd usually say I'm really outgoing but when it comes to that PDA stuff I guess I can be a little shy. Idk if I prefer one over the other though. My bf is pretty outgoing too but things like pda hes really shy about lol. I kinda love it when he gets shy about stuff. [quote]and maybe shy isnt the right word for it but i can tell when hes sorta embarrassed about somethin or he feels kinda vulnerable and all that shit. I think its mad cute lol[/quote]
  • giodude

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    Apr 26, 2015 8:09 AM GMT
    shit i posted the quote before i wrote my message.

    Anyways college dude you've pretty much expressed the concept I was struggling to find the proper words for - vulnerability. That's so attractive to me. Blushing when getting a kiss on the cheek or some cute ass shit like that. I guess it's because opposites attract. I'm sort of an icy person when it comes to attachments. I'll talk to you, but ti doesn't mean I'm attached to you in any way at all. So people who are the exact opposite are really attractive to me. It's fascinating and horrifying at the same time because if you hurt them it'l take a long time to rebuild that trust plus you'll feel like an asshole for hurting a vulnerable person, which sucks to the maximum exponent
  • collegedude12

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    Apr 26, 2015 3:47 PM GMT
    giodude saidshit i posted the quote before i wrote my message.

    Anyways college dude you've pretty much expressed the concept I was struggling to find the proper words for - vulnerability. That's so attractive to me. Blushing when getting a kiss on the cheek or some cute ass shit like that. I guess it's because opposites attract. I'm sort of an icy person when it comes to attachments. I'll talk to you, but ti doesn't mean I'm attached to you in any way at all. So people who are the exact opposite are really attractive to me. It's fascinating and horrifying at the same time because if you hurt them it'l take a long time to rebuild that trust plus you'll feel like an asshole for hurting a vulnerable person, which sucks to the maximum exponent


    Lol yea I love that shit. And i think it is a bit of the opposite's attract thing. even though my bf is outgoing i'm definitely more outgoing lol. and even tho i can be shy on the rare occasion, he's a little more shy than me. so maybe were both in the middle but on opposites sides if that make sense lmao

    as far as attachments go if you mean relationships, you just gotta find the balance. clingy is annoying but it shouldnt be a oneway relationship either. if you mean friendships i'm the sorta the same tho. i'll talk to everyone but if im out with friends or even by myself and i'm talking to a group of people, usually some are more social than others. so if its all goin good after awhile ill try to talk to the people who havent said much almost like it's a challenge lol. some people get really intimidated i guess so i just go and talk to em to show em its all good lol i'm not gonna bite you haha
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    Apr 27, 2015 3:23 PM GMT
    I like friendly, outgoing people; however, I do not like those who have to always be the center of attention.

    I'm ok with shy people if they eventually warm up and become sociale, but if I have to pry words out of you I will eventually give up on trying to establish a rapport.
  • giodude

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    Apr 27, 2015 5:07 PM GMT
    yeah I do put an effort in with shy people but I also get sick of it being a one sided relationship after a while.

    There are two different kinds of shy: shy shy and standoffish type of shy. It's the second one I can't stand. Those are the ones who you have wrench a response out of