Would you have sex with a friend's ex?

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    Apr 25, 2015 9:46 PM GMT
    My first OP in while! ^_^

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    Be honest with yourself...if your friend broke up with their boyfriend, would you sleep with their ex?


    I personally couldn't do it, because I'm a ride or die friend...so if you break up with my friend, you break up with me too icon_lol.gif I don't care how hot the guy is...I wouldn't wanna put that awkwardness in our friendship. I guess I kinda put myself in my friend's shoes in that situation...I'd be hotter than a kettle if I found out my friend and ex fucked...it would probably end the friendship.

    So what do YOU guys think?
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    Apr 25, 2015 9:48 PM GMT
    It depends.
    If my friend broke up with the ex and it's been awhile he's fair game. If the ex was the heart breaker I wouldn't. Unless it was Chris Evans. then I'd fuck him in their old apartment and post the pics on instagram.
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    Apr 25, 2015 9:52 PM GMT
    In general no. But honestly it all boils down to how my friend currently feels about his ex. And even if I knew he was over him, I would still feel the need to ask him if he was okay with it before proceeding.
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    Apr 26, 2015 12:01 AM GMT
    Radd saidIn general no. But honestly it all boils down to how my friend currently feels about his ex. And even if I knew he was over him, I would still feel the need to ask him if he was okay with it before proceeding.

    You're a good friend Scruffy. I really respect you for that answer.
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    Apr 26, 2015 12:06 AM GMT
    Yes very good answer.
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    Apr 26, 2015 12:31 AM GMT
    BlackCat saidMy first OP in while! ^_^

    Let's see how many sluts we have on here! icon_lol.gif

    Be honest with yourself...if your friend broke up with their boyfriend, would you sleep with their ex?


    I personally couldn't do it, because I'm a ride or die friend...so if you break up with my friend, you break up with me too icon_lol.gif I don't care how hot the guy is...I wouldn't wanna put that awkwardness in our friendship. I guess I kinda put myself in my friend's shoes in that situation...I'd be hotter than a kettle if I found out my friend and ex fucked...it would probably end the friendship.

    So what do YOU guys think?


    Should things be at a point within oneself and with one's friends to ever consider such questions?
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    Apr 26, 2015 12:48 AM GMT
    BlackCat saidMy first OP in while! ^_^

    Let's see how many sluts we have on here! icon_lol.gif

    Be honest with yourself...if your friend broke up with their boyfriend, would you sleep with their ex?


    I personally couldn't do it, because I'm a ride or die friend...so if you break up with my friend, you break up with me too icon_lol.gif I don't care how hot the guy is...I wouldn't wanna put that awkwardness in our friendship. I guess I kinda put myself in my friend's shoes in that situation...I'd be hotter than a kettle if I found out my friend and ex fucked...it would probably end the friendship.

    So what do YOU guys think?


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    Apr 26, 2015 1:02 AM GMT
    BC, if you have the capacity to induce lame ass internet responses from me, which others on RJ can't even get from me, it still says something about you, though rather minor on a scale of people that may be able to motivate or energize me to post. (When I do begin to post here, it's apart of a process that eventually zaps the life force out of me and kills me eventually since I'm giving it all and never as much getting anything in return but just shy readers...). So take that for what you will and be committed to the good and you may be noticed and rewarded for it. I'm reacting to this thread, and thus to you, and a "Mr. Right" can do the same eventually. Do whatever compromises your ability to get "Mr. Right" and you'll simply never have him.
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    Apr 26, 2015 2:31 AM GMT
    Unnamed6 saidBC, if you have the capacity to induce lame ass internet responses from me, which others on RJ can't even get from me, it still says something about you, though rather minor on a scale of people that may be able to motivate or energize me to post. (When I do begin to post here, it's apart of a process that eventually zaps the life force out of me and kills me eventually since I'm giving it all and never as much getting anything in return but just shy readers...). So take that for what you will and be committed to the good and you may be noticed and rewarded for it. I'm reacting to this thread, and thus to you, and a "Mr. Right" can do the same eventually. Do whatever compromises your ability to get "Mr. Right" and you'll simply never have him.


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    Apr 26, 2015 2:42 AM GMT
    I always show the guys I'm dating to my friends as a form of background check. So if they have any reservations they have the chance to manifest before anything happens.
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    Apr 26, 2015 2:45 AM GMT
    bachian saidI always show the guys I'm dating to my friends as a form of background check. So if they have any reservations they have the chance to manifest before anything happens.


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    Apr 26, 2015 2:48 AM GMT
    That's not something I would do, as I value friendship a lot.
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    Apr 26, 2015 3:02 AM GMT
    This happened to a friend of mine....I told her, had that been me in your situation, I probably would've tried to choke that bitch with the yellow pages icon_lol.gif I just don't get the disloyalty...
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    Apr 26, 2015 3:51 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Radd saidIn general no. But honestly it all boils down to how my friend currently feels about his ex. And even if I knew he was over him, I would still feel the need to ask him if he was okay with it before proceeding.

    You're a good friend Scruffy. I really respect you for that answer.


    Thank you. One think I might add though is oftentimes people don't want to admit they still have feelings for their exes, so you have to really watch their body language if it gets down to asking this question. Personally, I would ask them, then wait a couple of weeks and see if they acted any differently towards me. If they stop calling or wanting to hang out, they're most likely feeling resentment or jealousy but aren't able to express it. And in that case I would tell them I changed my mind.
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    Apr 26, 2015 3:55 AM GMT
    Radd saidIn general no. But honestly it all boils down to how my friend currently feels about his ex. And even if I knew he was over him, I would still feel the need to ask him if he was okay with it before proceeding.


    I agree with you and I'll add that even if you do ask your friend for permission and they say yes (which they most likely will to show they "don't have feelings still") you need to be careful because it's likely to be very passive aggressive from that point on.
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    Apr 26, 2015 4:09 AM GMT
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    Radd saidIn general no. But honestly it all boils down to how my friend currently feels about his ex. And even if I knew he was over him, I would still feel the need to ask him if he was okay with it before proceeding.


    I agree with you and I'll add that even if you do ask your friend for permission and they say yes (which they most likely will to show they "don't have feelings still") you need to be careful because it's likely to be very passive aggressive from that point on.


    Yup. See my post above yours.
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    Apr 26, 2015 4:30 AM GMT
    no and I would hate to be in a situation where all of my friends and me have dated each other at one point
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    Apr 26, 2015 4:32 AM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidno and I would hate to be in a situation where all of my friends and me have dated each other at one point


    So you're saying you don't want to be a lesbian. icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 26, 2015 4:34 AM GMT
    Radd said
    secondstartotheright saidno and I would hate to be in a situation where all of my friends and me have dated each other at one point


    So you're saying you don't want to be a lesbian. icon_razz.gif


    is that what lesbians do ?
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    Apr 26, 2015 4:44 AM GMT
    secondstartotheright said
    Radd said
    secondstartotheright saidno and I would hate to be in a situation where all of my friends and me have dated each other at one point


    So you're saying you don't want to be a lesbian. icon_razz.gif


    is that what lesbians do ?


    Oh yeah. It's very common for a group of girls to have dated everyone in their circle of friends.
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    Apr 26, 2015 4:51 AM GMT
    Radd said
    secondstartotheright said
    Radd said
    secondstartotheright saidno and I would hate to be in a situation where all of my friends and me have dated each other at one point


    So you're saying you don't want to be a lesbian. icon_razz.gif


    is that what lesbians do ?


    Oh yeah. It's very common for a group of girls to have dated everyone in their circle of friends.


    as my grandmother would have said...oy vey

    did you know the collective noun for a group of lesbians is ..
    a tough....a tough of lesbians

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    Apr 26, 2015 5:10 AM GMT
    secondstartotheright said
    Radd said
    secondstartotheright said
    Radd said
    secondstartotheright saidno and I would hate to be in a situation where all of my friends and me have dated each other at one point


    So you're saying you don't want to be a lesbian. icon_razz.gif


    is that what lesbians do ?


    Oh yeah. It's very common for a group of girls to have dated everyone in their circle of friends.


    as my grandmother would have said...oy vey

    did you know the collective noun for a group of lesbians is ..
    a tough....a tough of lesbians

    scissor-me-timbers-o.gif


    No, but you can rest assured I will be throwing my new-found term around my lesbian friends starting bright and early tomorrow morning! LOL
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    Apr 26, 2015 5:14 AM GMT
    Unless the specifically stated not to, then yes!!!icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 26, 2015 3:00 PM GMT
    Radd saidIn general no. But honestly it all boils down to how my friend currently feels about his ex. And even if I knew he was over him, I would still feel the need to ask him if he was okay with it before proceeding.


    You definitely are a good and caring bloke to be mate with .
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    Apr 26, 2015 3:03 PM GMT
    Never alone. But I might consider a three-some with my friend and his ex.