Army Reserve sergeant is legally married while at work, but not at home

  • metta

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    Apr 26, 2015 8:18 AM GMT
    Army Reserve sergeant is legally married while at work, but not at home


    "Thom Kostura and his husband take lots of road trips, and each time they cross a state line they make a game of declaring “We’re married!” or “We’re not married!” – depending on whether the state recognizes same-sex marriage.

    “I wish we could register for gifts every time we cross a state line,” Kostura cracks.

    A similar situation occurs every time Sgt. 1st Class Ijpe deKoe leaves the Millington, Tennessee, base where he serves in the Army Reserve. On base, his marriage to Kostura is recognized. At home in Memphis, it isn’t."

    http://www.lgbtqnation.com/2015/04/army-reserve-sergeant-is-legally-married-while-at-work-but-not-at-home/
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    Apr 27, 2015 12:47 PM GMT
    This happens to a lot of folks. On a federal level, my marriage is legal, but on a state level here in Texas it isn't (got married in Illinois). It's a pretty messed up system.
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    Apr 27, 2015 4:04 PM GMT
    "DeKoe and Kostura met as teenagers working as Boy Scout camp counselors."

    I stopped reading there and drifted off into an XXX fantasy.

    I will face this next week after I'm married in DC. Louisiana doesn't recognize same sex marriage either. There are many of us in the same boat.
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    Apr 27, 2015 4:54 PM GMT
    *And* this is why Canada regulates marriage on the *Federal* level - the provinces don't have a say.

    It's an all or nothing system - but at least it's geographically consistent.

    Once the Federal Government ruled in favour of Gay Marriage - it became legal from one end of the country to the other...so much easier.

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    Apr 28, 2015 1:58 AM GMT
    The source of the free health care insurance for the spouse is the only thing that really matters. Right?
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    Apr 28, 2015 3:22 AM GMT
    Alpha13 saidThe source of the free health care insurance for the spouse is the only thing that really matters. Right?


    If it is a benefit extended to straight couples, why not to gay? Also, there are many other legal status that marriage affords couples that should not be denied gay couples - hospital visitation for one.
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    Apr 28, 2015 3:25 AM GMT
    Doctor9 said*And* this is why Canada regulates marriage on the *Federal* level - the provinces don't have a say.

    It's an all or nothing system - but at least it's geographically consistent.

    Once the Federal Government ruled in favour of Gay Marriage - it became legal from one end of the country to the other...so much easier.

    Doctor9


    And once the US Supreme Court rules that denying marriage and all it's inherent benefits to gays is unconstitutional it will be legal throughout the entire US.
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    Apr 28, 2015 7:30 AM GMT
    Who cares, such a boring story. They should change their lives and get an interesting career. That's the obstacle they need to overcome.