Does the gay community judge interracial couples?

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    Apr 26, 2015 10:03 PM GMT
    I'm just curious if this is true or not? Do you think interracial relationships are common? Does the gay community judge the couple when they are seen in public, like straight people and interracial hetero couples?
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    Apr 26, 2015 10:06 PM GMT
    Stereotypically speaking, Yes.

    I don't think I need to elaborate.

    Not so common relationships such as Asian + Black, far less judging. Only thing they might judge on is, who's the top and who's the bottom.
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 26, 2015 10:15 PM GMT
    I'm always in an interracial relationship because there are very few mixed persons. Whether I'm with a black or white guy, I have not been judged.

    Yes, sometimes my friends make racial comments, in a joking manner. You know, normal guys talking sh*t about other guys, but nothing actually racist.

    Gays have uniformly approved of my relationships.

    I see judgment in the gay community, but it's usually geared against (1) the old and (2) the ugly. Now THAT will get you judgment. Be old and ugly and your boyfriend old and ugly, you will be laughed at behind your back. Not by me, but it happens.

    Oh, and being overweight isn't much better in gay culture.

    I'm neither old, ugly nor fat, so I haven't been discriminated against. But the gay culture has a huge problem with each of those issues. Not every gay, of course, but as a 'culture', most definitely.
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    Apr 26, 2015 10:19 PM GMT
    ktor saidI'm just curious if this is true or not? Do you think interracial relationships are common? Does the gay community judge the couple when they are seen in public?

    Well I know we and our friends don't. We just had lunch yesterday with an interracial couple (African-American & White Italian). Last Saturday I took photos of a wedding between a White Anglo guy and a Japanese/Polynesian guy, then went to their wedding dinner. (The outdoor wedding featured Polynesian music & authentic native dancers, BTW, just wonderful) Both couples have been friends of ours for years. I see this all around our community, and if it draws critical attention from others I'm not aware of it.

    Now how common it is I can't guess, because I wouldn't know what criteria to use. Based on demographics? I don't know those basic numbers. And how do you account for human attraction & love? Are there numbers to compare with straight mixed couples? As a percentage of straight singles vs. gay? I guess it would differ by community, as well, for both straights & gays. With places like Little Rock, Arkansas (where I lived 3 years) being among the more resistant to the concept.
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    Apr 26, 2015 10:19 PM GMT
    Judgment only happens when one of the partners is white. In rest of the cases, no one gives a shit.
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    Apr 26, 2015 10:20 PM GMT
    I guess it all depends on where you live. Here in Dallas, I know 3 married gay couples whom are African American and White. They are about as well adjusted as all the other couples I know. I guess it's up to the individual, if they are socially advanced or still living in the dark ages. I like to think we marry our mates in life due to something much deeper than age, color or nationality.
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    Apr 26, 2015 10:29 PM GMT
    There will always be assholes who judge others just to feel better about their own miserable existence. Gay or straight. Race, color of your skin, hair, age, weight, clothes, everything is fair game. Ignoring them is the best weapon, because they crave attention.
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    Apr 26, 2015 10:54 PM GMT
    A lot of people correlate interracial dating with self hatred lol. To them I say they're full of thselves to ONLY want to date people of their own race/background.
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    Apr 27, 2015 9:26 PM GMT
    I think that some people do judge, some are neutral and some don't care. There will always be haters trying to pass *moral judgments or whatever to fulfill their *sad life! Just be like Taylor Swift and ignore the haters! icon_lol.gifAnd furthermore, if you're a hater on interracial dating, then it's sad because no guys want to date someone who's mean and just hating on people all the time.
  • secondstartot...

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    Apr 27, 2015 9:57 PM GMT
    as a rule " the gay community " judges everything !
  • Suetonius

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    Apr 27, 2015 10:26 PM GMT
    I would guess most of the country (at least the North) is evolving on how inter-racial relationships are viewed. In major urban centers - SF, NYC, Chicago - I don't think there is much reaction. In SF, I see more white-black gay couples than straight white-black couples. It seems the gay community is more accepting - after all we have seen a lot of prejudice against us.
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 27, 2015 10:35 PM GMT
    A lot of guys need to be judgmental about others' choices in order to feel good about themselves. Usually suggests low self-esteem and insecurity. There was a giant thread a week ago about monogamy in a relationship. The vitriol was amazing and some insisted their monogamy was superior to any other form of loving partnership. I've also been a part of the younger/older threads when some, many felt certain that their opinion on the subject was superior to the judgement of the two involved.

    So just get used to it. There are a lot of small-minded people out there that need to put others down in order to feel good about themselves. They know nothing about the individuals or what their needs and interests are but they feel superior by saying whatever choices they choose for themselves are the right choices. They are ignorant. That isn't to say there aren't poor choices or preferences-- just that the need to judge others comes from stupidity and insecurity. Happy people don't feel the need to put others down.
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    Apr 27, 2015 10:55 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidas a rule " the gay community " judges everything !


    That is Truth
  • bobbobbob

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    Apr 27, 2015 11:40 PM GMT
    ^^^^ I agree with Destinharbor on this. In public it's pretty easy to spot the people who are acting out their own judgmental natures. There's never just two of them and usually they resort to whispering even though they might be 30 or more feet away in a restaurant.

    As for the gays who're so judgmental about monogamy... have you ever noticed how many of them are single, congregate like rubber necking hens and usually rate less than a on the universal fuckability chart? For them it's a rationalization of their lot in life by supposing themselves superior to people actually participating in the dating pool.

    There are some who just think they are too good to join in the dating pool. There was a thread in here just a week or so ago about a guy feeling he'd compromised his reputation by fucking a guy who wasn't as pretty as he thought he was worthy of... THAT is just plain immaturity... and some people never outgrow it.

    From my experiences, I don't think gays today are any more judgmental about interracial dating than heteros and probably less so. I'm the father of a mixed race son and have dealt with it since the 1970s, witnessing firsthand the changes in society about race. The most I get from gays now about it when they meet my son is curiosity about how the hell an openly gay man ended up with a other-than-white son and another son (stepson really) who's totally white.

    To illustrate the changes over the years....
    Being married to a black woman in the South in 1969 was a challenge. My father's patriarchal old money southern family barely tolerated us only when my father was present.

    In 1978 my cousins would fib to their families saying they were going to either Ft Walton Beach or Gulf Shores when they were coming to Pensacola to visit with me, my lover and our sons.

    In 1998 the children of my cousins were regular guests either at my house or with my son or step son without lying to their parents about it.

    In 2015 they all are excited anytime I make a trip back to central Alabama with my boys and the grandkids. Now I'm the eldest male surviving of my father's family I'm given a degree of warm respect - in spite of being gay and in spite of having married an other-than-white woman that was unthinkable even thirty years ago.

    Things ARE definitely getting better.

    Remember the words of Senator Jay Bulworth on solving racism...
    All we need is a voluntary, free-spirited, open-ended program of procreative racial deconstruction. Everybody just has to keep fucking everybody until they're all the same color.
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 27, 2015 11:49 PM GMT
    ^^Bob3 calls people "queer" and "faggot." He also is transphobic, homophobic and misogynistic.

    Don't listen to his advice on ANYTHING when it comes to morality or social mores. He has none.icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 27, 2015 11:51 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidas a rule " the gay community " judges everything !

    True. But it depends on what's being judged - my shoes or my husband. And if you negatively judge an interracial couple, whether they're gay or straight, you're no friend of ours.

    And I'm really quite serious about that. We were friends with another gay couple. Went to Key West with them, did all kinds of stuff together. Until one of them started spouting racial slurs about African-Americans. WTF?

    I told my husband I wouldn't tolerate that. We were done with them. He agreed. We haven't seen them in nearly 2 years.
  • Svnw688

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    Apr 27, 2015 11:57 PM GMT
    Bob3's theory for judging LGBT persons as "queers"

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4039087?forumpage=1
  • bobbobbob

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    Apr 28, 2015 1:14 AM GMT
    Svnw688 saidBob3's theory for judging LGBT persons as "queers"

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4039087?forumpage=1


    Heck. I'll save people the trouble of going to the link. Heres what this pissy little argumentative ballerina queen is making a fuss about.

    Go read what the subject of my remark had said to others and how he acted in general and you'll get the full context.

    If you like, contact me me via mail and I'll forward the email messages he sent to me.

    bobbobbob saidIt appears the the psychotic little queer known AnOriginal has decided to go stealth mode and become a hidden member. That makes sense.

    Ignored.
  • bobbobbob

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    Apr 28, 2015 1:30 AM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    Art_Deco said
    secondstartotheright saidas a rule " the gay community " judges everything !

    True. But it depends on what's being judged


    Quite right Kolonel KooKoo.

    Art_Deco's theory for judging morbid obesity in your community

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/461484


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    Apr 28, 2015 1:30 AM GMT
    I can't imagine why that would matter to anyone. I'm always happy to see anyone in love, regardless of who they are.
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    Apr 28, 2015 1:36 AM GMT
    Svnw688 saidBob3's theory for judging LGBT persons as "queers"

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4039087?forumpage=1

    Thanks for reminding us that bobbobbob calls gays queers & faggots. What an obvious plant from the religious right.

    We expect to get some of them here, since this is a very large gay site. Now we know bobbobbob is one of those plants. icon_biggrin.gif
  • bobbobbob

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    Apr 28, 2015 1:41 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Svnw688 saidBob3's theory for judging LGBT persons as "queers"

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4039087?forumpage=1

    Thanks for reminding us that bobbobbob calls gays queers & faggots. What an obvious plant from the religious right.

    We expect to get some of them here, since this is a very large gay site. Now we know bobbobbob is one of those plants. icon_biggrin.gif


    Okay nasty fat ass lying queen... now that you've had a tutorial on using the search option... find where I've used the word "faggot" other than here on this comment.... and put up some proof I'm a plant from the religious right....


    Just two more of her nasty fat ass lies...

    What a pathetic human she is.
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    Apr 28, 2015 1:42 AM GMT
    Now after southbeach1500 and bobbobbob tried to derail this gay thread, let's get back on topic.

    As I stated above, I don't think the gay community judges interracial couples. Rather, I think the community is very accepting.

    At least that is my subjective observation. If it is different elsewhere I can't say. I would be disappointed if it was not the same.
  • bobbobbob

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    Apr 28, 2015 1:47 AM GMT
    Nuu unnn Biotch.... YOU attacked me with your lies on this thread and I called your nasty lying queenie fat ass out for it.

    Put up some proof for your words or admit that you are just a nasty fat ass liar.

  • Svnw688

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    Apr 28, 2015 3:25 AM GMT
    Bob3 has outed himself as a known bigot, he calls gay men "queers" and "faggot." He'll call you "sissy" too and gender stereotype as well ("ballerina" as if it's a pejorative for a male).

    One piece of evidence of many:

    It appears the the psychotic little queer known AnOriginal has decided to go stealth mode and become a hidden member. That makes sense.

    Ignored.


    Source: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4039087?forumpage=1

    Bob3 is NOT a gay rights advocate. He is a bigot insofar that he exists, and is likely a sock account of SouthBeach.icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif