Being jerked around or not?

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    Apr 28, 2015 2:05 AM GMT
    Over the last few months I've been talking to a guy who is married (I know, that is wrong) and we have great conversations. We met and had a few beers and hit it off. The problem is, he always has some excuse for not meeting again, visitors from out of town, new employee from out of town living with them, daughter getting married. The list just goes on and on. I know I should just tell him to have a good life and go on with my own life. It's hard. I'm old and he is the same age and we really get along great. Any suggestions??
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    Apr 28, 2015 2:08 AM GMT
    Uh don't have any expectations, and don't heavily invest into something that might give you minor return.

    You live yours, he lives his. If you ended up meeting up again, more power to you guys. If not, what's the big deal? Besides, he has a family, so that will create a lot more responsibilities.
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    Apr 28, 2015 2:16 AM GMT
    Among his priorities you're way down at the bottom. You have to decide for yourself whether that is enough.
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    Apr 28, 2015 2:17 AM GMT
    You'll be hurt unless you accept the limits of the relationship.
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    Apr 28, 2015 9:24 PM GMT
    He's just not that into you. Move on. Sorry icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 28, 2015 9:43 PM GMT
    Thanks guys. I think it probably won't amount to anything. I'm just gonna enjoy the conversations while they last.icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 28, 2015 10:49 PM GMT
    He's either too busy or no longer interested. That being said, I think if a guy is truly interested he will find a way.
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    Apr 28, 2015 11:39 PM GMT
    He's married. It will always make you a 2nd priority behind his wife/family, at best, unfortunately. And if his wife doesn't know, you will be a 3rd priority behind his wife/family AND keeping his secret. I'm sorry man. I ended a friendship for just this reason because I found out he was in a relationship but wanting to have a fwb with me on the side. If you're just looking for sex, have at it. But I get the feeling you're wanting more. Invest your efforts in someone who is willing to invest more in you.
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    Apr 29, 2015 12:34 AM GMT
    I'd rather be jerked off than jerked around.
  • whytehot

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    Apr 29, 2015 12:41 AM GMT
    So much pathetic. What do you expect? "Sorry princess, I can't attend your wedding because I have to go hook-up with some guy I've been cheating on your mother with"
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    Apr 29, 2015 12:44 AM GMT
    woodfordr saidHe's married. It will always make you a 2nd priority behind his wife/family, at best, unfortunately. And if his wife doesn't know, you will be a 3rd priority behind his wife/family AND keeping his secret. I'm sorry man. I ended a friendship for just this reason because I found out he was in a relationship but wanting to have a fwb with me on the side. If you're just looking for sex, have at it. But I get the feeling you're wanting more. Invest your efforts in someone who is willing to invest more in you.


    Thanks and you are correct. I would like more out of this. I know it won't ever happen but it's so hard to find someone who is willing to invest more in me. When you get to be my age it's almost impossible. I was hoping for sex but that seems more and more like a fantasy. He's not even talking much anymore. So I know the end is near.
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    Apr 29, 2015 12:47 AM GMT
    whytehot saidSo much pathetic. What do you expect? "Sorry princess, I can't attend your wedding because I have to go hook-up with some guy I've been cheating on your mother with"


    Uh, HELLO asshole, he hasn't cheated on anybody yet. At least not with me. We talk and had a few beers. You are such a shithead sanctimonious prick. icon_evil.gif
  • dilfforrent

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    Apr 29, 2015 1:25 AM GMT
    If it's not cheating, why do you say in your very first post "I know, that is wrong". If he met you because he's bi or gay, and his wife doesn't know, it's cheating. Or does only full penetration count? icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 29, 2015 1:35 AM GMT
    dilfforrent saidIf it's not cheating, why do you say in your very first post "I know, that is wrong". If he met you because he's bi or gay, and his wife doesn't know, it's cheating. Or does only full penetration count? icon_lol.gif


    I said it was wrong because it is wrong. I know that and I admit it's never a good idea to get involved with a married man. Some of you guys are so pious and never ever do any thing wrong. You must be so proud of yourselves.
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    Apr 30, 2015 1:32 AM GMT
    flguy57 said
    whytehot saidSo much pathetic. What do you expect? "Sorry princess, I can't attend your wedding because I have to go hook-up with some guy I've been cheating on your mother with"


    Uh, HELLO asshole, he hasn't cheated on anybody yet. At least not with me. We talk and had a few beers. You are such a shithead sanctimonious prick. icon_evil.gif

    He certainly is. Put him on Ignore like everyone else has.
  • doraemonlei

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    Apr 30, 2015 3:04 AM GMT
    the point is the guy is MARRIED ! dont expect anything from this kinda so called MARRIED GAY GUYS or some I AM BI AND I WILL HAVE A GF/WIFE BUT DONT MIND FUCKING AROUND WITH BOYS guys
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    Apr 30, 2015 3:14 AM GMT
    flguy57 said
    whytehot saidSo much pathetic. What do you expect? "Sorry princess, I can't attend your wedding because I have to go hook-up with some guy I've been cheating on your mother with"


    Uh, HELLO asshole, he hasn't cheated on anybody yet. At least not with me. We talk and had a few beers. You are such a shithead sanctimonious prick. icon_evil.gif


    Yes, but he's absolutely right though.