Herzberg's Motivation-Hygiene Theory states that hygiene factors (such as company policies, good supervision, and safe and pleasant working conditions) will not motivate, but their absence will make staff unsatisfied.

Motivation factors (such as achievement, work, responsibility, and advancement) will motivate, but only if hygiene factors are in place.

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Hygiene factors such as family policies (and politics), good supervision from the Parents-in-Law--and possibly the Grandparents-in-Law--and safe and pleasant living conditions will not motivate your lover/husband, but their absence will make him unsatisfied with you.

Motivation factors such as achievement by being with you, work done in the relationship, responsibility delegated in the relationship, and advancement because of the relationship will motivate but only if hygiene factors are in place.