Lost without love?

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    Apr 29, 2015 2:17 PM GMT
    Going through a moment where I'm wanting love wherever it will come from. Do you find that loneliness or lack of love can distort what you'd typically want romantically? Do your tastes change? Does your confidence or attitude change? How common or at all normal if you crave things you wouldn't normally out of longing and growing desire?
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    Apr 30, 2015 12:38 AM GMT
    Ever wonder why single men over 30 have at least one dog?
    Or two dirt bikes and a jet-ski.
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    Apr 30, 2015 1:15 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidEver wonder why single men over 30 have at least one dog?
    Or two dirt bikes and a jet-ski.
    Or four mountain bikes and a couple "straight" FWB's?
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    Apr 30, 2015 1:18 AM GMT
    mrbau saidGoing through a moment where I'm wanting love wherever it will come from. Do you find that loneliness or lack of love can distort what you'd typically want romantically? Do your tastes change? Does your confidence or attitude change? How common or at all normal if you crave things you wouldn't normally out of longing and growing desire?


    Learn to love yourself first. Find contentment in yourself. Develop a couple good healthy friendships...another form of love. Then, you will be better ready for what comes.
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    Apr 30, 2015 6:39 AM GMT
    According to Buddhism, dukkha (pain/suffering, etc) arises from desire.
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    Apr 30, 2015 8:35 AM GMT
    LionEyes said
    mrbau saidGoing through a moment where I'm wanting love wherever it will come from. Do you find that loneliness or lack of love can distort what you'd typically want romantically? Do your tastes change? Does your confidence or attitude change? How common or at all normal if you crave things you wouldn't normally out of longing and growing desire?


    That's a LOT of questions in one sit mate! LOL I went to your profile and I see you have 0 pics but I do know you're 30 (or so you say) and live in Australia. Typically by 30 you should had at least had one or more romantic relationships already and you should had learn from them (either they or your mistakes) that and being single for awhile should form a solid base on knowing yourself and what you want and what you don't want about you and other men.

    I've had several romantic relationships throughout my life, some very short some long but the majority of my life I've been single and the older you get and the more comfortable you get into your own skin you stop being obsessed about having a boyfriend.

    If you look for a boyfriend in a weak emotional estate that being needy you're already doomed for failure. If you're not happy and comfortable with yourself you're going to end up obsessing about a man that will enjoy the attention but when you become too much he'll dump you. You can't enter into a relationship from a position of disadvantage that applies for everything in life. A partner should be someone to complement your life NOT be your life, it's a relationship where both of you will bring 100% to the table.

    Ask yourself, are you REALLY ready for a relationship?


    You should really consider being a therapist. When I look at your picture and read the comment, I imagine the most soothing voice that has this undertone saying. " It's gonna be okay "

    weird......