Boyfriend still loves his ex

  • yuki

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    Apr 29, 2015 9:28 PM GMT
    Been dating my bf for 3.5 (official 2.5 months). We met not so long after he broke up with his ex, who cheated on him. He's still friends with his ex. I only get to see him on the weekend so sometimes he spends time with his ex when I'm not around. He told me he still loves his ex but he loves me more and wants to be with me. He said he wants to be friend with his ex but doesn't really know where the ex stands in his life at this point. He said he needs time to really get over him. His ex wants to get back together but he doesn't.

    I completely trust him. I know for sure he won't cheat on me. I want to help him with this issue. He's conflicted and doesn't know what to do. He feels bad talking about his ex to me but he wants me to know everything (ie, when he's with his ex and what they're doing). I understand where he's coming from but I can't only take so much of this. I don't want to wait for a long time for him to completely get over his ex, but I love him so much. I'm not jealous at all that he hangs out with his ex. I just want to help him because he said he needs help getting over his ex but doesn't know how to.

    any advice is appreciated. Thanks
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    Apr 29, 2015 9:45 PM GMT
    yuki said... I completely trust him. I know for sure he won't cheat on me. I want to help him with this issue. He's conflicted and doesn't know what to do. He feels bad talking about his ex to me but he wants me to know everything...


    -dont trust him
    -you really cant help him get over his X, its something he he has to do himself. If you want to help him tell him to get back together with his X.

    i would suggest you not get emotionally attached to him. I would continue to date other men.
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    Apr 30, 2015 12:21 AM GMT
    But.
    But.
    But.
    But.
    But.
    icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gifnothing we say is going change your mind about him--you Wuv him.
    He's got options, you should too?
    Maybe download a phone app or two; turn the notification to max volume--fun times.
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    Apr 30, 2015 12:28 AM GMT
    Different opinion -

    Maybe he does not need to "get over" his ex to love you. Lots of people continue to love their ex's - just not in a sexual way. That should not affect you unless he is very involved with his ex, to the exclusion of you.

    If he is not having (or going to have) sex with his ex, what should it matter?
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    Apr 30, 2015 2:16 AM GMT
    yuki saidBoyfriend still loves his ex
    Maybe his ex is hotter than you, and it took dating you for him to figure that out.
  • doraemonlei

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    Apr 30, 2015 2:52 AM GMT
    let me say just give it to time, nothing is going to be helpful at the monent since ur bf still wanna hang out with his ex and honestly when u r totally moved on from someone that you used 2 love ,you WONT feel like having any connection with the person,you dont care and you dont wanna know whats going on with the person .I know it is really hard 4 both of u ,but generally time will give U the answer.
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    Apr 30, 2015 1:44 PM GMT
    If he's still in love with his ex, it's only a matter of time before he goes back to him if the situation is right. That being said, there's nothing wrong with having a platonic, nonsexual friendship with an ex if that's really what it is. I remain good friends with my ex's, and I'm certain that those friendships will never regress to non-platonic, sexual relationships.

  • May 02, 2015 8:21 AM GMT
    I agree with the guys above who suggested to leave it. I was seeing a guy who told me he recently got out of a 2 year relationship. I told him to sort his own shit out before coming to see me. We went on a date prematurely - he told me he wanted to date me etc. However, he always got nervous when anything that revolved around his ex popped up. When his ex texted him, he immediately became cold and distant.

    It just wouldn't work in the long run if they are not properly single and cannot devote their whole dating life to you and YOUR relationship.
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    May 02, 2015 8:29 AM GMT
    Be careful

    You might just be rebound ... icon_sad.gif
  • CX838

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    May 02, 2015 8:41 AM GMT
    Men always got excuses... That's why we are here to talk about.