I Came Out To Someone For The First Time

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    Apr 30, 2015 9:38 PM GMT
    So I finally came out to someone, after years of knowing I'm gay. It was nerve wracking to just say it, but I did and well she was fine with it. I knew she would be, but it's so nice to actually feel like nothing changed between us. Also, it's actually such a great feeling to be able to talk to someone about the guys that I like or think are cute (and I mean talk in person and not just online). I feel liberated in a way that I didn't know was possible.

    I just wanted to post this and share some positivity today icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 30, 2015 11:31 PM GMT
    Being open frees you and that is a wonderful feeling. I'm happy that you are feeling well about coming out to someone.
  • Destinharbor

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    May 01, 2015 12:04 AM GMT
    Congrats, man. It's surprising isn't it? Like a terrible, suffocating thing has been taken away. Keep going. Don't stop with one. I don't know your circumstances but life as an out man is your goal. The sooner the healthier.
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    May 01, 2015 12:05 AM GMT
    Soon everyone will know, so u wont even have to "come out" anymore because ur friend told half the town. Congrats on coming out!
  • mizu5

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    May 01, 2015 12:12 AM GMT
    congrats!
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    May 01, 2015 1:43 AM GMT
    good for you, it does get better, and you're now out of the starting gate....keep looking forward my man....

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    May 01, 2015 1:59 AM GMT
    I've told I think 2 or 3 people in my life who I was good friends with, and they all reacted awkwardly. Maybe it depends who you tell I guess, but for me anytime I've told someone I was into guys or alluded to it it never went well. Glad you're happy though.

    Also I weirdly have no desire to talk to girls about guys, I find it strange.
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    May 01, 2015 2:28 AM GMT
    The first time is the most difficult. There will be tough times ahead, but be reassured, the first is the worst.
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    May 01, 2015 2:51 AM GMT
    Thanks for all the messages guys. I'm sure that she won't tell anyone. I told her because we're really close and I trusted her. It wasn't to talk about guys or anything, I just wanted to feel free and open. It is really nice to be open about it. I envy all you completely out guys.
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    May 01, 2015 2:53 AM GMT
    Good for you.
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    May 01, 2015 3:26 AM GMT
    nice man - congrats
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    May 01, 2015 3:39 AM GMT
    Congrats!!

    It's always better when your first time coming out to someone is favorable and accepted. Makes the next time go easier.

    Freeing yourself of the burden of your closet is amazing... I wish i had done it years ago.

    One down... Best of luck with whomever you tell next.
  • wellwell

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    May 01, 2015 4:48 AM GMT
    I guess I'm lucky; I never spent any time "in."
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    May 01, 2015 4:51 AM GMT
    Awesome.
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    May 01, 2015 5:22 AM GMT
    Sweet!
    I waited until after I graduated from high school, then (with SERIOUS nerves) told five of my closest friends one by one. Some I'd known since before I could talk. Others I'd met while the backyard wrestling fed I was in was going. I went five for five! Every last one of them was like, "Yeah, and...?" when I said Those Words. Nothing's changed between me & any of them, even a tad. If anything we're even better friends than before.

    This one friend is always correcting me when I talk about something going on and apologize for bringing my "gay issues" to him. Every time he goes, "They're RUSS issues. And Russ is my friend. Cut that shit out." This from a guy who's a frat boy at UK and who you'd think at first was just another Greek-letter douche. WRONG!

    Only during spring break this year did I end up telling somebody the same day we met. These two friends who "know" were chillin' with me at their place and they'd just introduced us. We'd eaten supper and were sitting talking around when one of them said something that made it totally obvious. For a minute I was pissed. Then the dude goes, "So I've been wrestling, and talking shit, with a gay guy for half the afternoon. OK. It's probably not the first time." That was it. Now he's my best friend.

    Nobody else knows, sure as hell not my parents OR bosses.

    SO happy for you man!!!
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    May 01, 2015 5:45 AM GMT
    They always tell. Don't worry!
    It's a good start though. Hopefully, you'll come out to more people who you are close to.
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    May 01, 2015 6:39 AM GMT
    Jinzo saidI Came Out To Someone For The First Time
    What a coincidence...me too!

    But that was like 25 years ago. icon_razz.gif

    Welcome to the rest of your life. It'll be much easier now. icon_biggrin.gif
  • madsexy

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    May 01, 2015 1:35 PM GMT
    To repeat what everyone's already told you . . . CONGRATULATIONS and now you can get on with YOUR life. It will get easier because you are more comfortable with yourself and being yourself. One caution is that it's different telling a man than a woman (and parents/relatives are yet another category) so you may need to gird your loins for telling another guy . . . but if he's a good guy he'll get it.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 01, 2015 4:08 PM GMT
    Hey... awesome! Amazing how seizing the moment with being honest with yourself and disclosing something of this magnitude to someone who you trust... and have it go well can yield so much.

    I hope you can do more, when you are ready and all seems right. Remember, happiness and living a satisfying life is what it is all about.

    Congrats!
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    May 01, 2015 5:32 PM GMT
    Congrats, fellow Westchester guy. ;-)
  • LostSailor

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    May 01, 2015 7:14 PM GMT
    Good for u!
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    May 01, 2015 7:25 PM GMT
    next; introduce the husband at the thanksgiving dinner
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    May 01, 2015 8:47 PM GMT
    Nice, first came out about 3 months ago.
    It's amazing how much you can get worked up / anxious beforehand when the only thing that comes out of it is them say 'Thanks for being open with me', nothing changes and life goes on.icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 01, 2015 8:57 PM GMT
    Congrats man!!
  • n0vate

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    May 01, 2015 11:14 PM GMT
    it is so amazing when you can talk with someone about who you really are. to have that rapport to just speak freely is, as you say, liberating. congratulations on finding someone. icon_smile.gif