"You don't seem single"

  • slowprogress

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    May 01, 2015 2:37 AM GMT
    This happened to me a second time today, someone reacted with incredulity when a friend told him I was single. And it wasn't the flattering "how can a hot guy like you be single? wink wink" kind of reaction. He said that I gave a definitive aura of someone who is hitched, but he couldn't put his finger on what exactly. What might it be?
  • Kjonyou

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    May 01, 2015 3:36 AM GMT
    Hard to say without knowing much about you. Off the top of my head, maybe you dont respond to flirty conversations like married guys are not supposed to do.

    I have never been into flirting, so that kind of back and fourth game has never worked for me. Usually I get "you are so reserved".

    Or could be not looking really desperate like some single men and women I know. All they talk about is finding someone and ask every time if I know anyone. Married guys dont usually go on about that stuff. Not saying all single guys do, but its not uncommon.
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    May 01, 2015 7:25 AM GMT
    The guy was essentially saying that you're attractive. Just go with the flow and say thank you!
  • SilverRRCloud

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    May 01, 2015 8:08 AM GMT
    People have said all kinds of things to my friends, behind my back, so far. I was married with kids? I left my GF pregnant and ran away? All kinds of incredible stories based on their perceptions.

    My friends and I thought that this was all pretty amusing. We shrugged with our shoulders, and moved on.

    People tend to put their own issues into their own perceptions of the others. Not worth your time and trouble.

    SC
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    May 02, 2015 11:28 PM GMT
    Simple answer that has worked for me: 'I'm not, my boyfriend's body is in the trunk of my car'....
  • mybud

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    May 03, 2015 12:17 AM GMT
    He may have meant you seem stable and focused...Take it as a compliment, and move on...
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    May 03, 2015 2:39 PM GMT
    Might be strange wording.
    But if you dont show insecurities like the majority of the public, calm/cool/collected kind of throws people for a loop....and they make assumptions.

    Can relationships make people more stable? Or
    Do stable people have stronger relationships?
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    May 03, 2015 3:10 PM GMT
    Love your use of the word "incredulity". Oh yeah, and HOT BODY.