Can only finish myself off

• dilfforrent
  
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  May 03, 2015 5:06 PM GMT

  It seems as if every time I have sex, I cannot cum while actually having sex (I'm a top). In fact, I begin to lose my erection after topping someone for a while. Conversely, when I finger fuck the guy, I would be rock hard again. My sexual partners have tried everything from blowjobs to handjobs, usually giving up after about half an hour, and never was I able to cum. At the end, it always has to be me jerking off.
  
  Is this because I watch too much porn? I don't exactly watch a lot (maybe once or twice a week). I really wish I could fix this to better my sex life...

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  May 03, 2015 5:34 PM GMT

  most probably, it's mix of your age and kind of medicines you might be taking.

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  May 03, 2015 10:14 PM GMT

  53+Weho.....are you by chance on antidepressants...they are a cunt for climaxing.....and you do have to consider your age and whether you're just plain bored with sex. I'd see an MD, they are usually damn good at diagnosing the problem with no judgemental att.....if it IS a/d then try welbutrin, it sure worked for me.....luck my friend.

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• highforthis
  
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  May 04, 2015 4:57 AM GMT

  I have the exact same issue actually. I really wish I can cum while pounding some guy's ass, but it always comes down to just jerking it, not even him, but me only. Argh!

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  May 04, 2015 5:06 AM GMT

  You need to find hotter guys.

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• Svnw688
  
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  May 04, 2015 5:55 AM GMT

  My opinion is that this is NOT at all related to the amount of porn you do or do not watch.

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• doraemonlei
  
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  May 04, 2015 10:07 AM GMT

  all u need is another person that can make u cum while u are pounding someone. and it is TRUE not ur problem

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• Kjonyou
  
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  May 06, 2015 10:09 AM GMT

  That all depends on how loose the holes are that you are pounding. Are you fucking the town bike? Chances are that seat is really worn out. No one is going to enjoy that rid.

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  May 06, 2015 3:41 PM GMT

  dilfforrent saidIt seems as if every time I have sex, I cannot cum while actually having sex (I'm a top). In fact, I begin to lose my erection after topping someone for a while. Conversely, when I finger fuck the guy, I would be rock hard again. My sexual partners have tried everything from blowjobs to handjobs, usually giving up after about half an hour, and never was I able to cum. At the end, it always has to be me jerking off.
  
  Is this because I watch too much porn? I don't exactly watch a lot (maybe once or twice a week). I really wish I could fix this to better my sex life...

  
  Has this been an issue for a long portion of your life? Some guys only get off by jerking themselves off, except on rare occasions. Maybe this is you. If this is not a long standing issue, what morphic said may also be true, if you also have trouble getting to orgasm just by jerking off. .

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• Destinharbor
  
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  May 06, 2015 4:45 PM GMT

  I've know guys with the same issue. Maybe you've become so accustomed to your own hand and the feedback. Try using a flashlight or one of those devices and see if you can change your pattern. But I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's probably more of an issue to you than your partners. All it ever meant to me was the guy stayed hard forever. Better than premature....

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• Latenight30
  
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  May 06, 2015 5:27 PM GMT

  it's the porn. You and your hand and porn are so a trigger for you, it's the only thing that works.
  Cut back on the porn.

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• Kjonyou
  
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  May 14, 2015 11:07 AM GMT

  It's not porn, its your hand. You have become so accustom to jerking off exactly the way you like it that no one can do it better for you.
  
  According to the sex experts, the way to break that is to start jerking off in ways you are not used to, other hand, play toys, try fucking something for a change.

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  May 14, 2015 12:59 PM GMT

  I have the exact same problem.

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• rnch
  
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  May 14, 2015 3:29 PM GMT

  At lest, at your age, you still CAN get off! Many guys, at your maturity level, cannot (or so I am told).

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• bear4bear
  
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  May 23, 2015 4:29 AM GMT

  kjonyou saidIt's not porn, its your hand. You have become so accustom to jerking off exactly the way you like it that no one can do it better for you. .

  
  
  I agree. I had been single for quite some time, then recently became involved with a guy who's amazing in bed. But I'm so used to my own hand that he can't get me off. Weird how our bodies work. Time to switch hands between dates! LOL

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