Another example of sexual racism

  • Matthew56

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    May 05, 2015 3:26 PM GMT
    So this is an example of sexual racism on another extreme so got a message here from here who according to their profile likes being submissive to black men and has a fetish for black men

    I hate that and it makes me feel like shit/inferior and is another form of sexual racism as I just because I am black become some dirty disgusting fetish
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    May 05, 2015 3:35 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidSo this is an example of sexual racism on another extreme so got a message here from here who according to their profile likes being submissive to black men and has a fetish for black men

    I hate that and it makes me feel like shit/inferior and is another form of sexual racism as I just because I am black become some dirty disgusting fetish

    and I hate that I become a chubby dirty fetish icon_evil.gif
    dude when it comes to sex we are all in some way or another....hopefully someone elses fetish - you can't deny what you are ..just embrace it
  • Matthew56

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    May 05, 2015 3:47 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright said
    Matthew56 saidSo this is an example of sexual racism on another extreme so got a message here from here who according to their profile likes being submissive to black men and has a fetish for black men

    I hate that and it makes me feel like shit/inferior and is another form of sexual racism as I just because I am black become some dirty disgusting fetish

    and I hate that I become a chubby dirty fetish icon_evil.gif
    dude when it comes to sex we are all in some way or another....hopefully someone elses fetish - you can't deny what you are ..just embrace it


    Erm no because anyone of any race can be come or is chubby however until racial surgery becomes a possibility you cannot magically just become any race you want to be
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    May 05, 2015 7:57 PM GMT
    I wish I could be someone's fetish.
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    May 05, 2015 8:11 PM GMT
    I had a really nice looking southern white guy that wanted me to say some very dominate things to him and I did it. I don't see it as racism, some guys have those desires and it's not something I complain about.
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    May 05, 2015 9:11 PM GMT
    Hey, dude is just being honest, he wants what he wants.
  • Matthew56

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    May 06, 2015 7:25 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Jizz_Khalifa said[/cite]Hey, dude is just being honest, he wants what he wants. [/quote

    And how would you like to be seen as some disgusting sexual fetish "the other" it's not like having a muscle fetish which includes men of all races
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    May 06, 2015 7:28 AM GMT
    secondstartotheright said
    Matthew56 saidSo this is an example of sexual racism on another extreme so got a message here from here who according to their profile likes being submissive to black men and has a fetish for black men

    I hate that and it makes me feel like shit/inferior and is another form of sexual racism as I just because I am black become some dirty disgusting fetish


    dude when it comes to sex we are all in some way or another....hopefully someone elses fetish - you can't deny what you are ..just embrace it


    +1
  • bobbobbob

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    May 06, 2015 8:49 AM GMT
    Damn. This isn't a race issue at all. It's a chip on your shoulder issue. I feel sorry for you to be perceiving something so innocuous as you described as being racist. However if you want a good lead on a career, McSharpton is hiring guys like you everyday to find racism in everything from flavors of coffee to people with preferences of one race, none or all.

    And it cuts both ways... 14 years ago I met a hot black guy who was instantly turned off when he found out I'd been married to a black woman and have a mixed race son who's a cop. He was about to get into an explanation and I stopped him. There was no need to try to explain that craziness. There was nothing he could say that would make that crap rational. I just laughed and laughed and laughed about it the rest of the night.

    I still laugh at that dumb fucker every time I see his lonely ass trying to pick up men.

    Lighten up Matthew.

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    May 06, 2015 8:58 AM GMT
    Matthew, I seem to recall you've posted threads along these lines before. As always, I have no idea what you want to hear, and were it anything in particular I wish that you could share that, though I realize life is not usually that simple.

    I do know this is a burden for you which I could never understand, and unfortunately one that is not likely to just go away. I suspect that the inner strength built by refusing to accept unfairness seems little comfort to you at this point.

    But I also trust that that strength, tempered by the same emotional openness and sensitivity that makes your pain possible in the first place, will ultimately lead whatever love you seek to find you, and that you will appreciate each other all the more when that day comes. In the mean time, I hope you can find some solace in the knowledge that not only do this guy's misguided notions not define you, but that you can ultimately decide whose expectations, if anyone's, matter to you.

    I know this probably doesn't help, but it's the best I can do. Don't give up hope.


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  • Matthew56

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    May 06, 2015 10:21 AM GMT
    bobbobbob saidDamn. This isn't a race issue at all. It's a chip on your shoulder issue. I feel sorry for you to be perceiving something so innocuous as you described as being racist. However if you want a good lead on a career, McSharpton is hiring guys like you everyday to find racism in everything from flavors of coffee to people with preferences of one race, none or all.

    And it cuts both ways... 14 years ago I met a hot black guy who was instantly turned off when he found out I'd been married to a black woman and have a mixed race son who's a cop. He was about to get into an explanation and I stopped him. There was no need to try to explain that craziness. There was nothing he could say that would make that crap rational. I just laughed and laughed and laughed about it the rest of the night.

    I still laugh at that dumb fucker every time I see his lonely ass trying to pick up men.

    Lighten up Matthew.



    That is slightly different as black women/white men relationships in hetrosexual relationships tend to be genuine and not have a racial agenda behind it
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    May 06, 2015 10:33 AM GMT
    so it's offensive when somebody says they're not into black guys and it's offensive when somebody says they are into black guys.icon_confused.gif

    Bear in mind that a lot of dating websites are a place where people are perfectly entitled to express their own dirty sexual desires in the hope of, you know, meeting the kind of person they are attracted to and can engage in those activities with. It's not a CV website where people are expected to show a sensible and professional office manner.

    If a user's profile doesn't turn you on, that's fine, but there's not really any need to take up issue with it. Better to move onto somebody that you do like instead of complaining about the ones you don't like.
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    May 06, 2015 11:02 AM GMT
    So you hate it when white guys aren't into you because you're black, and you hate it when white guys are into because YOU ARE black.
    Honestly the way the world runs atm is that any majority race that is into a minority race is more often than not labelled a "fetish", which applies to Blacks, Asians, Hispanic people etc.

    The problem is screaming at you right there, though to be honest everybody has already said it to you at some point.
    THE PROBLEM HERE IS YOU!
    Change your mentality and accept your race because THERE IS NO SURGERY IN THE WORLD that can change your actual race!!

    It's almost like you want a white guy to be into you because you're white!
    Newsflash!! YOU AREN'T WHITE!!
    Stop wishing you could be because wishing ain't going to do anything for you.

    Either save up money and consult some surgeon to see if he can make you appear white (which in all honesty, surgeries like that would probably end up with you looking like a toenail), or short from having the hundreds of thousands of dollars to do that, ACCEPT that you're black and accept that there are going to be people who ACTUALLY LIKE YOU because of your race!

    Whatever you do, stop fishing for sympathy because it's beyond stupid at this point (actually it was beyond stupid even before this point really).

    You can self sabotage every good thing that may come your way and blame it on white people or blame it on your race BUT the only time that will change is when you get your act together and stop complaining about being black.

    Like who cares that you can't help the way you feel any more about you wanting to be white so badly.
    I wish someone would just walk up to my door and give me 10 million dollars.
    It ain't going to fucking happen so get over this stupid repetitive shit.

    Either spend the money to appear white, accept that your black, or go get some professional to help you get over this dumb fucking crap.

    I'm sorry for the rough language but it's been said to you in pretty graceful ways before which has done nothing so I feel like you need to hear it like it is.
    You're a whiny bitch that needs to get over the fact that you're black.
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    May 06, 2015 3:00 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI wish I could be someone's fetish.

    But y'are, Paul, ya are.
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    May 06, 2015 5:48 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidSo this is an example of sexual racism on another extreme so got a message here from here who according to their profile likes being submissive to black men and has a fetish for black men

    I hate that and it makes me feel like shit/inferior and is another form of sexual racism as I just because I am black become some dirty disgusting fetish


    Though I've heard of this before, all I can say is that it's best to avoid these people and don't let them diminish your self-worth.
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    May 06, 2015 6:32 PM GMT
    Exactly!!!
  • bobbobbob

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    May 06, 2015 7:27 PM GMT
    Matthew56 said
    bobbobbob saidDamn. This isn't a race issue at all. It's a chip on your shoulder issue. I feel sorry for you to be perceiving something so innocuous as you described as being racist. However if you want a good lead on a career, McSharpton is hiring guys like you everyday to find racism in everything from flavors of coffee to people with preferences of one race, none or all.

    And it cuts both ways... 14 years ago I met a hot black guy who was instantly turned off when he found out I'd been married to a black woman and have a mixed race son who's a cop. He was about to get into an explanation and I stopped him. There was no need to try to explain that craziness. There was nothing he could say that would make that crap rational. I just laughed and laughed and laughed about it the rest of the night.

    I still laugh at that dumb fucker every time I see his lonely ass trying to pick up men.

    Lighten up Matthew.



    That is slightly different as black women/white men relationships in hetrosexual relationships tend to be genuine and not have a racial agenda behind it


    BULLSHIT BULLSHIT BULLSHIT BULLSHIT BULLSHIT.

    You cannot find one piece of data to affirm that rationalization of your own chip-on-the-shoulder/pity-party-for-the-black guy attitude up besides you own tainted perception of your own interactions with people.

    There are shit loads, boat loads and butt loads of white women who go around talking about nothing but getting black dick and nothing but black dick. Same shit you started your period over....

    Lame ass attempt to try to justify and validate your lame behavior.
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    May 06, 2015 8:18 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidSo this is an example of sexual racism on another extreme so got a message here from here who according to their profile likes being submissive to black men and has a fetish for black men

    I hate that and it makes me feel like shit/inferior and is another form of sexual racism as I just because I am black become some dirty disgusting fetish


    If they are being submissive, they are not treating you as inferior.

    It may be a fetish, and a stereotype. Ya know, the BIG black swang, and all about raping the white boy. I know a few black guys who are offended by that. Some may be smaller in penis size, I don't know. But the gist is they are treated as a sexual object, not for who they are.

    But it may be they know who you are (and like you) and like the fantasy too. It's called role playing.
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    May 06, 2015 8:30 PM GMT
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    If they are being submissive, they are not treating you as inferior.

    It may be a fetish, and a stereotype. Ya know, the BIG black swang, and all about raping the white boy. I know a few black guys who are offended by that. Some may be smaller in penis size, I don't know. But the gist is they are treated as a sexual object, not for who they are.

    But it may be they know who you are (and like you) and like the fantasy too. It's called role playing.


    Timmm, do you remember what I said about the types of needy people who aren't interested in solving the problems they persist in talking about and how all they want out of it is to be the center of attention?

    Matthew is a classic one. All of his problems are WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY more important to him that trying to solve or get over them... and that's not theory. That's provable from looking at the last 10-20 threads he's started.
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    May 06, 2015 8:55 PM GMT
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    May 06, 2015 11:08 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidSo this is an example of sexual racism on another extreme so got a message here from here who according to their profile likes being submissive to black men and has a fetish for black men

    I hate that and it makes me feel like shit/inferior and is another form of sexual racism as I just because I am black become some dirty disgusting fetish





    nah....simply boils down to liking the dick and taking it....sex is generally very color blind....
  • Matthew56

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    May 08, 2015 3:21 PM GMT
    timmm55 said
    Matthew56 saidSo this is an example of sexual racism on another extreme so got a message here from here who according to their profile likes being submissive to black men and has a fetish for black men

    I hate that and it makes me feel like shit/inferior and is another form of sexual racism as I just because I am black become some dirty disgusting fetish


    If they are being submissive, they are not treating you as inferior.

    It may be a fetish, and a stereotype. Ya know, the BIG black swang, and all about raping the white boy. I know a few black guys who are offended by that. Some may be smaller in penis size, I don't know. But the gist is they are treated as a sexual object, not for who they are.

    But it may be they know who you are (and like you) and like the fantasy too. It's called role playing.


    Erm but they are treating you like the "other" exoctifying me because of my racial background if if was because of any other factor because of my racial background and yes it would and does make me feel inferior and reminds me of me being second place to white men because I am black
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    May 08, 2015 5:54 PM GMT
    I read your comment and then read this: Exotifying Asian Women: The White Racial Frame Again

    http://www.racismreview.com/blog/2009/10/05/exotifying-asian-women-the-white-racial-frame-again/

    If it was a negative stereotype....maybe? I could hear Margaret Cho doing a bit about it, but then I think she would OWN it! She sure as hell doesn't conform to the passive geisha girl prototype. Oddly enough she's rather be the dominatrix, where you are not comfortable in THAT role. Even for role play.

    I know some black drag guys who are more Diana Ross that "Shaft" and there would be no confusion. So you are neither stereotype. SO what? It was a dumb message from someone on RJ!

  • bobbobbob

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    May 08, 2015 5:57 PM GMT
    You're probably right. You might feel better about yourself if you hung out with people who are attracted to you because you're a perpetual whiner about problems that only exist in your head and always involve race.

    You need sychophants instead of good friends and fuckworthy individuals.
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    May 08, 2015 8:43 PM GMT
    So what's the real issue here, I don't get it. I'm half black and half Asian and I've never heard anyone say...

    ' Oh wow... you are 2 of my racial fetishes conjoined into one '

    Hell if someone would say that, I'd chuckle but, take offense why? Knowing I could raise a man's dick by just being me, without doing anything in particular is a compliment icon_rolleyes.gif