Intergenerational dating.

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    May 07, 2015 5:29 PM GMT
    Thanks for the feedback
  • SilverRRCloud

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    May 07, 2015 6:28 PM GMT
    If you are looking into raising a kid, a serious generational gap is most likely, a no go.

    I have come across very few guys who are considering raising a kid. Now, add to it that they may be a bit on the older side to meet your preferences, and your dating pool got really very small.

    Again, I am talking probabilities not possibilities here.

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  • Destinharbor

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    May 07, 2015 7:25 PM GMT
    Having a kid is a big deal. Not having one is a big deal. I think you're overthinking it. Just let yourself get to know the guy and let him get to know you. If you're thinking of a kid, tell him. If you're thinking of skydiving someday, tell him. If you want to live in Peru, tell him. But also just talk to him and learn about his dreams and habits and what makes him happy. That's how people fall in love. If kids is a a non-negotiable, then you'll need to find an older guy who wants kids, too. Easy. Don't presume anything. Lots of guys want kids. You may find some guy who just never found that guy who wanted to have kids.
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    May 07, 2015 8:28 PM GMT
    My brother's in his early 60s, youngest kid finally off to college, just finished his first year. Eldest kid has trouble functioning and still lives at home.

    My father's in his high 80s and still has most of his hair.

    Meanwhile, I've already outlived my first 10-year relationship by two decades--he died in our 30s--and I've recently passed the age of my 2nd 10-year guy who also died.

    He was older than me. Now I'm older than him. Passing his age was a tough year for me.

    My friends tell me I should date younger. They'll last longer, they say.

    You never know what tomorrow will bring or who it might take away.
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    May 09, 2015 10:08 PM GMT
    45 is not too old to have start raising a child. He is either open to it or wants to or not. You can't know until you engage him on the topic.
  • you_know_Its_...

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    May 10, 2015 6:43 AM GMT
    Well you've come to the right forum for that fetish icon_lol.gif
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    May 11, 2015 10:46 PM GMT
    How's the sex? This is something you absolutely need to know upfront when it comes to older guys. I dated one that was on Cialis, and that was just too much reality for me. Not sexy at all. He was also one of those types that always wants to do stuff to you but doesn't require any in return (I guess since he couldn't really keep an erection too long). At first I liked being the center of attention, but it quickly got very creepy and I kinda started feeling this rapey/molestation vibe. Just something to think about. You're young and you're going to want sex, good sex with someone who doesn't need a prescription to get it up.
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    May 18, 2015 10:57 PM GMT
    You have that give time that things happen, as they say you, note what he wants and go slow, enjoys the relationship and the good things. Have many mature guys that looking fo have child with his couple and will appear for you.

  • goodmagic

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    May 18, 2015 11:31 PM GMT
    All I attract is older guys. I think it's cool your only as old as you feel.
  • jackp0t

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    May 20, 2015 12:50 AM GMT
    Daddy issues? www.seekingarrangements.com MaSc4MasC icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 03, 2015 2:27 AM GMT
    I like older but sometimes I feel like people view me with a older man like the world viewed Anna Nicole Smith with that 94 year old.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jun 15, 2015 7:54 PM GMT
    JoshBB24 saidI like older but sometimes I feel like people view me with a older man like the world viewed Anna Nicole Smith with that 94 year old.


    A good thing is to remember that "Poor is the man whose pleasures depend on the permission of others."

    Many people project themselves into other people, without knowing all they really need to know before they judge other people and their behavior.

    The real problem with the opinions of the others is that they usually come with no real life value attached to them. Unless you live under their roof, and they are still paying the proverbial phone bill, their opinions are really irrelevant. It is your life, and you are calling the shots.

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  • uncut7in

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    Jun 19, 2015 12:12 PM GMT
    I'm only interested in dating guys much younger than me, the largest age gap was 47 years.