What's the deal with this "Dad bod" movement? New standard of male beauty?

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    May 08, 2015 4:34 PM GMT
    I've been reading articles and post all over Facebook about this new standard of male beauty guys are supposed to aspire to obtain called "Dad Bod". It basically is a guy who instead of having a 6 pack has a 1pack (a little belly) and instead of having hard pecks, has minor man boobage going on. They are not say being a complete slob is hot, rather the "I only do physical activity once a week" look is gaining traction.

    http://m.nydailynews.com/life-style/women-lusting-dudes-dad-bod-article-1.2214449

    I think it's just a movement made by lazy guys and insecure girls as a way to feel better about themselves. Little trends like these happen and slowly fade away. The 6 pack, ripped arms, and firm glutes are here to stay in my opinion. What do you guys think?
  • Destinharbor

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    May 08, 2015 4:47 PM GMT
    I think what you're describing is an offshoot of the women's campaign to relax a bit about having a "magazine cover" body. But for women, it becomes a health thing leading to eating disorders. I don't think that applies to guys. But to an extent it does. As an older guy, I need to know that a six pack probably isn't attainable or even desirable, that the body needs to have a higher fat % for reserves and emergencies. Thus, a "dad bod." But for younger men with faster metabolisms, it's just a mechanism to say it's OK to have interests other than gym. Fair enough if it isn't just used as an excuse to be inactive. Or over-eat. But I don't want to see threads asking if ripped guys can be interested in dad-bod guys. Then it's just laziness.
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    May 08, 2015 6:46 PM GMT
    Women often are attracted to guys that don't have a perfect body, that's nothing really new and it's men that put more emphasis on perfection when it comes to attraction.

    With that said, it's probably also a lot about personality. Often times guys with toned bodies have rotten personalities and are stuck on vanity. Finding a nice guy with an average body can be easier than finding a nice guy with a good body.
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    May 08, 2015 10:14 PM GMT
    Yeah, I don't think the point of it is to be fat, sloppy, and lazy. but guys can get good amounts of exercise from doing sports, building things, housework/carpentry, etc.... and never get a six pack or massive pecs....but they're in decent shape. and the mentality is that, "hey, it's OK to have a beer with your buds on a friday night, because i'm not on some super strict diet".

    and you know what? that's just quite fine! they shouldn't be shamed for only being active a few times a week. or have a greasy cheesburger now and then.

    to be honest, i feel like the idea is "everything in moderation".
  • mystery905

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    May 08, 2015 11:30 PM GMT
    I'm not into too much muscle. A little 'padding' in the right places can be a turn-on.

  • tj85016

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    May 09, 2015 2:33 AM GMT
    just more ghetto bullshit (and no, ghettos aren't necessarily black or whatever)
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    May 09, 2015 2:36 AM GMT
    I'm personally not into six pack abs. I'd rather see a guy with a bit of beef on him. But who cares? Why not let people like what they like?
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    May 09, 2015 2:43 AM GMT
    So what's next in vogue? Thinning hair, liver spots and prostethic teeth?
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    May 09, 2015 3:18 AM GMT
    willular saidYeah, I don't think the point of it is to be fat, sloppy, and lazy. but guys can get good amounts of exercise from doing sports, building things, housework/carpentry, etc.... and never get a six pack or massive pecs....but they're in decent shape. and the mentality is that, "hey, it's OK to have a beer with your buds on a friday night, because i'm not on some super strict diet".

    and you know what? that's just quite fine! they shouldn't be shamed for only being active a few times a week. or have a greasy cheesburger now and then.

    to be honest, i feel like the idea is "everything in moderation".


    Well put
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    May 09, 2015 3:22 AM GMT
    I think sometimes truly ripped guys don't realize the subliminal message they send, even when it isn't true, that message being "this is what I do. It is ALL of what I do." And that's a big turnoff. Now I realize that there are a lot of sexy six-packy guys who do lots of other things besides the gym, and some of these men are hugely interesting. But that's on the second level of "getting to know you". We're just talking visceral messages here.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    May 09, 2015 8:10 AM GMT
    Nope. I do not think that sixpack dudes are going to go out of fashion anytime soon. No worries there.

    With quite a few people around having and maintaining their luxury bodies these days, a few other guys have had the chance to interact. No doubt, hooking up with a stunning looking guy is still in great demand. Yet, we are talking about hooking up...

    When it comes to the daily grind, you soon realize that your sixpack dude actually centers his life on maintaining his sixpack. Gym, shakes, bars, exercise - all come first and foremost. Everything else is likely to take the back seat.

    For a while, a trophee dude is the envy of your friends, and an eye candy for you to enjoy. After a while, you realize that your life is being wasted on someone achieving and maintaining the perfect body image. You grow aware of the high maintenance cost you are co-paying for who you are dating.

    Sure, this is perfectly fine with some dudes. Not so, with the other dudes.

    This is the point where some guys start reasoning that they would be rather dating a less perfect guy, who while still in shape, does not center his life on his looks alone, often at the expense of all other aspects of their life together.

    The old adage that if you are sweating it too much, it ain't worth it, gets confirmed over and over again.

    Say, it is nice to have a BF who is very successful at his work. There are quite a few perks to having someone with deep pockets in your life. Yet, if this dude works 80 hours a week, and only talks his business to no end, you soon start to see that you are not really enjoying your life with him. You may still admire him for his achievement but you, too, are paying a high price for this...

    This is where you realize that it may not be really worth your while...

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    May 09, 2015 8:58 AM GMT
    Kind of weird calling it the 'dad-bod' though. a lot of men I noticed on the beach last summer and the summer before that were in amazing shape, and they were married men with kids, so I thought we were coming into a trend of young dads looking like magazine cover models.
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    May 09, 2015 6:08 PM GMT
    Call it Augustan Age Hip, the well-fed look of prosperity that was deemed attractive in 18th Century Europe and America as a sign of health and success, per the portraits of the time, and made a repeat in the gay cultures of SF, NY, and other AIDS-ravaged cities in the early '90s as a perceived sign of health, as documented in the gay press of those days.
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    May 09, 2015 6:21 PM GMT
    Reminds me of this thread: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4030082?forumpage=2#847394_4048635_name


    Sharkspeare saidI think sometimes truly ripped guys don't realize the subliminal message they send, even when it isn't true, that message being "this is what I do. It is ALL of what I do." And that's a big turnoff.

    Cash is not gonna like to hear that icon_lol.gif


    Radd saidI'm personally not into six pack abs. I'd rather see a guy with a bit of beef on him. But who cares? Why not let people like what they like?

    Aren't you the guy who insists that everyone who dislikes body hair is a little girl?
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    May 09, 2015 7:03 PM GMT
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    or...

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    I likes chubby/bulking Brad....more to luv...icon_wink.gif
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    May 09, 2015 8:12 PM GMT
    SilverRRCloud saidWhen it comes to the daily grind, you soon realize that your sixpack dude actually centers his life on maintaining his sixpack. Gym, shakes, bars, exercise - all come first and foremost. Everything else is likely to take the back seat.

    For a while, a trophee dude is the envy of your friends, and an eye candy for you to enjoy. After a while, you realize that your life is being wasted on someone achieving and maintaining the perfect body image. You grow aware of the high maintenance cost you are co-paying for who you are dating…

    ...Say, it is nice to have a BF who is very successful at his work. There are quite a few perks to having someone with deep pockets in your life. Yet, if this dude works 80 hours a week, and only talks his business to no end, you soon start to see that you are not really enjoying your life with him. You may still admire him for his achievement but you, too, are paying a high price for this...

    SC


    The real complaint is that no one who doesn't eat healthy wants to cook healthy. (They may SAY they want to but really don't, particularly for someone else.) They want a partner to eat Mallomars with. Aside from that, note that a lot of guys maintain their bodies without it imposing on the time spent with their significant others and children by sacrificing their OWN sleep, training before everyone else gets up. THEN move on to their jobs, some of which may or may not involve 80 hour weeks. While, perhaps, cooking and preparing their own meals.

    There's a reason muscle wants muscle and aren't interested in "average" guys. And why "average" guys shouldn't complain about it unless they're willing to be - god forbid - supportive by making lifestyle sacrifices as well. Everyone wants to screw the supermodel and then expects her to vacuum.
  • SuntoryTime

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    May 09, 2015 8:51 PM GMT
    I'm cool with the dad bods and the cubs. In fact, they can be really hot. I like muscle, too but I've always had trouble relating with muscle guys. Muscle bears are hot but I'm not into bears and obesity.

    Rock on dad bods. You look like a regular, modest man and hopefully you got the personality and mindset to go with it.
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    May 09, 2015 9:23 PM GMT
    crazycrazydoesdoes saidReminds me of this thread: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4030082?forumpage=2#847394_4048635_name


    Sharkspeare saidI think sometimes truly ripped guys don't realize the subliminal message they send, even when it isn't true, that message being "this is what I do. It is ALL of what I do." And that's a big turnoff.

    Cash is not gonna like to hear that icon_lol.gif


    Radd saidI'm personally not into six pack abs. I'd rather see a guy with a bit of beef on him. But who cares? Why not let people like what they like?

    Aren't you the guy who insists that everyone who dislikes body hair is a little girl?


    Yes, that's me. And aren't you the one who thinks murder, rape, torture, dismemberment and child molestation is hot? I'll take my issues over your issues any day thank you very much.
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    May 10, 2015 2:13 AM GMT
    Yeah....lets just continue on worshiping muscular men, force feeding that highly difficult body type to young teenage boys and make them all feel inferior because the men on Men's Health magazines are photo shopped and/or shot with angles/lighting that dramatizes your muscles.

    How about we look at sexiness as a little bit less of a looks thing, and a little bit more of an intellectual and philanthropic thing, which is ten times hotter than a muscle freak with no sense of self. The guys in the article weren't in the best shape, but at least its a new way of appreciating human beings and looking at beauty.

    My apologizes for the satirical sarcasm, but you don't need to have a perfect body to be desirable; slightly beefy and slim guys with no muscle are sometimes just as attractive if not more than gym monkeys. Maybe the guys in the article were borderline becoming unhealthy, but they were fine and in average shape compared to the mass. Gotta remember that most homosexual men on here are hyper body conscious to an unhealthy degree.

    Also OP, men working out and being completely ripped is usually an excuse for them to not look at their real insecurities deep down about how they feel unloved unless they're perfect, so I think you have it wrong; not to be rude but I think you're sending a terrible unattainable example for what men should be, especially since you're defending a hierarchy that is already granting bigger stronger men with more social rewards when they already have more than what they deserve, but you do you; i'm not trying to bring you down, just trying to uplift the boys on here who aren't aspiring Arnolds.
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    May 10, 2015 2:21 AM GMT
    ∆ Great post.

    I've always wondered why people attack women's magazines for their unattainable Photoshopped covers but no one says a thing about men's magazines. I think one of the reasons I'm not attracted to most guys with rippled abs is they almost always are covering up for something. It's not natural or even healthy to look like that so not sure why so many guys strive for it.
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    May 10, 2015 2:31 AM GMT
    RealRodin saidAlso OP, men working out and being completely ripped is usually an excuse for them to not look at their real insecurities deep down about how they feel unloved unless they're perfect, so I think you have it wrong; not to be rude but I think you're sending a terrible unattainable example for what men should be, especially since you're defending a hierarchy that is already granting bigger stronger men with more social rewards when they already have more than what they deserve, but you do you; i'm not trying to bring you down, just trying to uplift the boys on here who aren't aspiring Arnolds.

    Well, thanks for qualifying that.

    I just lost 20lbs and though I perceive myself and the world the same way and act exactly the same with zero swag, I am being treated by the world in a completely different manner. If the world wants to reward me for abstaining from MacDonalds I can deal with that - it's cheaper and easier than getting richer, taller, better looking and more philanthropic - other hierarchies with social rewards.
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    May 10, 2015 2:47 AM GMT
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    or...

    brad_kalvo_18.jpg_480_480_0_64000_0_1_0.

    I likes chubby/bulking Brad....more to luv...icon_wink.gif


    Not to ruin the whole " Dad bod " bandwagon ... but brad Kalvo is just so much more smoldering in the pic where he's chiseled
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    May 10, 2015 2:49 AM GMT
    ryyyder said
    bon_pan saidphoto.jpg

    or...

    brad_kalvo_18.jpg_480_480_0_64000_0_1_0.

    I likes chubby/bulking Brad....more to luv...icon_wink.gif


    Not to ruin the whole " Dad bod " bandwagon ... but brad Kalvo is just so much more smoldering in the pic where he's chiseled


    I actually didn't realize this was the same guy until now. Honestly I'd prefer to see him somewhere between the two. His bulking pic is a bit too bloated and his shredded pic is a bit too.....well.....shredded. He looks a bit ill in his last pic.
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    May 10, 2015 2:54 AM GMT
    Radd said
    ryyyder said
    bon_pan saidphoto.jpg

    or...

    brad_kalvo_18.jpg_480_480_0_64000_0_1_0.

    I likes chubby/bulking Brad....more to luv...icon_wink.gif


    Not to ruin the whole " Dad bod " bandwagon ... but brad Kalvo is just so much more smoldering in the pic where he's chiseled


    I actually didn't realize this was the same guy until now. Honestly I'd prefer to see him somewhere between the two. His bulking pic is a bit too bloated and his shredded pic is a bit too.....well.....shredded. He looks a bit ill in his last pic.


    I see what you mean
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 10, 2015 3:00 AM GMT
    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

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    But a little eye candy is nice and it inspires us to look good

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    So, if we change all advertising to heavier beer belly guys, will we aspire for the same look?

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