Any Married guys here ?

  • ronyhans

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    Jan 26, 2009 3:46 AM GMT
    I know it sounds very vierd but I just wanted to know. How they manage their life as husband and also closated gay who wants to be with guys?
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    Jan 26, 2009 5:57 AM GMT


    Oh, you meant straight married guys!
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    Jan 26, 2009 5:58 AM GMT
    ronyhans saidI know it sounds very weird but I just wanted to know. How they manage their life as husband and also closeted gay who wants to be with guys?
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    Jan 26, 2009 6:03 AM GMT
    Funkapottomous said
    ronyhans saidI know it sounds very weird but I just wanted to know. How they manage their life as husband and also closeted gay who wants to be with guys?

    hahahaha don't be veird
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    Jan 26, 2009 6:05 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Funkapottomous said
    ronyhans saidI know it sounds very weird but I just wanted to know. How they manage their life as husband and also closeted gay who wants to be with guys?

    hahahaha don't be weird
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    Jan 26, 2009 6:06 AM GMT
    For the OP, what's your motivation in asking? Do you want answers that emphasize "managing" their lives or how they "want" to be with guys? Just wanting to help you get the answers that you want.
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    Jan 26, 2009 6:13 AM GMT
    No, he's looking for married guys to hook up with. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 26, 2009 6:20 AM GMT
    Nope. You are the only one I know of. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 26, 2009 6:23 AM GMT
    ActiveAndFit saidNope. You are the only one I know of. icon_lol.gif


    DING DING!
    Give this man a waffle.
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    Jan 26, 2009 6:25 AM GMT
    Do you cry when you're inside her?
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    Jan 26, 2009 11:27 AM GMT
    I'd just subscribe to Mens Health ;)

    Seriously though, if it is you (and I know everyone's just jumping to assumptions) you've done the right thing in trying to talk to some gay guys in a similar position to you.

    Stick around (maybe with a new profile) get to know some people. Maybe talk to some of the people in this thread http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/393882/

    I had a long term girl friend before I came out. If we'd married, I honestly can't say what I'd have done. It's not easy, but I actually don't think it's the end of the World.
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    Jan 26, 2009 12:28 PM GMT
    VEIRD? WEIRD? Either way, hardly so. But I reckon you'd be better off looking in a more hook-up-oriented site, bet you'll find plenty of married guys there. Ultimately that's what they're chasing, not training tips. I'm finding Gaydar more and more irritating because more and more of the guys appearing are married. Or at least saying so. Just had my heart broken by one of them ...don't you just hate it when Mr Right comes along and he's already Mr Right to someone else!!!! :cryicon_sad.gifMoral judgement's aside (who's to know how chemistry works its wonder when it really pulls out all the stops), their lives are certainly difficult to "manage" so hope you come right with the right advice. Speaking from the other side...always be honest with a lover, and don't ever forget that he too has feelings, and if it is anything beyond a hook-up for both of you, YOU too create responsibility to those feelings, you can't just walk away and ignore when it suits you. Gosh...am I grumbling or what! My own fault!
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    Jan 26, 2009 12:55 PM GMT
    ronyhans saidI know it sounds very vierd but I just wanted to know. How they manage their life as husband and also closated gay who wants to be with guys?


    I'm married, but I'm not closeted, and, at this point in time, I don't want to be with guys.
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    Jan 26, 2009 5:11 PM GMT
    ronyhans saidI know it sounds very vierd but I just wanted to know. How they manage their life as husband and also closated gay who wants to be with guys?
    Most don't handle it well. It's a tough thing to do. Been there, don't recommend it but understand how hard it is to come out.
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    Jan 26, 2009 9:46 PM GMT
    Well there's nothing wrong with 2 guys having affection for each other, which is built on a strong bond. Guys do need that, did that in ancient times and its very normal, though in society today if a man does that they'll try to hit him with the whole gay label which is ridiculous.

    When I was married with my first wife (passed away). She understood the whole close bond thing I had with my friend. She knew she wasn't gonna come home seeing me boink him in the ass, or him going down on me or anything, because we aren't into that stuff. She knew I wasn't gonna come up to her and tell her I was leaving her for him, she just understood the whole "bromance" thing, and the whole warrior mentality thing (both of us were in the military, and same sport MMA).

    The current girl I am with, and marrying understands all of that as well, doesn't bother her. The whole sneaking men back home when your wife is gone, and having sex with them, and knowing you're only into men, and enjoy sex with men, is not cool at all,even more so if you're having sex with the guy in the same bed as you do with your wife.
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    Jan 26, 2009 10:22 PM GMT
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    ronyhans saidI know it sounds very vierd but I just wanted to know. How they manage their life as husband and also closated gay who wants to be with guys?


    I'm married, but I'm not closeted, and, at this point in time, I don't want to be with guys.


    Ahem, same here and Paradox knows it too. He checked my Myspace profile...
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    Jan 26, 2009 10:48 PM GMT
    More to the point, "Did someone mention WAFFLES?!" icon_lol.gif
  • docbailey2005

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    Jan 26, 2009 11:45 PM GMT
    What's wrong with married men wanting to have sex with other men? Face it most gay men don't want intimacy or want to be in relationships so why try and degrade a bicloset type. Yeah sure married men are decieving their wives but why come out of the closet to be among a mix of permiscuous men? Most of us come out because we don't want to live a lie. If a person can live a dishonest life and not feel guilty more power to him.
    Majority of men are whores. if you're monogomous you probably wouldn't need this site. Those of you who can be with one partner and one only consider yourself in the small minority of men hetero or gayn. Any site such as realjock,bigmuscle, gay.com etc are just pick up sites sure you can make friends but majority of people use these places for sex. Besides it seems i attract mostly married types. I'm gay and want a gay man but hey i have needs.
  • docbailey2005

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    Jan 26, 2009 11:45 PM GMT
    What's wrong with married men wanting to have sex with other men? Face it most gay men don't want intimacy or want to be in relationships so why try and degrade a bicloset type. Yeah sure married men are decieving their wives but why come out of the closet to be among a mix of permiscuous men? Most of us come out because we don't want to live a lie. If a person can live a dishonest life and not feel guilty more power to him.
    Majority of men are whores. if you're monogomous you probably wouldn't need this site. Those of you who can be with one partner and one only consider yourself in the small minority of men hetero or gayn. Any site such as realjock,bigmuscle, gay.com etc are just pick up sites sure you can make friends but majority of people use these places for sex. Besides it seems i attract mostly married types. I'm gay and want a gay man but hey i have needs.
  • docbailey2005

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    Jan 26, 2009 11:48 PM GMT
    What's wrong with married men wanting to have sex with other men? Face it most gay men don't want intimacy or want to be in relationships so why try and degrade a bicloset type. Yeah sure married men are decieving their wives but why come out of the closet to be among a mix of permiscuous men? Most of us come out because we don't want to live a lie. If a person can live a dishonest life and not feel guilty more power to him.
    Majority of men are whores. if you're monogomous you probably wouldn't need this site. Those of you who can be with one partner and one only consider yourself in the small minority of men hetero or gayn. Any site such as realjock,bigmuscle, gay.com etc are just pick up sites sure you can make friends but majority of people use these places for sex. Besides it seems i attract mostly married types. I'm gay and want a gay man but hey i have needs.
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    Jan 27, 2009 5:38 AM GMT


    docbailey2005 said,

    "Majority of men are whores. if you're monogomous you probably wouldn't need this site."

    The world is greater than you know.

    You do not under any circumstances, speak for us

    We're correcting your words as follows,

    "The majority of men I know of are whores. If I was monogamous I probably wouldn't need this site."


    you're welcome. -meninlove
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    Jan 27, 2009 5:54 AM GMT
    Rad_d81 saidWhen I was married with my first wife (passed away).
    Thats sad .. at such a young age too .. sorry to hear
  • docbailey2005

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    Jan 27, 2009 1:57 PM GMT
    men in love if you notice i said majority not all. If you're not in that majority thats excellent and my reply doesn't refer to you. Even many of those who are in relationships they're open. Too each his own ultimatley life is about being happy. If men are happy being promiscous then so be it theres nothign wrong with that. Just be realistic majority of gay men and men in general can't be monogomous have you checked divorce rates in the past decade?
  • bijockmuscle

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    Jan 27, 2009 2:02 PM GMT
    i am married...
  • Timbales

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    Jan 27, 2009 2:36 PM GMT
    yeah, those vows are really just a formality...