What draws or attracts gay and handsome men?

  • infinitefrien...

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    May 09, 2015 5:42 PM GMT
    ..Other than being good-looking?

    Would really appreciate answers.

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  • secondstartot...

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    May 09, 2015 7:06 PM GMT
    if you want to attract handsome gay men - be sure to plant lots of indigenous flowering plants and perhaps an attractive water feature unless you have drought ... small fruit trees will also attract them as they love to play in shady shrubbery
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    May 09, 2015 7:23 PM GMT
    I think the ability to have a natural conversation. Personality really is important and it is phenomenal when you meet a guy whom you find attractive and whose personality meshes well with your own.
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    May 10, 2015 2:04 AM GMT
    Humor. Genuine similar interest. Being unique. Not being intimidated or reluctant because he's handsome.

    hope that's of some value
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    May 10, 2015 2:09 AM GMT
    A cute dog.....not too Nellie.
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    May 10, 2015 2:11 AM GMT
    Get a flea dip every 30 days.
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    May 10, 2015 2:54 AM GMT
    infinitefriend9 said..Other than being good-looking?

    Would really appreciate answers.

    Thanks
    Nothing.

    Being good looking is the be-all end-all of attractiveness.
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    May 10, 2015 3:42 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    infinitefriend9 said..Other than being good-looking?

    Would really appreciate answers.

    Thanks
    Nothing.

    Being good looking is the be-all end-all of attractiveness.


    I hate to be cynical but this is pretty much it. If they don't find you physically attractive, they are never going to be drawn to you in a romantic/sexual way.
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    May 10, 2015 4:03 AM GMT
    I can't tell you that looks don't play a big part, because they do, that's just how it goes. But, an alluring personality (like confidence without arrogance) can get you a lot of mileage. There are guys out there that find personality sexually attractive and get drawn in that way. Also, you have to believe that you are attractive if you want to attract guys. You might be someone's type, but not attract them if you lack confidence.
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    May 10, 2015 4:05 AM GMT
    FLgator saidI hate to be cynical but this is pretty much it. If they don't find you physically attractive, they are never going to be drawn to you in a romantic/sexual way.


    Sad news for women who are into me! icon_lol.gif

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  • AMoonHawk

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    May 10, 2015 4:21 AM GMT
    This should do the trick

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    May 10, 2015 5:06 AM GMT
    I think it's important to stand-out, be different, make him feel off balance.

    Don't start a conversation with, "What's up?" or "You're really handsome."

    Make him laugh, make him think, show him that you see the person behind the physical beauty.
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    May 10, 2015 5:50 AM GMT
    On the internet or grindr, nothing.

    In real life, there are a whole host of other things that come into play, all of which are different for different people. I wouldn't be as cynical as some here; I think we behave more as animals in the virtual realm. However, I wouldn't be naive either; beauty is very important, even in real life.
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    May 10, 2015 6:02 AM GMT
    be hot, attractiveness is extremely important in gay dating.
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    May 10, 2015 6:03 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidThis should do the trick

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    Meh, it has no wings or abs.
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    May 10, 2015 6:29 AM GMT
    FLgator said
    paulflexes said
    infinitefriend9 said..Other than being good-looking?

    Would really appreciate answers.

    Thanks
    Nothing.

    Being good looking is the be-all end-all of attractiveness.


    I hate to be cynical but this is pretty much it. If they don't find you physically attractive, they are never going to be drawn to you in a romantic/sexual way.


    110% true!
    End thread here.
    If you aren't at least 8/10 in their eyes they aren't going to even spare a thought for you.
    It's pretty much a given that the average gay man is quite superficial, even the not so attractive guys.

    If the guy is hot, most likely he knows it and is the acting mayor for hook up central until they find an open relationship or once they aren't 8-10/10 any more due to age or whatever else, then they'll start their hunt for a young guy and any young guy who rejects them they'll just label an ageist.
    After that, they then aim for minorities that at first weren't good enough to include in their previous hook up central days.

    Yeah lol okay I'm sure it's not this exaggerated, but I'm pretty sure it's close to.
    I bet this is an exact recount for some gay guy's lives.

    All in all, if guys aren't lining up for you now, chances are the line ain't ever going to happen.
    You'll have to settle for being someone's ethnic fetish, young bf trophy (if you're still young), or (and the least likely to happen) you manage to find a legit nice guy you're age that doesn't care about you having to be at least an 8/10.
    They'll look at whatever number you are and count their blessings, which of course is extremely rare to find in gay men.

    Now of course with all that being said, there is always the exception, just don't go holding your breath. Just saying all this as an observer without feeling bad about saying it like it is.
    Keep in mind that half the problem is that gay men tend to pine for guys "out of their league" or so the saying goes.
  • Apparition

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    May 10, 2015 11:54 AM GMT
    9"+
    7 figures+
    being the casting director
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    May 10, 2015 3:53 PM GMT
    DryMoan said
    FLgator said
    paulflexes said
    infinitefriend9 said..Other than being good-looking?

    Would really appreciate answers.

    Thanks
    Nothing.

    Being good looking is the be-all end-all of attractiveness.


    I hate to be cynical but this is pretty much it. If they don't find you physically attractive, they are never going to be drawn to you in a romantic/sexual way.


    110% true!
    End thread here.
    If you aren't at least 8/10 in their eyes they aren't going to even spare a thought for you.
    It's pretty much a given that the average gay man is quite superficial, even the not so attractive guys.

    If the guy is hot, most likely he knows it and is the acting mayor for hook up central until they find an open relationship or once they aren't 8-10/10 any more due to age or whatever else, then they'll start their hunt for a young guy and any young guy who rejects them they'll just label an ageist.
    After that, they then aim for minorities that at first weren't good enough to include in their previous hook up central days.

    Yeah lol okay I'm sure it's not this exaggerated, but I'm pretty sure it's close to.
    I bet this is an exact recount for some gay guy's lives.

    All in all, if guys aren't lining up for you now, chances are the line ain't ever going to happen.
    You'll have to settle for being someone's ethnic fetish, young bf trophy (if you're still young), or (and the least likely to happen) you manage to find a legit nice guy you're age that doesn't care about you having to be at least an 8/10.
    They'll look at whatever number you are and count their blessings, which of course is extremely rare to find in gay men.

    Now of course with all that being said, there is always the exception, just don't go holding your breath. Just saying all this as an observer without feeling bad about saying it like it is.
    Keep in mind that half the problem is that gay men tend to pine for guys "out of their league" or so the saying goes.


    I literally took that as "you might as well invest in 28 cats or commit suicide".
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    May 10, 2015 4:05 PM GMT
    Being a good dancer.
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  • secondstartot...

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    May 10, 2015 5:10 PM GMT
    DefensiveEnd saidBeing a good dancer.
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    that is strangely arousing...se if you are built like that you can do anything and look sexy !

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    I want humans of freer nations to come to America and fuck the crazy out of us
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  • May 11, 2015 2:34 AM GMT
    What a noted philosopher said to me once about gay men:


    well, this is what i see in public, so recognizing in advance that i'm sure there is much more nuance......but:

    - a distinct lack of self-reflexivity/criticality
    - a performed sense of persecution that never acknowledges minor everyday Wills to Power......
    - total objectification of bodies not so different than what heteronormatives do
    - very aggressive
    - posing as full of Big Ideas without any sort of thought behind it......ie. trading in Thought as Social Currency.
    - none of it can be questioned because there is always a fallback positionality contra Privilege.

    what i've appreciated from you is that to a certain degree you challenge what i've seen for years from this groupthink.
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    May 11, 2015 3:22 AM GMT
    DefensiveEnd saidBeing a good dancer.
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    Lol, jesus I'm getting turn on LOL, what are we talking about? Hot handsome men want other cute hot handsome men. Sound shallow but true, so you better groom up, work out and just look hot. It doesn't hurt if you have a good career/job and a circle of friends either.

  • May 11, 2015 3:36 AM GMT
    LAXWill10 said
    DefensiveEnd saidBeing a good dancer.
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    Lol, jesus I'm getting turn on LOL, what are we talking about? Hot handsome men want other cute hot handsome men. Sound shallow but true, so you better groom up, work out and just look hot. It doesn't hurt if you have a good career/job and a circle of friends either.



    And his interiority?
  • Defiant

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    May 11, 2015 9:31 AM GMT
    Confidence. As a personality trait, it is very attractive.