From my personal experience, I'd wager to bet that roughly 66%, or a clear majority, of my STRAIGHT friends are coupled (monogamously dating, coupled, married, etc.). Only about 33% are "single."
Only about 33% of my GAY friends are coupled. A majority are "single," so the stats are literally flipped vis-a-vis straights and gays.
I can only add this. I think that, for better or worse, straight people are geared/programmed, in a normative way, to couple and this societal programming (some might argue 'brainwashing') has a real effect you can see in the numbers above. Gays are part of this same society, but because there are fewer examples of gay couples, in a very real way, that precedent is not set for gays and we wind up, for better or worse, with lower rates of coupling.
Men and woman like sex equally, but it's true, most men want to experience multiple partners and variety, while on average, women prefer to copulate with one, safe, secure mate. Why? Biology. We're programmed that way from hundreds of thousands of years of evolution. That primal urge is strong. So men's biology lends itself less to coupling than does female biology. Factor out the female dynamic in gay dating and you inherently have a system where "everyone just wants to fuck and leave." Seriously though.
Another remark. Despite the stats above, it seems that people do not churn or move from group to group. Those straights or gays who are single, are always the ones who are single. "Unluck at love" perpetually. The straights and gays that are taken, seem to even after a breakup, find another relationship in a matter of weeks or months. You can argue they're "settling" but I don't think so. It's not like they're getting with ugly or low quality partners. To this dynamic, I think some people are better (I don't know if it's nature or nurture, innate or learned) at relationships and dating and others are awkward and just downright bad at dating. Some of the traits I see in perpetually single people are (1) narcissism, (2) lack of self-confidence, (3) faux overconfidence to compensate for a lack of self-confidence, (4) borderline alcoholism/drug use, (5) an inability to see reality for what it is, (6) emotional neediness, (7) long term depression, (
a near maniacal obsession with attracting a mate which serves as a huge turn off since the person seems desperate, (9) (for women) talking about babies and baby names before the second date.
It's like dancing. I've always been good at dancing, from ballet to ballroom, to bumping and grinding on the dance floor to rap music, so I don't understand when people say they're bad dancers. It's just moving to the rhythm.
Same with dating. I've always been good at dating and attracting attractive, quality and fun mates. I literally don't understand when people say they're single but can't find somebody and they live in a city large enough to have bars and clubs. You could pluck me down in Omaha, Nebraska and if they have at least 1 gay bar I could find a quality mate in a month or two.
The best I can say is, be balanced, have fun, smile, see your target, and go after him. If you're rebuffed, so be it. But if you aren't, then you win the dating lottery and likely have a mate (assuming you're somewhat decent and not too needy when dating....this is especially true in NYC which has a very flighty dating scene).
Just go after your prey. Think of it like hunting. It's a sport. And you don't always win, but keep at it and you will.