stringing along, cheating, being dishonest.

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    May 12, 2015 4:17 PM GMT
    Do ALL gay men do this?

    cos I am seriously losing my faith in. ...ugh, gay men.

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    May 12, 2015 4:24 PM GMT
    life is way long; you will find your self saying this is sooo bad until you catch your self doing it. so dont be dishonest to your self.

    hetro, the other 96% can be found dishonest, stringing along, cheating...
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    May 12, 2015 6:14 PM GMT
    it's MEN - gay/straight/bi
  • SilverRRCloud

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    May 12, 2015 6:15 PM GMT
    patito saidDo ALL gay men do this?

    cos I am seriously losing my faith in. ...ugh, gay men.



    NOPE. Not ALL. Some do.

    Be careful when choosing your friends, regardless of their sexual orientation. Keep your eyes and your ears open at all the times, and move quickly to stop the predators before they even think of doing anything wrong.

    SC
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    May 12, 2015 8:11 PM GMT
    __morphic__ saidit's MEN - gay/straight/bi


    yeah but there is a BUT.

    I agree that all men are sleazy as fuck

    but seriously.

    seriously.

    you can't put them all in the same group. cos it's just not right.

    we all know gay men are WAY sluttier.
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    May 12, 2015 10:42 PM GMT
    patito saidDo ALL gay men do this?
    Yep, and it's ONLY gay men. Straight and bi guys never do that stuff.

    #sarcasm
  • Apparition

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    May 13, 2015 5:05 AM GMT
    Check references, ask his exs why they are.
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    May 13, 2015 1:15 PM GMT
    Don't lose hope, buddy. Not all gay men are, prolly there's a huge percentage but not all.

    Don't get into relationships fast, and don't fall too deep on the very beginning.

    Hope you'll move on sooner.
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    May 13, 2015 3:39 PM GMT
    patito saidDo ALL gay men do this?

    cos I am seriously losing my faith in. ...ugh, gay men.



    There are good men out there. I try to be one and I have found one. Keep the faith.
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    May 13, 2015 3:59 PM GMT
    patito said
    __morphic__ saidit's MEN - gay/straight/bi


    yeah but there is a BUT.

    I agree that all men are sleazy as fuck

    but seriously.

    seriously.

    you can't put them all in the same group. cos it's just not right.

    we all know gay men are WAY sluttier.


    The paradox is that the guys ...and girls that have developed this slutty opinion of men are not interested in the good guys. "Good guys " to them aren't sexy so they set themselves up for the recurring abuse.
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    May 13, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
    No. Not nearly all gay men. Perhaps traits of Italian men?

    Better luck next time.

  • Destinharbor

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    May 13, 2015 5:37 PM GMT
    This^^^^(Alpha13) is true. You might want to examine why you're attracted to the guys you are. But you might also want to chill a bit. Different guys are different. You've got probably a long list of things you look for in a guy. Just throw whatever level of monogamy you want into the mix and look for a guy that feels the way you do. The best way to do that is to talk, talk, talk. I don't agree that it has to be before sex but it certainly has to be before you make any assumptions about how he feels on the subject and before you have the right to judge him for having a different opinion.
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    May 13, 2015 6:53 PM GMT
    Maybe they don't want to commit. Think of it this way, some guys will just be in a relationship for the sake of it, then he will cheat, stray or dump you for a better guy coming along. It's like you have a job, will move and settle for a better job and give your old job 2 weeks notice. The problem with this is, it turns many gay men so jaded and losing faith in other gay men lol. I, personally, can't fake to be with a guy just for the sake of it. Honestly, it's better to just be single and sleep around with no attachment. icon_razz.gificon_cool.gif Oh Well, keep on looking, GL.
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    May 13, 2015 7:32 PM GMT
    patito said
    __morphic__ saidit's MEN - gay/straight/bi


    yeah but there is a BUT.

    I agree that all men are sleazy as fuck

    but seriously.

    seriously.

    you can't put them all in the same group. cos it's just not right.

    we all know gay men are WAY sluttier.
    so u saying ur a slut cause ur gay? ur such a steriotype
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    May 13, 2015 8:44 PM GMT
    It's not the gay men, it's you. Strong self worth will cure you of attracting losers and users. If you appear weak or needy, these loser/shallow/moronic men will walk all over you.
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    May 13, 2015 9:25 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidIt's not the gay men, it's you. Strong self worth will cure you of attracting losers and users. If you appear weak or needy, these loser/shallow/moronic men will walk all over you.


    you nailed it.

    I am going back to doing yoga.

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    May 13, 2015 9:27 PM GMT
    Poegie said so u saying ur a slut cause ur gay? ur such a steriotype


    some people need to go back to elementary school.
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    May 13, 2015 9:29 PM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    Perhaps traits of Italian men?




    yes Hiker, that is very true.

    lol
  • Wendigo9

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    May 14, 2015 6:13 AM GMT
    I understand what you mean, my last breakup still haunts me every late april (hurts too), but that's because I latched on to something foolishly. The good guys are those who are more social and level-headed, like friends you learn to trust all in good time. Think about it. . .
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    May 15, 2015 4:28 AM GMT
    Wendigo9 said The good guys are those who are more social and level-headed, like friends you learn to trust all in good time. Think about it. . .


    yes, i agree.

    & i hate to generalize but makes sense.

    if there's one thing I learned from experience is that the more solitary and antisocial people are, the more likely they'll be to play games, have hidden issues, hidden agenda and deliberately hurt other people.

    I used to have so much sympathy for anti-socials.

    the last guy I dated was Leonard from Big bang theory.

    he was just so awkward and hard to read.

    after 3 months of dating I learned he was dating 2 other people at the same time.

    we broke up and now he creates fake okcupid accounts to talk to me.
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    Wendigo9 said The good guys are those who are more social and level-headed, like friends you learn to trust all in good time. Think about it. . .


    yes, i agree.

    & i hate to generalize but makes sense.

    if there's one thing I learned from experience is that the more solitary and antisocial people are, the more likely they'll be to play games, have hidden issues, hidden agenda and deliberately hurt other people.

    I used to have so much sympathy for anti-socials.

    the last guy I dated was Leonard from Big bang theory.

    he was just so awkward and hard to read.

    Live and learn (I hope).. Could have been worse - if you had been dating Sheldon.
  • Wendigo9

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    May 17, 2015 9:13 AM GMT
    Long as none of you go for a six foot black "milhouse" from Toronto, should be alright. In the past we were all young and stupid, but geez what the hell was I thinking XD lol
  • bear4bear

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    May 23, 2015 4:34 AM GMT
    patito saidDo ALL gay men do this?


    All I can say, is just keep looking. I finally thought I had found one of the good ones, only to be sorely disappointed. So I'm back looking again. Never give up hope!
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    May 23, 2015 5:37 AM GMT
    I remember a time many years ago when the only guy I could have sex with was a narcissist thief (yes, he stole me money) Some friends theorized that I had issues, that I was only into problem guys...

    It turns out the only reason I was with that psychopath was the total lack of better options. My other "options" were guys who were absolutely unattractive to me. This predator was several leagues above me or anyone who was interested in me at the time. Narcissists are known to deliberately prey on lower league pools as victims are easier to manipulate since these psychos are unlikely to have competition.

    A wealth of information is revealed once you factor in hierarchies of erotic capital (leagues)