its a long read
this was floating around on (gay)
the article tends to ramble a bit but it closes with; "gay is also resilient, and it has a way of thriving best when welcomed least"

it was a well written article as opposed to saying anything really new. Not necessary in any order, but some quotes:

learn how to be Jewish from your family; in most cases, your parents cannot teach you how to be gay.

I have a hard, almost impossible time remembering what I was like before it. I mean this quite literally—I know that I existed before gay, that I had a pretty great childhood and adolescence in upstate South Carolina. But that guy—the nerdy, vaguely effeminate band geek with the bad hair—seems like a stranger to me now, or like a character from a movie I haven’t seen in years. He’s vaguely there, but his psychology and motivations, his desires and worries, are like faded marks on a poorly erased whiteboard. Apparently, Bartlett is right: Nothing really happened until such time as I identified myself as a gay man.

a person’s homosexuality should not be taken as evidence of any special affiliation, just as heterosexuals, united only by their sexual connection and propensity for procreation, are never assumed to share anything else.

homosexuality is endemic to the human species

a cocktail party where there were a bunch of older gay men, and everyone was dull, dull, dull. I was complaining about this to my friend, and at some point he put his hand on my arm and said, ‘Darling, here’s the thing: Most of the interesting people died. That’s all there is to it.’ ”

(In addition to the standard objections to flamboyance and effeminacy, Gray offers another example: “I’ve met a number of young men who said, ‘I don't know if I’m really gay because I just want one partner.’ ”)

James Franco, who recently declared: “I’m gay in my art and straight in my life.”

I may have been born homosexual, but I choose to live gayly

gay is good, though making that argument in a world in which identity is becoming both more complex and more contested will be difficult. But gay is also resilient, and it has a way of thriving best when welcomed least.