Am I just average?

  • bradleyDean

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    May 14, 2015 1:08 PM GMT
    As a young man who works out regularly, and tries, keyword is tries to eat right, I often feel like it's too easy to give up sure to a feeling of mediocrity. As an artist, I hate to have that feeling. Then I admire really sexy guys and it makes me feel even farther below the line. I strive to reach that line, but it is difficult when you work around carbs all day and the only people who understand why you feel this way are a half state away. I don't know, just thought I'd share some thoughts.
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    May 14, 2015 3:25 PM GMT
    Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder icon_smile.gif
    Stop beating yourself down , you are a very handsome bloke icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 14, 2015 4:15 PM GMT
    You're definitely above average, even for gay. That being said, look what passes for average these days.

    You are six months, if that, from a totally rockin' bod.
  • secondstartot...

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    May 14, 2015 4:21 PM GMT
    you have a typical "boy next door " look about you and a very attractive body ...and a rather pleasant face !! you could do with a really good haircut ...not too short but something with more structure .... and I now have a sore neck from looking at you sideways !
  • Destinharbor

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    May 14, 2015 4:29 PM GMT
    Don't eat the carbs. If you want to be leaner, don't eat the carbs. The distance between where you are and where you want to be is nothing more than determination and sacrifice. No one, whether a half state or a half foot away, can help you with that. Average people blame others or circumstances for their failures. Exceptional people get things done.
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    May 14, 2015 4:38 PM GMT
    No, you are above average.

    Your face is a easy 8, meaning you can have sex with pretty much anyone you want. Play safely. More importantly, it means your structure will look good into your older years. Some guys look good enough when younger, they might be sevens and then if they keep their bods in great shape it might temporarily bring them up a notch. If they're real confident or just cocky they might come off a notch or two higher, if yer drunk. But you can tell from looking at them--when not just looking with your dick but with an objective eye--how they will age and often that picture ain't so pretty.

    You're going to age fine. In fact you'll probably get better looking as you age. Don't obsess about it but stay in decent shape and into your 30s/40s, people passing will be going "woof". Never let yourself get obese, just stay fit and then don't worry so much about some body fat. Looks like you carry it naturally and you carry it well. Not everyone is built to be saran-wrapped. Your chest will develop into your 20s and that will bring your bod into better proportion.

    Someone might like the anemic look but I think it looks sickly. To me guys look better a little beefy.
  • BloodFlame

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    May 14, 2015 5:59 PM GMT
    Are you serious??
    You look fine OP. And as you can tell from the other comments, they agree too. You look handsome and you shouldn't be stressing over this because it's not healthy. As for the carbs thing, the only thing I can suggest is try bringing your own food to work (I'm assuming you work in the food industry). That's probably the best way to fight the urge to eat them.

    But still, you look great. Don't beat yourself up. Just continue doing what you're doing. icon_smile.gif
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    May 14, 2015 7:18 PM GMT
    You're not even twenty yet, you were captain of a school sports team, you're pursuing a degree in a field you're passionate and talented in, you love the outdoors and conveniently live in your own apartment in Colorado, you already got a good physique to work with, and you're sticking to the routine that'll get you to the goals you have.

    You seem self-sufficient and on your way to success, buddy. 'Average' isn't a factor, as long as you're doing what you're passionate about, and making headway. Keep doing what you're doing, and take inspiration from the fact that you've made it as far as you have. You really should be proud of your accomplishments--it shows that you do what you set out to do.

    So, if you really feel you're 'mediocre', set a non-mediocre goal for yourself. If you keep doing what you've been doing, stay motivated and determined, you'll be sure to make progress. Plan your work, work your plan, and keep it up. Be proud of yourself.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 14, 2015 7:55 PM GMT
    Give yourself some credit. When I was 19, I was busy teaching 4 levels of horsemanship and a full time college student. I was learning what is important to me, sometimes that takes several years and (hopefully) all clicks into place. If you are thinking about nutrition at your age, you are way ahead of others.
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    May 14, 2015 8:19 PM GMT
    You will always be hot to someone else. Lol, for every guys who are not into you, there'll be other guys who are into you! Just go watch that movie *He's just not that into you*. You will be an exception to someone else. Just eat healthy, and keep a balanced healthy diet. And don't get super obese/fat, happened to my gay friend recently, he's so depressed now. icon_neutral.gificon_cool.gif
  • giodude

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    May 14, 2015 8:21 PM GMT
    self perception is a real bitch OP

    In my honest opinion, you're above average. If i had to see you on campus or at the mall or whatever, i'd look twice

    I get where you're coming from with seeing hot guys and berating yourself internally for not being that hot. I was at tae kwan do practice this evening and another club joined ours, and all the guys - and i mean ALL - had huge pecs, ripped abs, nicely shaped calves, big defined thighs and perfect faces. The instructor was crowned Mr south africa (he was unreal) and his students look like guys he found at his modelling agency. You could see their muscles through their uniforms and the uniforms are loose fitting. They all took off their clothes casually and changed into their Doboks (uniforms) and i just stood there with my matchstick legs and thought "why the fuck do i even go to the gym? I never gain weight and never gain muscle. I'm fuckin hideous"

    I've been there. and no matter how much people tell you ' Don't worry! you're so handsome' you just don't believe them, because your own body will never conform to your mind's image of beauty. Seeing men like that makes you scurtinise yourself and make you aware of all your flaws - you become ugly to yourself.
    It's a big hurdle to get over, and working out and exercising takes so long to yield results you become despondent.
    You just shouldn't give up. As unappealing as it seems, and no matter how much you don't want to do it, clench your teeth and push through. If you're in a bad place, keep walking, and you'll get to somewhere better.

    Now that I've said that, it's time for me to take my own advice
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    May 14, 2015 8:22 PM GMT
    If you don't know you're beautiful, you are beautiful. icon_razz.gif
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    May 14, 2015 9:27 PM GMT
    Don't look average to me.
  • joxguy

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    May 14, 2015 11:22 PM GMT
    Hey don't be so hard on yourself. You at least are concerned enough to worry. In reading your profile I would make one suggestion. You say you do 20 minutes of cardio three days a week.

    Here is the info on cardio, it takes a good 6 minutes to get you heart rate up to where cardio can do something. Then it take at least 6 more minutes to get to the top of the heart rate. With that in mind you are only giving your body 8 minutes of work at the top level of heart rate.

    Up your cardio to a minimum of 30 minutes, but for your age you need to do at least 45. It will make a difference.
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    May 15, 2015 12:41 AM GMT
    The premise of this diary is kind of unpleasant, I think. Average or above average ... It makes self worth a zero-sum game.

    Look like yourself and get comfortable with that, and hopefully even happy about it. The less you can compare yourself to other people, the happier you will be.
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    May 15, 2015 6:05 AM GMT
    Confidence comes from within.
    You can look amazing and still not be confident, you know.
    Stop comparing. It only leads to misery.
    Concentrate and focus on you and your character.
    That's what's gonna make you most attractive.

    "average"ness is a moot issue.
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    May 15, 2015 6:40 AM GMT
    OP, the average doesn't matter, you're handsome.

    The only thing below average are your shady photos.
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    May 15, 2015 12:16 PM GMT
    Looks are just the opening for someone to see your personality..
    What's within is what makes you a keeper.
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    May 15, 2015 2:08 PM GMT
    Bradley,

    How do you want to measure yourself? Do you want to find yourself coming up short and constantly lacking?

    Take the wins you have. It's healthy to want to improve, but don't let that destroy you.

  • YTC1989

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    May 15, 2015 6:05 PM GMT
    Yes. If you were one of my girl friends asking "do these jeans make me look fat?" I might answer less honesty lol
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    May 15, 2015 6:10 PM GMT
    What the hell is "average?" Stop comparing yourself to others.
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    May 15, 2015 6:31 PM GMT
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    May 15, 2015 8:52 PM GMT
    Hey man... don't worry about being average or not. That type of thinking will hold you back on your routine. Think in terms of your body - think about how well you sleep, recover from a sprint run, endure a long day on your feet, how you actually physically feel after eating a balanced meal opposed to a carb bomb. Your body will tell you exactly what feels good or bad. Your eyes are limited only to what you can see. So get more in tuned with your body's signals and your weight will balance... and you'll feel better regardless of average or not. icon_biggrin.gif


    bradleyDean saidAs a young man who works out regularly, and tries, keyword is tries to eat right, I often feel like it's too easy to give up sure to a feeling of mediocrity. As an artist, I hate to have that feeling. Then I admire really sexy guys and it makes me feel even farther below the line. I strive to reach that line, but it is difficult when you work around carbs all day and the only people who understand why you feel this way are a half state away. I don't know, just thought I'd share some thoughts.
  • jaxsurfer

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    May 15, 2015 10:14 PM GMT
    You are way, and I mean way above average, oh and don't buy into the lie that carbs are bad as others say, EXCESSIVE carb intake is bad. Feed yourself, don't overfeed, Mister Sexy~
  • mybud

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    May 15, 2015 10:23 PM GMT
    I'll be honest...Saying you work around carbs is an excuse...If you truly want to attract who you're attracted to, you're going to have to resist temptation.Are you average? Never label yourself... I've worked with teens with disabilities for years... I've observed that when you label a child...They live up to that label....Be you...Cause that's probably a pretty fantastic individual....All the best.