This guy at my gym said I look autistic

  • venue35

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    May 15, 2015 1:01 PM GMT
    Of course I was annoyed.
    He said he meant it as a compliment.
    And that autistic people are actually really smart.
    He's in the closet and just got married at 42.
    That kind of takes the sting out of the whole situation
    I feel insulted though..
    I have never heard something like that aimed at me before...
  • secondstartot...

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    May 15, 2015 1:44 PM GMT
    hey mister ...so.. first let us pretend that the guy has a speech impediment and meant to say artistic ..aRtistic ...

    you are very good looking !

    secondly ...it just happens to be one of my soap boxes at the moment ...there is a huge evil movement at the moment which is using autistic people as one of their weapons

    Autism is not a disease and autistic people are not stupid or retarded ... they are just different and function differently

    the truth is that no body really knows what causes it exactly ..there are a lot of hypothesis but no exact theory !

    it is a stupid thing to say to you ...but you really should not be insulted ...autistic children are very special and unique and with care and attention can find a way of coping
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    May 15, 2015 1:53 PM GMT
    What does an autistic person look like? I had somebody tell me I look like a balloon in the Macy's parade. People say all kinds of shit.
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    May 15, 2015 2:01 PM GMT
    Functional autism is a blessing, because the people who have it usually have high IQ's as well. I have ADHD, which is part of the autism spectrum, and wouldn't trade it for shit. I don't even take meds. It's nice to be able to focus my attention on the things that really matter (to me), while everyone else gets distracted by mundane b/s. icon_wink.gif
  • venue35

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    May 15, 2015 3:40 PM GMT
    Paul I have a serious case of ADD so maybe that's why I received that comment. People will say many things to catch you off guard why exactly I do not know.
  • venue35

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    May 15, 2015 3:42 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidhey mister ...so.. first let us pretend that the guy has a speech impediment and meant to say artistic ..aRtistic ...

    you are very good looking !

    secondly ...it just happens to be one of my soap boxes at the moment ...there is a huge evil movement at the moment which is using autistic people as one of their weapons

    Autism is not a disease and autistic people are not stupid or retarded ... they are just different and function differently

    the truth is that no body really knows what causes it exactly ..there are a lot of hypothesis but no exact theory !

    it is a stupid thing to say to you ...but you really should not be insulted ...autistic children are very special and unique and with care and attention can find a way of coping
    Thanks for your kind words..
    I'm not autistic though. I know this woman who works with autistic kids and it can be unpleasant and hard but they are great kids she said. I'm just trying to figure out WHY he said that...
  • venue35

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    May 15, 2015 3:44 PM GMT
    DefensiveEnd saidWhat does an autistic person look like? I had somebody tell me I look like a balloon in the Macy's parade. People say all kinds of shit.
    you do not look like a balloon.
    What a stupid thing to say to someone
    I do not know what an autistic person looks like.
    Retarded but cute?? I don't know why the fuck he said that probably to get me all insecure like a mind game and it's working
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    May 15, 2015 4:00 PM GMT
    Autistic people have no particular look. You cannot tell if someone is autistic simply by looking at them. My guess is the guy has no idea what autism is and was grasping at something to strike up a conversation with. In other words, it was his clumsy attempt at hitting on you.
  • venue35

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    May 15, 2015 4:08 PM GMT
    I agree. He was trying to appear really intelligent and it came out wrong.
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    May 15, 2015 8:48 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidit is a stupid thing to say to you

    Not only stupid but rude as well. How can anyone think that it's appropriate to say something like that to someone? Some people also don't understand that it's wrong to ask stuff like that about a person's child or pet.

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    May 15, 2015 9:31 PM GMT
    Maybe he was from Boston.

    My Mother arrived from Germany in December of 1948 and told the NYC cab driver where she wanted to go. He turned around and asked, "Are you from Joisey?"

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  • mybud

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    May 15, 2015 10:51 PM GMT
    The guy's jealous and you, and not your friend.
  • bobbobbob

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    May 15, 2015 11:59 PM GMT
    If the guy was speaking to you in English as a 2nd language cut him some slack. With my background in a few languages other than English I can tell you it's EASY to make embarrassing solecisms in writing or speech.
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    May 16, 2015 6:13 AM GMT
    Brah:

    Don't sweat it, I'm certain he meant something else. And if you aren't convinced, ask what does and autistic person look like?
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    May 16, 2015 7:19 AM GMT
    venue35 saidPaul I have a serious case of ADD so maybe that's why I received that comment. People will say many things to catch you off guard why exactly I do not know.
    I thought there was something awesome about you. That "serious" case of ADD means you're able to be hyper-focused on stuff that you are interested in.

    Embrace your difference from the regular mundane society and enjoy the ability to truly be yourself. These "normies" will never understand what it's like to truly know life. They think living is all about being a part of social norms. Us autistics know that living is about saying "fuck you" to social norms, and paying closer attention to the more interesting things in life. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 16, 2015 12:58 PM GMT
    Ntyson saidBrah:

    Don't sweat it, I'm certain he meant something else. And if you aren't convinced, ask what does and autistic person look like?


    Were you wearing a beret and carrying an easel under your arm? If so I think I know what happened
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    May 16, 2015 1:56 PM GMT
    pazzy saidyou had every right to feel insulted. that was basically a diss and he had the nerve to try to front like it wasn't. that's even worse.

    +1

    One of our friends is mentally slow. I mean seriously. But he doesn't look it. You have to speak with him to begin to realize he's very mentally challenged. Otherwise you'd assume he's an ordinary guy.

    He's 50 and his partner died a couple of months ago. Poor guy is totally lost. His relatives are talking about having him committed. Not merely because he's gay, like wrongly happened to "Brother Boy" in Sordid Lives, but because he's truly incompetent. It may be the best thing for him, I hate to admit.

    But you'd never know it to initially look at him. Rather attractive man, and seeing him you could easily be attracted to him. Until he opens his mouth and you realize his severe limitations. We all try to look after him, and I've been trying to help him understand his computer, which his late partner always did for him. But hopeless - he'll never do it on his own. icon_sad.gif

    That guy saying the OP looks autistic is a jerk. He doesn't look autistic (I'm not sure there is such a thing), and he writes competently & intelligently. The guy who said that should shove it up his own autistic ass. icon_razz.gif
  • venue35

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    May 16, 2015 2:35 PM GMT
    Thanks. I talk to this guy frequently at my gym and he has said that he finds me attractive. I will ask him why he said what he said and what gave him that impression.
  • killercliche

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    May 16, 2015 7:40 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said. The guy who said that should shove it up his own autistic ass. icon_razz.gif


    Saying things like that is being part of the problem.

    Also, people with autism aren't "slow" or mentally deficient or retarded so I'm not sure why you went on about your friend who has nothing to do with autism.

    To OP, autism is not like downs syndrome where the condition has coinciding physical features and is more noticeable by mannerism and postures. The guy clearly meant another word or is ignorant about autism, not an uncommon thing in this society. My advice is to forget about it, it meant nothing.
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    May 16, 2015 7:50 PM GMT
    killercliche said
    Art_Deco said...
    I'm not sure why you went on about your friend who has nothing to do with autism.

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    May 19, 2015 12:08 AM GMT
    He's awkward. You're hot. Don't stress about it.
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    May 19, 2015 12:10 AM GMT
    LMAO. icon_lol.gif

    That's so awkward and strange. What do autistic ppl look like anyway? I usually can't tell like I can with someone that has down's syndrome.


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    May 19, 2015 12:18 AM GMT
    venue35 saidOf course I was annoyed.
    He said he meant it as a compliment.
    And that autistic people are actually really smart.
    He's in the closet and just got married at 42.
    That kind of takes the sting out of the whole situation
    I feel insulted though..
    I have never heard something like that aimed at me before...


    Why do you give a fuck what some dude in the closet thinks ?
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    May 19, 2015 12:30 AM GMT
    My opinion is that the autism is not a illness and the autistic people have many capabilities and great heart, besides, I wild wish a sexy autistic friend ;)

    You do not look like an autistic man, besides you are so sexy, I would wish meet a guy so sensual as you.

    The people should be a open mind and be respectful.
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    May 19, 2015 12:45 AM GMT
    venue35 saidThanks. I talk to this guy frequently at my gym and he has said that he finds me attractive. I will ask him why he said what he said and what gave him that impression.

    He has the hots for you.. like most the guys on RJ and was just pulling your leg to get a rise outta you.
    My man has a form of autism called aspergers syndrome.
    We have a few guys here in the forums with it as well. Fully functioning guys with a gift. Just don't make em' mad...
    As we all know,, the OP doesn't suffer fools well.
    My favorite giggle was when OP called someone Fu*kface the other day...icon_cool.gif