Straight guy interested?

  • AZski

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    May 16, 2015 4:45 AM GMT
    I have a question guys... Might seem dumb, but I could use some perspective.

    Most of my friends are straight, and some don't even know that I swing both ways. I met a really hot friend of a friend a week or so ago. The guy talked about a girl friend. I would not assume he is gay or bi (other than the fact he is almost too hot to be straight. ha!). However, he asks me to hit him up before he leaves that night (we are all sober), so I get his number and text him my name, while we are still talking, so he has my number in his phone. Later that night at 2AM he texts me, reiterating that we should hang out some time... I thought that was odd. After that we have been texting back and forth, long paragraph length texts (something I don't do with my platonic straight buds)...

    I don't want to read too much into this, or be barking up the wrong tree.... But do you think this guy might have some non-platonic interest in me?

    Thanks!
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    May 16, 2015 4:59 AM GMT
    Possible - you won't know until the subject is broached. He could have just latched onto you as his next best buddy. No accounting for the strange bro behavior of young straight men.
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    May 16, 2015 5:02 AM GMT
    Maybe break the ice with him by bringing up how you came to the realization that you're bi...it could move the convo in that direction of he feels more comfortable opening up since you already did.
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    May 16, 2015 5:07 AM GMT
    Why even ask the internet? Just go with the flow and be his friend. He'll eventually let you know he's interested, if he is.
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 16, 2015 5:11 AM GMT
    He's into you ... gay or not ... and that ain't bad icon_smile.gif
  • mybud

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    May 16, 2015 5:12 AM GMT
    It's too soon to tell..Back off a little, and befriend him.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    May 16, 2015 8:04 AM GMT
    The thing that really matters is that your new friend is interested in being in touch with you.

    Only you know the subject of your chats, so only you can judge in which direction is his interest going.

    I would stop short of addressing the gay/bi sexual orientation issue at all. He talked about his GF, so he presents himself as a str8 dude to the rest of the world for all you know.

    Now, we all know that a few str8 dudes out there are a bit less str8 than you would really expect them to be. The chances are though, that if you raise the sexual orientation issue, he may run for the hills. A dude who is keen on keeping a carefully crafted facade that he is str8 is likely to avoid being seen with someone who is known or even suspected to be gay/bi. A few people still believe in 'guilt by association'... To some this is a breaking point; to the others it does not matter that much. And to some it doesn't matter at all. But it hardly makes any sense to risk diminishing your chances for apparently no reason.

    IMHE, discretion rules supreme with the 'oh-not-so-str8' dudes. If you project yourself as someone who is very quiet about his private affairs, few cans of beer, some pizza and a movie can turn out to be a good working scenarioicon_biggrin.gif

    SC



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    May 16, 2015 2:48 PM GMT
    Switch hitter drama of the week. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • AZski

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    May 16, 2015 9:08 PM GMT
    wRUSStle saidSwitch hitter drama of the week. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Queeny, worthless comment of the week. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Relajado

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    May 16, 2015 9:32 PM GMT
    HikerSkier saidPossible - you won't know until the subject is broached. He could have just latched onto you as his next best buddy. No accounting for the strange bro behavior of young straight men.


    This.

    Just sound like good friends and if not, well, either way the procedure is the same: continue as is and get to know each other.

    What's a switch hitter question?
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    May 16, 2015 11:03 PM GMT
    AZski said
    wRUSStle saidSwitch hitter drama of the week. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Queeny, worthless comment of the week. icon_rolleyes.gif
    Not as queeny and worthless as having a crush on a straight friend while pretending to be straight yourself. icon_wink.gif
  • AZski

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    May 17, 2015 12:49 AM GMT
    Paulflexes, if this is so dumb to you, why are you even responding? Just to be a dumb bitch? Mission accomplished!

    Now go be a dumb bitch some where else.
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    May 17, 2015 1:14 AM GMT
    The answer is no. I have 2 straight friends who are like your friend. They text me at all hours of the day and night. If it means anything, he just wants to be your friend.
  • MikeW

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    May 17, 2015 2:06 AM GMT
    I don't understand why you just can't say something like, "Hey, you know, you're quite a hot guy. Do you ever mess around with other guys? I'd be totally up for it if you did..."

    I mean, what's wrong with saying something like that. You're giving him a complement. If he's not interested he'll say so.

    Will he back off from getting to know you because now he knows you're a "fag" or w/e? Well, if he does, what kind of real friendship can you build with the guy anyway?

    I've had lots of straight guy friends of varying ages throughout my life. I learned long ago not to crush on them. Ever. However, some of them can be very flirtatious and sometimes you have to call them out on it and set some boundaries. I don't know whether its because they like the attention or because they have some latent/repressed interest of their own or w/e, the thing is you have to be clear with them about what you want, what works for you and what doesn't.
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    May 17, 2015 2:13 AM GMT
    "MikeW said I don't understand why you just can't say something like, "Hey, you know, you're quite a hot guy. Do you ever mess around with other guys? I'd be totally up for it if you did..."

    Sorry, but if you're wanting sex from this guy, this is the worst thing you could possibly do. Take it from me....all of my close friends are straight men. If he's closeted in the least, the minute you verbalize anything "gay" he will run like lightening and you'll never see him again. Best thing you can do is just follow his lead and let him make all the moves. These type of guys want desperately to fuck another man but they don't like to be reminded that's what they're doing. I know it sounds fucked up but that's just how they are.
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    May 17, 2015 3:24 AM GMT
    Bagging a "straight" guy....priceless
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    May 18, 2015 6:56 PM GMT
    AZski saidI have a question guys... Might seem dumb, but I could use some perspective.

    Most of my friends are straight, and some don't even know that I swing both ways. I met a really hot friend of a friend a week or so ago. The guy talked about a girl friend. I would not assume he is gay or bi (other than the fact he is almost too hot to be straight. ha!). However, he asks me to hit him up before he leaves that night (we are all sober), so I get his number and text him my name, while we are still talking, so he has my number in his phone. Later that night at 2AM he texts me, reiterating that we should hang out some time... I thought that was odd. After that we have been texting back and forth, long paragraph length texts (something I don't do with my platonic straight buds)...

    I don't want to read too much into this, or be barking up the wrong tree.... But do you think this guy might have some non-platonic interest in me?

    Thanks!



    Sounds like how I met my partner. He still is has some internal
    Homophobia and we have been together more than two years . It's tough for some guys.
  • rnch

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    May 18, 2015 7:09 PM GMT
    mybud saidIt's too soon to tell..Back off a little, and befriend him.




    Wise Words.
  • goodmagic

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    May 18, 2015 7:31 PM GMT
    It depends how old he is? If he's a young guy texting you at 2 am I wouldn't read too much into it. I have straight guys texting me late at night too but it's usually about some bullshit.

    It depends how bad you want to find out. A good tactic I like to use is to send a hot tranny friend his way and see how he reacts. If he turns skittish he's straight. If he's likes the tranny he's bi.

    Another way to find out is to see what type of underwear he wears. If you guys go shopping or you just ask him what brand underwear he wears.


    Gay Underwear
    2xist
    Papi
    C-12
    Diesel
    Calvin Klein( depends on the cut)
    Jock Straps

    Straight Underwear
    Tommy
    Polo
    FTL
    Jockey
    Hanes

    If he's not into you It still pays to have a hot straight stud as a bud. It increases your stock value!
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    May 18, 2015 8:35 PM GMT
    Goddamn when will this whole 'str8/bi' bullshit leave the gay community ?
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    May 18, 2015 9:53 PM GMT
    ryyyder saidGoddamn when will this whole 'str8/bi' bullshit leave the gay community ?

    When hell freezes over. There will always be guys who are "bi", or think they are.
  • davfit

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    May 19, 2015 12:39 AM GMT
    Yes maybe ...let him explore
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    May 19, 2015 6:51 AM GMT
    Sounds like a normal straight guy, don't think too much about him.
  • tobyb

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    May 19, 2015 7:41 AM GMT
    Sounds like it's too soon to tell what he's interested in. But if you want to have a shot at having sex with him, avoid talking about any girlfriends you've had, or women you might be interested in. Or at least say "I don't think I'm into her," leaving it ambiguous about what you are into. If he asks what you are into, say you're not sure, and see if he reciprocates. If you're going to be true friends, whether you wind up having any sex or not, you shouldn't pretend to be something you're not.
  • SuntoryTime

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    May 19, 2015 11:25 AM GMT
    #1 Question: Does he know you're gay/bi?