Question for bigger/stronger guys: how can you be so unaware of yor own strength?


  • May 22, 2015 7:49 AM GMT
    As someone that is physically weaker and smaller, I've found that most bigger, taller men do not know their own strength. It seems that most tops enjoy being dominant and even use their physical strength to their advantage during sex. If I were a bigger guy I would be so sensitive to how I was making my partner feel when we were in bed. But most if not all tops care only about their own pleasure and do not realize that they have the potential to harm their smaller partners. Even when playfully flirting/wrestling they get too aggressive. How can you not use common sense and realize that you have to be more sensitive and gentle with a smaller human being?
  • secondstartot...

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    May 22, 2015 9:03 AM GMT
    how many guys are you basing this analysis on ?

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    May 22, 2015 2:20 PM GMT
    Of dwarf-tossing, "Wolf of Wall Street" said it best: "They're built to be thrown."https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EQlgrw31St0
  • Eli_jah

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    May 23, 2015 1:41 AM GMT
    Communication is key. If your partner is being too rough with you, tell him. I don't know, some guys get off on the dominance thing.
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    May 23, 2015 2:01 AM GMT
    Solution: Start working out, lifting heavier weights, and eating more protein.

    Then you can be just as strong as the dudes you hook up with. icon_biggrin.gif

  • May 23, 2015 3:42 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidBitch, please.

    You love every second of it.

    And you keep coming back for more. Otherwise you'd find tops that are your size.


    Okay fine, I won't lie... I looked at your pics and you are very attractive, you're obviously aware of that fact which is why you left such a cocky response.

    But that doesn't change the fact that I wouldn't want you to be an aggressive asshole and be rough and hurt me. I enjoy cuddling and spooning, I don't understand the psychology of wanting to dominate someone. And I dont enjoy being on the receiving end of it either.

    So no, I don't "love every second of it" it's actually the oposite.

  • May 23, 2015 4:26 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Calvin_Chronic said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidBitch, please.

    You love every second of it.

    And you keep coming back for more. Otherwise you'd find tops that are your size.


    Okay fine, I won't lie... I looked at your pics and you are very attractive, you're obviously aware of that fact which is why you left such a cocky response.

    But that doesn't change the fact that I wouldn't want you to be an aggressive asshole and be rough and hurt me. I enjoy cuddling and spooning, I don't understand the psychology of wanting to dominate someone. And I dont enjoy being on the receiving end of it either.

    So no, I don't "love every second of it" it's actually the oposite.


    I was really just playing. I don't think it's cool to hurt someone during sex. But domination and causing pain are two different things.


    Wanting to dominate someone is douchey even if you're not causing them pain.
  • Eli_jah

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    May 23, 2015 6:00 AM GMT
    Calvin_Chronic said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Calvin_Chronic said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidBitch, please.

    You love every second of it.

    And you keep coming back for more. Otherwise you'd find tops that are your size.


    Okay fine, I won't lie... I looked at your pics and you are very attractive, you're obviously aware of that fact which is why you left such a cocky response.

    But that doesn't change the fact that I wouldn't want you to be an aggressive asshole and be rough and hurt me. I enjoy cuddling and spooning, I don't understand the psychology of wanting to dominate someone. And I dont enjoy being on the receiving end of it either.

    So no, I don't "love every second of it" it's actually the oposite.


    I was really just playing. I don't think it's cool to hurt someone during sex. But domination and causing pain are two different things.


    Wanting to dominate someone is douchey even if you're not causing them pain.


    No it's not "douchey". A lot of guys get off on that, on both ends. Some men like to submit to other men. No biggie. I think you have bottom shame, bro.
  • secondstartot...

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    May 23, 2015 10:07 AM GMT
    Madonna — 'A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That's why they don't get what they want.'
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    May 23, 2015 2:03 PM GMT
    "douchey"??

    Not even in the neighborhood.

    It's been my experience; men want to be thrown against the wall and often.
    --Sucks always having to "dominate",just because you're a big guy.
    BTW: plenty of "dominate" bottoms and in this department size doesn't matter as much as attitude.