Pay it Forward...

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    May 23, 2015 11:30 PM GMT
    Yesterday at work, I was one of the last ones to leave and I was telling a kitchen worker "I'll see you Tuesday" (we're closed for Memorial Day) and she said, no I'll see you Wednesday. She was going on a trip to see her younger brother in the hospital who has no one. No parents, spouse, children etc. Only her.

    She had asked me to get a key to get her in a locked closet that had her purse in it. Little did I know it was her Diabetes bag that held her testing kit and insulin. She mentioned that she had to take a bus about 4 hours south, then a cousin would take her to the hospital to see her brother who has pneumonia.

    I went about my work and it really ate at me, knowing that I can get in my car and drive wherever I like and she was going to have to take a bus so far away to see a family member that was ill. It really put in perspective what a luxury we have in life to be employed with money in our pocket when so many struggle. While she ran in the bathroom and to clock out, I went back to her Diabetes bag and put a $20. on top for her trip.

    I split back to the catering kitchen so she could depart and not have to show any gratitude. A dishman came by and asked if I knew who left the $20. on her bag.. and I merely shrugged my shoulders.. then said, I think I saw an Angel fly through and leave it.

    So today, about 24 hrs. later, I find myself at the Dallas Museum of Art getting ready to buy a ticket to one of the exhibits for my man and I, and here comes this lady that says, hey, I have a spare ticket to the show if you guys want it.
    I offered to buy it from her but she refused.

    It really struck a cord in me that humans can do nice things for each other if given the chance.

    Have you guys ever found yourself paying it forward?
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    May 23, 2015 11:47 PM GMT
    a random act of kindness is a man made thing, there is no connection between good and bad.

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    May 24, 2015 12:00 AM GMT
    Hey pal it was nice from you, but why did you leave the $20? Was she struggling with money? Some people might take your kindness as a pity act and take offense on it. When reading your story I thought you were gonna say that you drove her to the hospital yourself.
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    May 24, 2015 12:06 AM GMT
    David666k saidHey pal it was nice from you, but why did you leave the $20? Was she struggling with money? Some people might take your kindness as a pity act and take offense on it. When reading your story I thought you were gonna say that you drove her to the hospital yourself.

    Yes, she is struggling with money. She only works part time and from a temp agency at that. So, she has no benefits.
    I felt any kind of help was better than nothing at all.
    She wasn't asking for anything, and nor was I asking for any recognition. I was merely paying it forward.
    As for RJ, I'm merely sharing and asking if anyone has had a similar experience.
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    May 24, 2015 12:28 AM GMT
    Altruism and Empathy. Two very awesome traits that make the human species capable of doing wonderful things. Although, both traits are debatable in the scientific community because science would say that we developed these characteristics to ensure the survival of our species. So rather than being selfless, we are actually, in a way, being a little bit selfish. I can see that to a degree...But my personal opinion is that it goes deeper than that. I think its the possible reflection of the soul. I digress....


    I think what you did was super awesome so Way to go GND! Keep it up if and whenever possible of course icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 24, 2015 1:08 AM GMT


    "Have you guys ever found yourself paying it forward?"

    Yes. What you did was damn fine.
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    May 24, 2015 1:32 AM GMT
    Yes, I do pay it forward when I can. icon_smile.gif
    You did something good. Keep doing what your heart tells you to do. icon_wink.gif
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    May 24, 2015 1:35 AM GMT
    You made the world a better place in that moment.
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    May 24, 2015 2:58 AM GMT
    I love stories like these, it comforts me to know that people look out for each other. With that said, there are two quotes from Gandhi that really moved me: “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” and “The simplest acts of kindness are by far more powerful then a thousand heads bowing in prayer.”

    Even the fact that you recognized your luxury and understood that there are people who are facing hardships is extremely respectable.

    And to answer your question, I'm a huge fan of paying it forward icon_biggrin.gif I currently volunteer at a retirement home where I've grown to love the residents, the soup kitchen where I've learned to respect and understand all situations, as-well as with victim service where it reminds me of how much I have and how lucky I am. I recently started my own non-profit organization for my city where we focus on providing food for those who do not have access to it.

    I wake up everyday knowing that I am making people smile and that's all that matters.
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    May 24, 2015 3:04 AM GMT
    ^^^
    Oh wow,, that's a perfect example of what I'm talking about!
    Sending you virtual hugs for your kindness towards others...icon_cool.gif
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    May 24, 2015 3:48 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidHave you guys ever found yourself paying it forward?
    Regularly. In fact I might ewven give one of my bicycles ($2500 current used value) to one of my best friends...just cause I hate selling stuff on ebay and craigslist.
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    May 24, 2015 3:49 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said Have you guys ever found yourself paying it forward?


    I try hard and sometimes it works.

    I was in line at a Walmart one day soon after my daughter had passed away. The girl ahead of me reminded we so much of her. Before she took out the last item in her cart, a huge 30 or 40 pound bag of dog food, she told the cashier that she wanted to see if her food assistance card had enough on it before she rang out. If it didn't, she was going to put something back so she would have enough money for her dog. She did have enough and she was able to get everything. After I rang out, I raced out to the parking lot to find her. All I wanted to do was to give her $50 just to help out but she was already gone. I'll never miss an opportunity like that again.

    You're right to say we have so much. We should always pay forward. Don't let an opportunity pass you by. That was a couple of years ago but I still look for while shopping there.
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    May 24, 2015 4:09 AM GMT
    pellaz saida random act of kindness is a man made thing, there is no connection between good and bad.

    *barfs*
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    May 24, 2015 9:21 AM GMT
    Back when I was a little kid living in Germany, my parents took me to the snack bar at the PX in Bad Nauheim, Germany for lunch. As I was sitting there stuffing my face with a 25-cent banana split, yes, 25 cents, I noticed a young girl, maybe 10 or 11.

    She was precariously balancing a 5 cent bowl (the cheapest item on the menu) of an ice cream scoop of mashed potatoes on one of those slippery cafeteria trays on the way to her seat. Of course it fell off onto the tile floor and smashed to bits.

    She started crying and picked up the shards onto her tray and made her way to her table. I watched her picking through the mess in an attempt to salvage something to eat.

    One of the women in the serving line couldn't help but notice and brought her another bowl and took away the tray. She told her to "Go ahead and eat your lunch, it's ok."

    I never forgot seeing that. I learned a lot that day.

    Forty-five years later, I still think of that little girl.
    I hope she's had a happy life.
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    May 24, 2015 9:44 PM GMT
    I find most people do not want to pay it forward, they just want to be the ones getting "paid". u gotta give a little to get a little.
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    May 24, 2015 11:59 PM GMT
    When I was a kid, this church in Alabama gave us food and let me pick toys in a pantry. They helped my mom get a job, which she eventually lost due to her own issues, but it was the thought that counts. As an adult, I send them a check for 5-10k each year, depending on my pay. A few times, they sent letters to me asking who I am, but I like being the mysterious benefactor.

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    May 25, 2015 2:23 AM GMT
    What a nice gesture.God sees all we do...good or bad.We hope you and your husband have a lovely safe holiday weekend!Ryan and Ruben
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    May 25, 2015 4:01 AM GMT
    I think acts of kindness benefit us often in ways we didn't expect. Some call it karma. I heard an expression, "You make a deposit in the North Branch and get a withdrawal from the South Branch."

    I was talking with a coach of youth hockey players who told me of such a situation. The kids he coached on a team consisted of the kids of some wealthy and famous people as well as kids from disadvantaged homes.

    His father took ill in the mid-west and he didn't have the money to visit him. One of the parents, a famous and powerful entertainment executive, heard about this and loaned him $5000. The coach told the father he would pay it back.

    Some time later after he returned, he was with the team during a lunch break. He saw one of the kids from a poor family didn't have anything to eat so he bought him a sandwich. Then a voice from a distance called him over. It was the executive who told him that his buying the boy a sandwich erased the debt and he would not accept any payment from the coach. (By the way, the executive has a reputation among the public as being pretty tough.)
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    May 25, 2015 9:31 AM GMT
    Yup I have and am trying to do some pay it foreword good kharma of sorts.

    OK 1st thing is why am I up at almost 2am? Sleep pattern change over the last few days I can't seem to break. There's more of an explanation if ya really want to know. Ask I guess?

    OK, after 6pm Sunday sitting outside on the patio on an unseasonably REALLY NICE evening (2 weeks ago) at my little small towns brew pub nursing an IPA and fucking around on my phone (on RJ as well as other places icon_smile.gif and myself rolling solo as usual a handsome (it's always sad so many good looking men are straight lol) (the species needs good breeding stock though) but disheveled, small framed guy about 5'4" 130lbs.(?)and I'd guess 40 yrs old rushes into the patio area and asks if anyone is heading west into Vancouver (WA) and whats the WiFi Password(?). I didn't remember it as I saved it years ago (drinkgoodale). Obviously this dude isn't a local as there's only 14K people total in this county and I'd have recognized him. He comes back and sits beside me and says he just got released early from jail (county lock up is 2 blocks away) and needs a ride into Vancouver, WA, or he will get arrested for vagrancy. The rural county bus only runs 4x per day round trip week days and 3x weekends and the last bus west leaves at 545pm. WTF?
    It only took 3 minutes of questions and convo with this guy for me to know he was sincere (or a serial killer) and I didn't finish that pint (2nd) and drove him to Vancouver (Mill Plain and 164th) and gave him a $20. He said he had an uncle who'd take him in for the night. Hope so. He was a sweet guy. Best of luck to him.

    As with anything around here in Skamania County, SW Washington, and rural America in general sadly methamphetamine is a horrible curse on these communities and is always compounded w/violence. I know more now than ever about this and am thinking about moving into Portland again. I'd miss this old place icon_sad.gif

    Oh, and have "gave" 2 "iron" bikes away to kinda hard luck cases who are friends of friends and hard drinkers but maniacal biking dudes and need to at least have a bike to get to work (PDX). They are connected and have upgraded those bikes significantly.

    I might have a real "save" to ad once court opens up Tuesday to share?