Do you prefer being ignored, blocked or told "I'm not interested, sorry"?

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    May 24, 2015 12:31 AM GMT
    I know a lot of guys prefer it when people are upfront/direct and tell them what they want. However I don't like being rejected. I understand that sometimes you're just not someone's type, but I would still rather be blocked or ignored.

    I'm super non-confrontational though, and when someone says "hey" it feels rude to just be straight up be like "hey, I'm not interested sorry" or "you're not really my type." It feels rude to say that at any point of the conversation though, not just straight away.

    I would rather ignore and be ignored, even if it is the pussy thing to do.
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    May 24, 2015 12:34 AM GMT
    I prefer to say me not if some are not interesting in me, for have clear the things.
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    May 24, 2015 12:39 AM GMT
    It doesn't really matter because you'll never please everyone with this. Some people insist you be upfront and tell them point-blank "I am not interested in you because you're ugly and gross." Others prefer to be ignored. So just do what you think is right.
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    May 24, 2015 12:41 AM GMT
    To be honest I dont really care, if theyre not interested they could ignore me or just say it to my face and Ill dimiss it, unless its someone I care about, in that case they better be upfront.
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    May 24, 2015 12:54 AM GMT
    I would prefer a guy to tell me he was not interested. Something along the lines like "Hey guy. Thanks for your letter. I hope you find what your looking for, but I'm not interested (mostly because I think you're a raging stallion who cannot be tamed)." That would be Ideal icon_cool.gif

    But, eh...If a person doesn't respond or blocks you...don't take it personally (well, maybe take the block personally lol). Its just one of those things that happens sometimes. Can't make everybody happy
  • Suetonius

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    May 24, 2015 1:01 AM GMT
    Almost no one cares one way or the other. Welcome to RJ. You're new, only 22, and have not contributed very much, so you are unlikely to be getting emails that don't have some sort of sexual purpose behind them. The guys sending these all expect to be ignored if you are not interested in them. BTW, if you "block" someone, it is the same as ignoring their emails - you won't receive them, and the sender won't know that you don't get them.
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    May 24, 2015 1:15 AM GMT
    pazzy saidused to rejection so i basically do whatever the fuck without giving two fucks. i know that there's some guys that basically like to basically be delusional and put themselves on a pedestal where they swear that everybody and their mom wants them so they project that bullshit onto other people. to those folks out there, just want to say FUCK YOU. in fact, there's a few folks in the past that tried to play me out when i was just trying to be friendly with them as in i wasn't trying to do anything besides talk where they decided to act like a bunch of brokeback bitches. they were all trying to stroke their egos acting like i wanted to put my dick in them or drooling over them. the guys around the nyc area too. some in jersey, some across the river. matter of fact, a good portion of you gay white guys love to do that shit where you think that everybody wants your ass and half or most of the time, folks aren't even paying attention to you. there was one bitch from san francisco that tried to pull that shit too. if i see any of those cowards on the street or in passing, i'm liable to punch them in the face or throw a bottle at their head or something.


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    May 24, 2015 1:26 AM GMT
    joshstevenson92 said
    pazzy saidused to rejection so i basically do whatever the fuck without giving two fucks. i know that there's some guys that basically like to basically be delusional and put themselves on a pedestal where they swear that everybody and their mom wants them so they project that bullshit onto other people. to those folks out there, just want to say FUCK YOU. in fact, there's a few folks in the past that tried to play me out when i was just trying to be friendly with them as in i wasn't trying to do anything besides talk where they decided to act like a bunch of brokeback bitches. they were all trying to stroke their egos acting like i wanted to put my dick in them or drooling over them. the guys around the nyc area too. some in jersey, some across the river. matter of fact, a good portion of you gay white guys love to do that shit where you think that everybody wants your ass and half or most of the time, folks aren't even paying attention to you. there was one bitch from san francisco that tried to pull that shit too. if i see any of those cowards on the street or in passing, i'm liable to punch them in the face or throw a bottle at their head or something.


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    Not much of an "escalation," considering the source. You will get used to it - it's a typical Pazzy response.
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    May 24, 2015 1:33 AM GMT
    I would prefer some to just say "Not interested, sorry". I can also take the hint of being ignored.
  • mystery905

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    May 24, 2015 1:50 AM GMT
    I treat others the way I want to be treated.

    I say: Thanks for the nice note/compliment, but you're not my type.

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    May 24, 2015 2:00 AM GMT
    Radd saidIt doesn't really matter because you'll never please everyone with this. Some people insist you be upfront and tell them point-blank "I am not interested in you because you're ugly and gross." Others prefer to be ignored. So just do what you think is right.

    Awesomepossum saidIts just one of those things that happens sometimes. Can't make everybody happy


    Yeah mte. I've found that younger guys seem to have thinner skin and be more sensitive to rejection, so I usually talk to them for a bit, especially if their profile says they're not out or "18, bi, never been with a guy." They might just need someone to talk to.

    Most guys who are that little bit older seem to have developed thicker skin and prefer when men are direct.

    Even still, like you two said, everyone's different and you can't please everyone.
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    May 24, 2015 4:16 AM GMT
    Who's rejecting you; male underwear supermodels?
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    May 24, 2015 4:19 AM GMT
    eagermuscle saidWho's rejecting you; male underwear supermodels?

    I know right? icon_lol.gif

    On the flipside, I think more guys need to learn to take hints. If you're chatting with a guy and he responds with short generic answers, or he doesn't ask questions to learn more about you, or just takes longer and longer to reply.. then it's time to move on.
  • jeep334

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    May 24, 2015 4:30 AM GMT
    joshstevenson92 said
    pazzy saidused to rejection so i basically do whatever the fuck without giving two fucks. i know that there's some guys that basically like to basically be delusional and put themselves on a pedestal where they swear that everybody and their mom wants them so they project that bullshit onto other people. to those folks out there, just want to say FUCK YOU. in fact, there's a few folks in the past that tried to play me out when i was just trying to be friendly with them as in i wasn't trying to do anything besides talk where they decided to act like a bunch of brokeback bitches. they were all trying to stroke their egos acting like i wanted to put my dick in them or drooling over them. the guys around the nyc area too. some in jersey, some across the river. matter of fact, a good portion of you gay white guys love to do that shit where you think that everybody wants your ass and half or most of the time, folks aren't even paying attention to you. there was one bitch from san francisco that tried to pull that shit too. if i see any of those cowards on the street or in passing, i'm liable to punch them in the face or throw a bottle at their head or something.


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    Oh how I wish Pazzy could get rid of the anger. I'm sure it's justified but I think there is a real decent and bright human being inside with a lot of good things to share. icon_cool.gif
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    May 24, 2015 4:34 AM GMT
    jeep334 saidOh how I wish Pazzy could get rid of the anger. I'm sure it's justified but I think there is a real decent and bright human being inside with a lot of good things to share. icon_cool.gif
    +1
    I also think Pazzy is an awesome guy, with the misfortune of having bad experiences. Maybe if those of us who can see the good guy beneath his rants and keep reminding him that he doesn't have to hold grudges against the past, we can help him overcome his anger and show him a brighter, better world. icon_biggrin.gif
  • WCROC

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    May 24, 2015 4:45 AM GMT
    I just tell them I am not interested or they are not my type. I prefer it when someone is honest with me rather than ignore me or block me. It's better in the long run in my opinion. I say everyone is different and to each their own.
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    May 24, 2015 4:55 AM GMT
    I actually prefer rejection, it shows that person is honest, confrontal and even to a certain level a kind of person takes responsibilty. Even if we couldn't end up together, he makes a valuable friend for sure.

    Ignoring or blocking a person just because they aren't interested, while they were not actually bothered or harassed simply shows that person is immature, bitter or rude. Imo.
  • highforthis

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    May 24, 2015 5:38 AM GMT
    Either is fine by me. But there's a special place in hell for guys who respond to "how's it going" with "hi", or anything else that doesn't end with a question mark.
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    May 24, 2015 5:41 AM GMT
    highforthis saidEither is fine by me. But there's a special place in hell for guys who respond to "how's it going" with "hi", or anything else that doesn't end with a question mark.
    sup
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    May 24, 2015 5:54 AM GMT
    I actually don't care either way. I mean, I think it's a little nicer to ignore than go straight out to say what you mean. *If you don't have anything nice to say, then say nothing at all*. I got a couple of insults in the past rejecting guys in public/online and I guess, there were guys who ignored me too so I picked up this *ignore habit. I mean, I guess you can say it's a pussy chicken way to ignore to avoid a verbal fight. I mean I hate confrontations and verbal fights. BUt yeah, whatever, not all guys gonna like me,my ego will be bruised for a little bit and I will be fine. Tons of other hot fishes in the sea?? icon_razz.gif Oh No, I'm getting more jaded !! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_razz.gificon_redface.gif
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    May 24, 2015 1:19 PM GMT
    joshstevenson92 saidI know a lot of guys prefer it when people are upfront/direct and tell them what they want. However I don't like being rejected. I understand that sometimes you're just not someone's type, but I would still rather be blocked or ignored.


    Same here. The OP saved my pic comment but didn't respond (I don't think he checked out my profile page either.) Did I sweat it? Nah. It's exactly what I do. Nobody needs to open a message and see a negative reaction, most can take the hint if they hot-list a dude or leave pic comment(s) and get no reaction. I do save comments regardless of whether I'm gonna hit the guy up - when they're compliments (haha.) Seems only right.
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    May 24, 2015 1:42 PM GMT
    Right or wrong, this is the way I normally reject guys:

    First of all, if it's obvious they haven't read a damn word in my profile and start out with "Sup?" or "Skype?" or "Anymore pics?" when they have zero pics.....I just block and ignore them. I think it's rude to initiate a conversation with someone without reading about them first. If you're not going to read my profile, I don't trust you're really interested in me as a person.

    However, if they're polite, that makes it much harder. Then I pretend like all words cost $50.00 a character and use absolutely as few as possible. Or I respond with something like "Sup?" icon_cool.gif

    Unfortunately, this rarely works on most younger guys so after my 15th "Sup", I say this: "You're a very good looking guy and I'm flattered by your interest but you're not really my type. I have very strange taste in guys." (I throw that last line in there to make it seem like the problem is with me and not their looks.) This is usually when I get this response back: "FUCK YOU GRANDPA!!!!!! YUR UGLY AS SHIT!!!!!! I WOULDN'T FUCK YOU IF YOU WERE THE LAST PERSON ON EARTH!!!!!!!!!! STOP STALKING ME LOSER!!!!!!!!"

    FYI: If you think I was just trying to be funny with that last example, you'd be wrong. That's pretty much verbatim a quote from a 19 year old and I've had plenty that were just like that. icon_confused.gif
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    May 24, 2015 2:38 PM GMT
    joshstevenson92 said
    pazzy saidused to rejection so i basically do whatever the fuck without giving two fucks. i know that there's some guys that basically like to basically be delusional and put themselves on a pedestal where they swear that everybody and their mom wants them so they project that bullshit onto other people. to those folks out there, just want to say FUCK YOU. in fact, there's a few folks in the past that tried to play me out when i was just trying to be friendly with them as in i wasn't trying to do anything besides talk where they decided to act like a bunch of brokeback bitches. they were all trying to stroke their egos acting like i wanted to put my dick in them or drooling over them. the guys around the nyc area too. some in jersey, some across the river. matter of fact, a good portion of you gay white guys love to do that shit where you think that everybody wants your ass and half or most of the time, folks aren't even paying attention to you. there was one bitch from san francisco that tried to pull that shit too. if i see any of those cowards on the street or in passing, i'm liable to punch them in the face or throw a bottle at their head or something.


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    Lol, seems like the lady doth protest TOO much.

    To the OP, it's kind of a lose/lose situation. Especially when you're being contacted through an app like Scruff or Grindr, the sexual intention in contact should be pretty clear. I've tried it a bunch both ways but I think the best way is to ignore or block someone you don't have any interest in. It saves both you and them the time of making small talk until you have an opportunity to let them down easy, at which point they'll likely feel like you led them on. And then start cursing you out and calling you shallow icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 24, 2015 2:41 PM GMT
    Radd saidRight or wrong, this is the way I normally reject guys:

    First of all, if it's obvious they haven't read a damn word in my profile and start out with "Sup?" or "Skype?" or "Anymore pics?" when they have zero pics.....I just block and ignore them. I think it's rude to initiate a conversation with someone without reading about them first. If you're not going to read my profile, I don't trust you're really interested in me as a person.

    However, if they're polite, that makes it much harder. Then I pretend like all words cost $50.00 a character and use absolutely as few as possible. Or I respond with something like "Sup?" icon_cool.gif

    Unfortunately, this rarely works on most younger guys so after my 15th "Sup", I say this: "You're a very good looking guy and I'm flattered by your interest but you're not really my type. I have very strange taste in guys." (I throw that last line in there to make it seem like the problem is with me and not their looks.) This is usually when I get this response back: "FUCK YOU GRANDPA!!!!!! YUR UGLY AS SHIT!!!!!! I WOULDN'T FUCK YOU IF YOU WERE THE LAST PERSON ON EARTH!!!!!!!!!! STOP STALKING ME LOSER!!!!!!!!"

    FYI: If you think I was just trying to be funny with that last example, you'd be wrong. That's pretty much verbatim a quote from a 19 year old and I've had plenty that were just like that. icon_confused.gif


    Wow icon_eek.gif I don't get along with most guys, any guys, in that age range so I can't imagine how that could end any other way than badly icon_lol.gif
  • jeepguySD

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    May 24, 2015 3:37 PM GMT
    I'd rather get a polite "sorry, not interested." Being ignored, or worse, blocked, is more demeaning.