Is it Possible to Love Someone Too Much?

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    May 24, 2015 2:19 AM GMT
    I found the perfect man. Perfect for me anyway.
    I am a mentally and emotionally tough man. However this guy is now inside ALL of my defenses. He is the only person ever to do that.
    I am exhilarated and terrified.
    Can you love someone too much? Can you help it if you do?
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    May 24, 2015 2:20 AM GMT
    Congrats!
  • mybud

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    May 24, 2015 2:37 AM GMT
    Bro...loves like breathing...it's automatic..That guy is a lucky fucker..
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    May 24, 2015 2:46 AM GMT
    Short Answer:Yes
    Love can turn into the more insidious: Obsession.

    But as long as your not scoping out his house everyday with binoculars, or sneaking into his bedroom whilst he is asleep...I think you're gonna be ok kid icon_smile.gif


    Also, Yes Congrats on the possible new Beau

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    May 24, 2015 5:57 AM GMT
    You really like him uh? Im happy for you..I smiled as I read your post
    Just go with the flow and enjoy it men
    Always remember to make sure you're treated well and loved, no point in loving a dude if he doesn't love you back or mistreats you
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    May 24, 2015 6:09 AM GMT
    sounds kinda real… icon_biggrin.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 24, 2015 6:12 AM GMT
    "Is it Possible to Love Someone Too Much?"
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    Only if he doesn't love you back.

    Otherwise, congrats, enjoy the love.
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    May 24, 2015 11:22 AM GMT
    It can, and it's dangerous too. The other party can use that as his weapon against you, gotta be careful with the heart.
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    May 24, 2015 11:38 AM GMT
    Love that deep and that powerful is rare.

    Rarer still is if he feels the same way.

    So glad you found him. The world needs more love like that in it..
  • jeepguySD

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    May 24, 2015 1:31 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said"Is it Possible to Love Someone Too Much?"
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    Only if he doesn't love you back.

    Otherwise, congrats, enjoy the love.


    Absolutely right. If the love goes only one way, then it can be devastating. I know from personal experience. But if the love is returned in kind, then you've found something very rare and very special, which must be cherished.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    May 24, 2015 2:05 PM GMT
    When you reach the point of loving yourself fully, you become totally capable and ready to love the ones who don't love you, and even those you never loved before! love is the way to inner peace!! congrats.
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    May 24, 2015 3:13 PM GMT
    And now, great art and/or music will come forth... go express icon_smile.gif
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    May 24, 2015 5:39 PM GMT
    Sounds like the best problem to have, at least in the case where he truly loves you back!

    As long as it doesn't get obsessive or controlling, I'd say you've found what most people, gay straight or otherwise, spend their whole lives looking for. Congrats!
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    May 24, 2015 7:22 PM GMT
    Thanks for the reassurance. For the record, he does love me back! Which makes it seem like a fairytale.
    Sometimes I just think it's too good to be true and psyche myself out. But mostly I just hang on and enjoy the ride.
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    May 24, 2015 8:40 PM GMT
    You can't love someone too much, but if you love someone else to the point where you don't live for yourself, you begin to fall out of love with life, which is a problem, and your "love" turns into personal inferiority. You should be grateful for every moment you get with someone, if you're afraid of losing it, it's because you're being greedy and selfish, thinking you deserve to feel bliss all of the time, and no one does; its a blessing when it happens.
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    May 24, 2015 11:39 PM GMT
    Good for you OP. I am officially a few months single now. I loved the last one too much. To be honest, if I was to do it all over again, I would've kept more of myself, for myself. But don't listen to me. This is anger talking.
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    May 25, 2015 12:36 AM GMT
    Yes and a restraining order is a sure sign.
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    May 25, 2015 2:37 AM GMT
    In the beginning true love can be overwhelming.Remember it could be lust disguised as love.But if it is true love it should find it's own balance.If you are still crazy freaking out obsessed with someone after 2 years or so you might need to reexamine.
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    May 25, 2015 3:22 AM GMT
    no, and yes, but you shouldn't want to do the latter.

    Congrats, happy for ya icon_smile.gif
  • metta

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    May 25, 2015 6:31 AM GMT
    'Is it Possible to Love Someone Too Much?'


    I think that would be the wrong way to put it. It would be better to work on trying to develop a healthy relationship. Not a co-dependent one. To know that life is a risk and some risks are worth taking, while still understanding that if it does fail, that it could be painful. To be aware of this is better than to not be aware.
  • jeep334

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    May 26, 2015 2:50 AM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidI found the perfect man. Perfect for me anyway.
    I am a mentally and emotionally tough man. However this guy is now inside ALL of my defenses. He is the only person ever to do that.
    I am exhilarated and terrified.
    Can you love someone too much? Can you help it if you do?


    I get why you would be terrified and I think it's hard not to love someone too much if you think you're really in love. The real answer though is does he take your life away and make your life together simply his life with you in it? It's a partnership. It might be trite to say but love can be blind.

    I hope it's real (and it sounds like it is!) and you live happily ever after. icon_cool.gif
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    May 26, 2015 8:08 AM GMT
    Yes and thats a danger for you and him. over woship can kill a good thing. and if it sours the emotions will be just as strong the other way