Proposed threesome and what does response of "duly noted" mean?

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    May 26, 2015 12:25 AM GMT
    So I was texting with a friend and the discussion turned to threesomes which I have never done. He mentioned his past experiences and how they are fun, but not easy to arrange. After some discussion, I mentioned that if he ever had the itch to do a threesome again I would consider messing around with him and another dude. We are both single and I would not do so if he had a boyfriend, just another friend etc. His response was "lol duly noted." I replied "Sorry if I got carried away." and he replied "we're good." Now keep in mind we have talked about him and I messing around before.

    Now my question is whether "duly noted" means understood and will consider (a good thing) OR possibly a sarcastic f-ck off reply in this situation?
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    May 26, 2015 12:28 AM GMT
    Nah.. he's just saying, "Gotcha" as in, I understand where you're coming from.
    BTW.. just my 2 cents. There's nothing hotter than sex between 2 people. 3's company and looks hotter in porn than actual life.
    It's almost like sensory overload. I prefer to focus on one person rather than 2. That's been my experience more than once.
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    May 26, 2015 1:04 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidSaying to a person, "duly noted" is a friendly response.

    And to me, three-ways are usually only fun if it's two tops who take turns working over a hot bottom. But usually for me one on one is best. So I sort of agree with Big T.

    The thing is about being in any of the 3 positions is the middle guy is not fully focused on either of you.. he's trying to manage something in his mouth and other pie hole.. and if you're one of the tops.. he's not really giving you very good head, nor good pie when his brain is like scrambled eggs all over the place. Kinda makes for a watered down event.
    One on One is where it's at for this GuyNextDoor.
    Just me and you feeling every inch, as it should be!
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    May 26, 2015 1:20 AM GMT
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    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidSaying to a person, "duly noted" is a friendly response.

    And to me, three-ways are usually only fun if it's two tops who take turns working over a hot bottom. But usually for me one on one is best. So I sort of agree with Big T.

    The thing is about being in any of the 3 positions is the middle guy is not fully focused on either of you.. he's trying to manage something in his mouth and other pie hole.. and if you're one of the tops.. he's not really giving you very good head, nor good pie when his brain is like scrambled eggs all over the place. Kinda makes for a watered down event.
    One on One is where it's at for this GuyNextDoor.
    Just me and you feeling every inch, as it should be!


    TheGuyNextDoor and MuchMoreThanMuscle thanks so much for your responses. First I appreciate that reassurance that "duly noted" was not a bad response as do not want to mess up the friendship.

    I do not have a lot of sexual experience. My friend's favorite thing to do is rimming, both receiving and giving, which I have never done. He said recently he'd love to show me what rimming is like and I am all for it. Due to legit circumstances it has not happened yet, but may in the next month. I am not his type of guy really, but I think we could be FWB type of situation. So I also appreciate the excellent feedback on one on one versus a threesome. I'd rather do one on one, but think a threesome just once would be fun with guys I am comfortable with. Thanks again!!!
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    May 26, 2015 2:10 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidSaying to a person, "duly noted" is a friendly response.

    And to me, three-ways are usually only fun if it's two tops who take turns working over a hot bottom. But usually for me one on one is best. So I sort of agree with Big T.

    The thing is about being in any of the 3 positions is the middle guy is not fully focused on either of you.. he's trying to manage something in his mouth and other pie hole.. and if you're one of the tops.. he's not really giving you very good head, nor good pie when his brain is like scrambled eggs all over the place. Kinda makes for a watered down event.
    One on One is where it's at for this GuyNextDoor.
    Just me and you feeling every inch, as it should be!


    But Big T. Double penetration for the bottom by both tops at the same time is super-uber hot! icon_twisted.gif


    Haha no DP from behind for this guy!
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    May 26, 2015 2:22 AM GMT
    Duly noted = Yeah whatever
  • Apparition

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    May 26, 2015 4:42 AM GMT
    3 is much easier in a hot tub btw. 4 is better if no actual sex goes on.
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    May 26, 2015 4:54 AM GMT
    I would take it as a positive connotation. Don't put too much thought into it icon_smile.gif

    Now I have a question for you guys (rather than creating a new thread):

    What is the proper response to when someone says "cheers"? I work in retail and after I opened up a fitting room door for a lady she said "cheers" and kinda stood there so not knowing what to say back (I thought saying "you're welcome" would sound kind of weird) I just nodded with a smile.
    I asked my coworkers but they have no clue either. Do you respond with another "cheers"?
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    May 26, 2015 4:55 AM GMT
    Apparition said3 is much easier in a hot tub btw. 4 is better if no actual sex goes on.
    I've been involved in a 7 person orgy. Whatchu talkin bout?
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    May 26, 2015 9:11 AM GMT
    "Duly noted" can be literally taken as "noted 'as due'"; generally I hear it used to mean that a statement was taken somewhere between as seriously as the comment was *intended* to be taken and as seriously as the recipient *wanted* to take it, intentionally leaving out which (if either) was the predominant leaning.

    I generally hear it used, and use it, as a distant response when not sure how else to respond; bitter sarcasm is usually absent unless conveyed by context (as in "duly noted and disregarded"). In this case I'd put it somewhere between 'understood and will consider' as already suggested and 'if this gets weird I reserve the right to pretend you were joking'. No ill will on either end of that spectrum.

    I only point this out (nothing wrong with the previous answers) because the phrase *can* be used rudely and dismissively, so you may want to exercise caution in throwing it around; used alone without context (say in an SMS) the sort of retroactive doubt you experienced can be an unfortunately common consequence. If your bitchy boss decides to take the phrase the wrong way life can get awfully complicated pretty quickly. ;)

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    May 26, 2015 9:28 AM GMT
    @ultra ; expressing gratitude and satisfaction ( when not used in drinking term or situations ) ur welcome
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    May 26, 2015 2:03 PM GMT
    where I come from "duly noted" is short for "duly noted and summarily ignored". Meaning your friend doesn't want to have sex with you.
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    May 26, 2015 7:43 PM GMT
    "Duly noted" is the inverse corollary to "I told you so".

    I told you so is said in acknowledgement after the fact by the guy who did the telling.

    Duly noted is said in acknowledgement before the fact by the guy who did the listening.

    One's checking it off their list. The other is putting it on their list.

    Now you just have to figure out which list he put it on.
  • mitshoo

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    May 26, 2015 8:44 PM GMT
    It sounds like it wasn't dismissive, but I think the important question is HOW did he say it? Quick, slow? Sneering, smiling? Slitted eyes, eyes wide open? I think those are the keys.
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    May 26, 2015 10:59 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI've been involved in a 7 person orgy. Whatchu talkin bout?


    Two's company, three's a crowd, seven's a sporting fixture.
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    May 26, 2015 11:56 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidwhere I come from "duly noted" is short for "duly noted and summarily ignored". Meaning your friend doesn't want to have sex with you.


    Thanks for the reply. You may be right. I like I said in an earlier reply, he has said he'd like to show me what its like to give and receive a rim job (his favorite thing to do) a couple weeks back. I know I am not his type of guy, but his FWB is moving away and he has had sex with friends before. I do find him attractive and would like to mess around with him, but it is not a big deal.
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    May 27, 2015 12:03 AM GMT
    mitshoo saidIt sounds like it wasn't dismissive, but I think the important question is HOW did he say it? Quick, slow? Sneering, smiling? Slitted eyes, eyes wide open? I think those are the keys.


    We were text messaging and his reply was not real quick compared to prior texts at the time. About 4-5 minutes like he had to think about what he was going to say. Simply, "LOL duly noted." So otherwise I don't know what his facial reaction was.
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    May 27, 2015 12:08 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidSaying to a person, "duly noted" is a friendly response.

    And to me, three-ways are usually only fun if it's two tops who take turns working over a hot bottom. But usually for me one on one is best. So I sort of agree with Big T.


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  • oldfart

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    Jul 10, 2015 2:05 PM GMT
    Sounds like this "duly noted" means he wants to keep the door open to the possibly. That's much better a flat "no" or a rushed "how soon?"

    And as for 3 ways, in my experience: Two's company but three is a really good time. They can be a bust if there is no common vibe, like a leather with two vanillas or a versatile and two bottoms. That whole top/bottom thing in a three way is very limiting. Oral-only three ways with versatility (two-on-one, daisy chain) can be both horny fun and genuine fellowship.

    But I wax philosophical....
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jul 10, 2015 4:24 PM GMT
    Most people around me would interpret "duly noted", as 'yeah, whatever'. I won't do anything about this. Sure, it does not mean 'NO, never-ever", but I would not count on this to happen.

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  • metta

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    Jul 10, 2015 4:29 PM GMT
    "duly noted" just means that he acknowledges what you are saying. It is a pretty common saying.