How would you handle false accusations against you?

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    May 26, 2015 12:54 AM GMT
    A neighbor has accused me of an act of vandalism in my small community. 80% of my neighbors know me well enough to reject this false accusation but a few people don't really know me or my accuser.
    I have emailed this neighbor and he will not admit to spreading his rumors.

    Should I bother addressing this at our next community meeting or is putting any energy into it only going to fuel his rumors?
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    May 26, 2015 1:20 AM GMT
    just ignore it, likely soon he will do the same with someone else.
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    May 26, 2015 1:27 AM GMT
    Ha! Minus the gun that's my conclusion too that I can't really take this to court or even to make my neighbors deal with it.

    I plan to make sure this liar stays uncomfortable though.
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    May 26, 2015 1:31 AM GMT
    pellaz saidjust ignore it, likely soon he will do the same with someone else.


    He's done it before to several others. Everyone lets him get away with it.

    He's the spouse of our HOA board president. He seems bipolar and because of that most feel there's no way to deal with him directly. Crazy people can get away with so much.
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    May 26, 2015 3:05 AM GMT
    i hate HOA's
  • Apparition

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    May 26, 2015 4:38 AM GMT
    tell his wife that he has been "fucking you", and you would like it to stop now.

    Let her mind take the verb as she will. Not even slander. Problem solved.
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    May 26, 2015 5:14 AM GMT
    FitnessWorker saidHow would you handle false accusations against you?
    I'd icon_lol.gif until the asshole making the accusations gets caught as a liar.
  • bobbobbob

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    May 26, 2015 3:09 PM GMT
    If 80% of the people know better, you're ahead of the game.

    Talk about it with people. More than likely sooner or later someone will start telling dirt on him. Maybe about him making similar accusations about someone else. Maybe about something he's done that was illegal, time in a mental institution, domestic violence, etc. Seize on any information you get about him, find out more about it. Then combat his lies with the truth and do it with no mercy.
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    May 27, 2015 10:02 AM GMT
    Get a pic of him. Chop the head off and post it in an ad in the "men seeking men" section of Craigslist.
  • josephmovie

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    May 27, 2015 12:15 PM GMT
    Just let people know that you weren't involved in the incident and then never mention it again. The more energy you give something like this the more it stays alive.

    And remember that while this is on your mind everyone else goes home and thinks of their own problems and lives.
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    May 27, 2015 3:59 PM GMT
    What I've decided to do is to be very direct with this person and to now tell him that I do know from two of our neighbors that he was clear with his accusations toward me.

    When I first wrote him about this I did not tell him all that I knew in the hope he might reveal something.
    In return he pretended to know nothing about the rumors he started and wrote me "It's a pity if some neighbors are suspicious of you."

    Now I will tell him that I have proof of his spreading his accusations.

    And I don't plan to involve any other neighbor from this point forward.