Personally, if anything, I'd say you're handsome. You may not appeal to everyone, but hey, not everyone appeals to everyone.
Also, being black =/= ugly. It does NOT equal that way. Take this from me because I've been in your position - if there's anything ugly about you, it's the fact that you don't love yourself and that you keep feeling sorry for yourself for whatever reason. You have to love yourself before someone can love you, and if you can't find the energy to do that, then no one else should.
Maybe you have to work harder than someone in finding a mate, but it will be easier if you loved yourself, stop putting yourself, and be yourself. Accept yourself. Self-confidence and acceptance are usually what attracts other people.
And what is a "Muscle Mary" by the way? Because you look buff as hell in your profile picture. Other than that, don't focus so much on finding a man. Travel. Do something you always wanted to do. Go out with friends. Go see a movie. Treat yourself.Treat. Yo. Self.