age difference

  • joethick

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    May 26, 2015 8:14 PM GMT
    so im 23 and dating a man thats 36, i feel a strong connection with him but i get a lot of crap about the age difference, what are your thoughts on age differences?
  • mystery905

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    May 26, 2015 8:30 PM GMT
    Who cares what other people think, as long as you're both happy.

    I prefer men that are older, myself.

  • mybud

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    May 26, 2015 8:32 PM GMT
    Different strokes fo different folks...
  • Destinharbor

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    May 26, 2015 8:33 PM GMT
    Why do you care what other's think? If you each have qualities that attract the other, give it a go. You never know where you'll find happiness.
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    May 26, 2015 8:33 PM GMT
    You need new friends.
  • LostSailor

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    May 26, 2015 8:44 PM GMT
    I'm 45 and have been dating a 20 year old for 3 months.
    He's happy...I'm happy.
    who cares?
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    May 26, 2015 8:52 PM GMT
    Age is just a number. It doesn't really mean anything.
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    May 26, 2015 9:45 PM GMT
    I'm still a bit conflicted on this. I'd like to think that age ought not to matter. Personally, I'm in a great relationship with a guy who just turned 30, and I, on the other hand, just turned 100.icon_lol.gif I guess age might matter in a situation where, for example, one partner is 70 and the other is 40 or younger--only in the sense that the younger guy is likely to outlive the older guy.
  • you_know_Its_...

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    May 27, 2015 2:36 AM GMT
    It's ok, you're young and experimenting. Seems like guys start settling down after their late 20's, as I have a lot of friends in their 30's, and none are in a LTR with anyone more than 5-10 years older. A few are fuck buddies with 20 year olds, and sometimes the kids think they're in love icon_lol.gif
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    May 27, 2015 2:39 AM GMT
    doesn't matte what other people think. if you don't like their opinions, don't listen to them.
  • MikemikeMike

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    May 27, 2015 2:39 AM GMT
    Age is just a number! Life experience, maturity and intelligence have more to do with success.
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    May 27, 2015 2:41 AM GMT
    you_know_its_true saidIt's ok, you're young and experimenting. Seems like guys start settling down after their late 20's, as I have a lot of friends in their 30's, and none are in a LTR with anyone more than 5-10 years older. A few are fuck buddies with 20 year olds, and sometimes the kids think they're in love icon_lol.gif


    Just as it has happened to me, I admit.
  • NoahBrookz

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    May 27, 2015 4:59 AM GMT
    You shouldn't take what other people say seriously when it comes to something you know makes you happy. I like older men too, it is what it is ahha
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    May 27, 2015 5:02 AM GMT
    As far as I'm concerned, muscles know no age or race.

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    May 27, 2015 5:03 AM GMT
    Age is not just a number. If it were, priests wouldn't go to jail for sexing under-18 boys.

    Oh wait...they don't! icon_eek.gif
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    May 27, 2015 12:03 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidAge is not just a number. If it were, priests wouldn't go to jail for sexing under-18 boys.

    Oh wait...they don't! icon_eek.gif

    I was an altar boy and much to my disappointment no one ever laid a hand on me.
    If I had been molested it would have speeded up the coming out process for sure.
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    May 27, 2015 12:39 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    paulflexes saidAge is not just a number. If it were, priests wouldn't go to jail for sexing under-18 boys.

    Oh wait...they don't! icon_eek.gif

    I was an altar boy and much to my disappointment no one ever laid a hand on me.
    If I had been molested it would have speeded up the coming out process for sure.
    Clearly you just weren't sexy enough back then. icon_razz.gif
  • mwolverine

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    May 27, 2015 3:09 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidAge is just a number! Life experience, maturity and intelligence have more to do with success.

    Age is often an indicator of position in life, but isn't conclusive.

    It also depends on the type of relationship one wants.
    If a couple is into a "father/son" model, then age does matter. icon_smile.gif

    A career and family/relationship-oriented 30 year old and a similar 50 year old?
    Sounds like it could work.
  • mwolverine

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    May 27, 2015 3:10 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI guess age might matter in a situation where, for example, one partner is 70 and the other is 40 or younger--only in the sense that the younger guy is likely to outlive the older guy.

    Yet if the relationship between a 55 and 25 year old is successful, 15 years later they are 70 and 40... so then what?
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    May 27, 2015 3:11 PM GMT
    13 years difference!? Come back for advice when there's a 25 year difference as between my husband (legal) and me.

    Funny, none of our friends have given us any "crap."
  • starboard5

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    May 27, 2015 3:14 PM GMT
    There are 13 years between you two guys. If you have enough common ground for this relationship to last, I think you'll find that the age gap narrows, psychologically, with passing years. The difference between 23 and 36 can stand out; between 40 and 53? Not so much.
  • swimswam18

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    May 27, 2015 3:19 PM GMT
    I am attracted to older guys but, for the time being I have restricted myself to guys near my age. I feel that I have not learned exactly what I truly want so I don't want to waste a man's time and affection because I'm confused.
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    May 27, 2015 8:34 PM GMT
    swimswam18 saidI am attracted to older guys but, for the time being I have restricted myself to guys near my age. I feel that I have not learned exactly what I truly want so I don't want to waste a man's time and affection because I'm confused.

    That's a good thinking. I agree! It's just not about wasting another man's time, but also about your own maturity. Many young guys are vulnerable, still coming out of the closet, and in the process when they find some established older guy, it's not that difficult to fall for him.
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    May 27, 2015 10:06 PM GMT
    Haters are gonna hate its what Taylor swift says.as long as you both are happy. Dont let it get to you because you are you no body else, individuality counts date who you like.
    Some people like putting there nose in everyones business.
    Im 18 and I date a 36 I love him and thats what counts. People assume im after his money when im not I have a job and have money of my own.
  • you_know_Its_...

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    May 28, 2015 12:01 AM GMT
    calima said
    you_know_its_true saidIt's ok, you're young and experimenting. Seems like guys start settling down after their late 20's, as I have a lot of friends in their 30's, and none are in a LTR with anyone more than 5-10 years older. A few are fuck buddies with 20 year olds, and sometimes the kids think they're in love icon_lol.gif


    Just as it has happened to me, I admit.


    No doubt. The men here saying "age is just a number" have a vested interest in making you believe that... look at their age icon_lol.gif