Why do mature men assume young guys are after money?"

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    May 27, 2015 12:42 AM GMT
    Hello Guys

    As many of you know and as I say in my profile; I like much the mature men, I prefer always an older man than a young, (have some exceptions), most of my boyfriends were major oldest than to 20 year older sometimes.

    Many people is atonished that to my short age, many was astonished when I been who pay the bills when we go out together or when I make gifts them. Well ever say me that I am too young for be so independent and responsible and they have though that I am like many young guys that seek to be maintained and a sort of father and that only think of fun.

    True, I had not father, nor mother, I raised my grandmother, but she taught me human values, to be worker and much responsibility.

    I work, I study and I want a own future paid for me; for example, my travels, my outings and my adventures I pay me getting my money honestly and legal so like my expenses and I always like project a secure and autonomous image. Then I do not understand why everybody believe that I am by interest?

    Can you give me an idea?
  • venue35

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    May 27, 2015 12:47 AM GMT
    Do you want a sugar daddy or no?
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    May 27, 2015 12:48 AM GMT
    I suggest you change the title of your thread to "why do mature men assume young guys are after money?" . To say that someone "es un interesado" as in they only care about money only works in spanish but in english "to be interested" means something different.
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    May 27, 2015 1:00 AM GMT
    venue35 saidDo you want a sugar daddy or no?


    Never, is all the contrary and I hate to think that. That's my point.
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    May 27, 2015 1:03 AM GMT
    David666k saidI suggest you change the title of your thread to "why do mature men assume young guys are after money?" . To say that someone "es un interesado" as in they only care about money only works in spanish but in english "to be interested" means something different.


    Yes, you have reason, it is that my english is lousy icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 27, 2015 1:04 AM GMT
    Edited tittle already!
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    May 27, 2015 1:08 AM GMT
    because they're (the "mature" ones) desperate and have some spare cash laying around and want some 20 year old kid to like them
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    May 27, 2015 1:12 AM GMT
    Yes, have many opportunistic youngs out there, but not all are so.
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    May 27, 2015 1:55 AM GMT
    tj85016 saidbecause they're (the "mature" ones) desperate and have some spare cash laying around and want some 20 year old kid to like them


    I thought you meant to young that are desesperate for mature for money, sorry, I realized that for my bad reading comprehesion in english.
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    May 27, 2015 2:04 AM GMT
    Yes, that's what I should do, you are right.
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    May 27, 2015 2:11 AM GMT
    Besides, I think that it should make clear that money is not the most important in any relationship, what matters is the personal chemistry, the details and word with love, have time together, laughter and petting, understanding and good mutual comunication. Thinks like that.icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 27, 2015 2:14 AM GMT
    I normally go for guys my own age or older but lately I've been out with younger guys too. I've actually had the opposite experience with them. The two latest younger guys I've dated (one of them I'm still dating) has made it crystal clear upfront that we will be going dutch on our dates. Even though I've been on about 20 dates with the current guy, he still will not allow me to treat him even though he knows I make more money than he does. If I buy him a beer at a bar, he's quick as lightening to make sure he buys the next round. So no, I certainly don't assume that about younger guys.
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    May 27, 2015 2:24 AM GMT
    I'm just, if they want pay for me, I feel purchased and generally I say no or I counteract or I pay them after.
  • you_know_Its_...

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    May 27, 2015 2:29 AM GMT
    Au contraire! They ALWAYS message me first, and they ALWAYS insist on paying their way.

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    May 27, 2015 2:31 AM GMT
    How much did you need?
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    May 27, 2015 3:22 AM GMT
    Instead of assuming young guys are after money, I assume that guys under the age of 25 don't have any or very little. And if they do have a lot of cash at a young age, my first thoughts are either an inheritance or trust fund.
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    May 27, 2015 3:29 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidInstead of assuming young guys are after money, I assume that guys under the age of 25 don't have any or very little. And if they do have a lot of cash at a young age, my first thoughts are either an inheritance or trust fund.


    What happens is that nowadays and more in Latin America, we the youngs must work for pay our studies, our clothes, our transportation and including our supply(feeding), and for help to our families, we are not from wealthy families and we earn our money work. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 27, 2015 4:11 AM GMT
    I don't think it has anything to do with age. I think the question should be "Why do men who are willing to spend money on a guy think that every guy is after money?"

    It's not just young guys who are getting offered money. I have friends in their 40s who get those offers all the time too. There's a small portion of wealthy, gay men who just assume that everyone is willing to be a prostitute, or that everyone is looking for a sugar daddy. If they like the way you look (regardless of how old you are) they just straight-up say "how much?" It's pretty rude.
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    May 27, 2015 4:32 AM GMT
    Is true. From when the money converted in some so relevant in a relationship?

    When the love converted it in a monetary business?

    That is why the world is so.
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    May 27, 2015 11:13 AM GMT
    He's right. The are not always after money. Sometimes they want just want Visas.icon_wink.gif
  • roadbikeRob

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    May 27, 2015 11:22 AM GMT
    Some of these younger guys ages 20-29 are just tired of the usual hookup and bar scenes and are searching for something with more meaning and more stability. Many of them have found that older guys offer the very things that these kids are looking for and that older guys have some life experience that can be a tremendous help to these younger men trying to navigate their lives through this unpredictable, harsh world.
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    May 27, 2015 11:54 AM GMT
    Probably that's how majority of young and old couple are depicted, so that's why some people are expecting you to hunt for sugar daddies when that is obviously not true. Buena suerte, don't give up!
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    May 27, 2015 1:23 PM GMT
    calima saidWhy do mature men assume young guys are after money?"
    I wouldn't call those men "mature." icon_lol.gif
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    May 27, 2015 1:33 PM GMT
    helloandgoodbi saidHe's right. The are not always after money. Sometimes they want just want Visas.icon_wink.gif

    LOL! Well most of them want something, or they wouldn't have anything to do with older guys like me and my friends. We often compare notes afterwards and just laugh at the amateur antics these "kids" use to try to get our wallets open. If they knew how little money is in MY wallet they wouldn't bother in the first place.

    But some of my friends are very wealthy indeed. So we sorta "circle the wagons" when we see these young gigolos snooping around them. I had one friend ask me how he could recover $25,000 USD he gave one of these characters a few years ago. There was nothing in writing, he didn't know the guy's address, nor could I determine it. I replied: "You don't."

    Not all young gay guys are gigolos, but when I see them hanging around older men mooching drinks the probability factor goes way up.
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    May 27, 2015 2:02 PM GMT
    the issue is older men that are NOT mature:
    possible bad (unstable situation) to hang out with someone that is their daughter or son's age. Maybe possibly, saying this in a none judgmental way, the old man stayed in their closet too long