Chinese Astrology and Self-Esteem of Being the Object of Desire for Love/Romantic Love. Why Some Are Single.

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    May 27, 2015 2:14 AM GMT
    Spirituality's Lunar Law in the Lunar Astrology of Chinese Astrology

    I'm not sure if you pay attention to the Chinese Astrology notion of Peach Blossom (Romance Experts) signs; but, here it is:

    Year of the Rabbit is Peach (to Dog-Tiger-Horse) and has a Peach;
    Year of the Rat is a Peach (to Goat-Pig-Rat) and has a Peach;
    Year of the Horse is a Peach (to Rooster-Ox-Snake) and has a Peach;
    Year of the Rooster is a Peach (to Monkey-Rabbit-Dragon) and has a Peach.

    These four signs are sought after for romance/romantic love and can seek romance/romantic love--can be lucky in love or create love affair drama.

    The other eight signs do not have the reality/perception that they are the object of love/romantic love and the self-esteem that three signs could pursue them for romance/romantic love.

    Taurus and Libra people should be humbled by that if they are born in one of the eight Chinese years where, "No, you cannot materialize self-actualization of Venus qualities the way Peach born-for-Valentines can."

    The eight signs who are not objects of desire for love/romantic love can suffer for lack of callers/suitors and fall behind in the interpersonal skills department, the world of the Four Blossoms, where the Four Blossoms hone their interpersonal skills of lording desire for romantic love.

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    May 27, 2015 2:19 AM GMT
    With his/her beauty, other good qualities and achievements, the world should have been at his/her FEET.

    Wise Person on the Mountaintop:

    Was he or she born in the year of the Horse, Rooster, Rat, or Rabbit?

    Answer: No.

    Wise Person on the Mountaintop:

    Now, you know what could have been the "je ne sais quoi" that was missing.

    Listen to Mother Moon. For thousands of years, the Chinese have observed the psychology and the sociology of one of spirituality's Lunar Laws, collecting it in the Lunar Astrology that is Chinese Astrology.
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    May 27, 2015 2:25 AM GMT
    The reason some are single?
    They are not objects of desire for love/romantic love at the level of charismatic strength and with as many opportunities as the Four Peaches.
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    May 27, 2015 2:41 AM GMT
    Character One: You don't love me. You never loved me.
    Character Two: Since I met [whatever Peach Blossom], I never knew love before.
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    May 28, 2015 5:34 AM GMT

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    May 28, 2015 9:05 AM GMT
    I'm dating a guy who is a Rabbit (older than me) & I'm a dog. my ex was a Rabbit too but he was younger. what i know is that rabbits are horny as fuck, they just want to procreate all the time -which is fine by me! lol

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    We're a Taurus and Libra couple and we're quietly snickering at this nonsense:

    " Taurus and Libra people should be humbled by that if they are born in one of the eight Chinese years where, "No, you cannot materialize self-actualization of Venus qualities the way Peach born-for-Valentines can."
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    May 29, 2015 7:30 AM GMT
    New trophy wives

    If it is good enough for Rupert Murdoch then it should be good enough for the rest of us!

    Rupert Murdoch has one. So do financiers Vivi Nevo and Bruce Wasserstein. Why are the West's most powerful men coupling up with younger Asian women?
    Call it the Woody Allen Effect. When the venerable director scandalously left Mia Farrow for her adopted daughter, South Korean-born Soon-Yi Previn — 35 years his junior — he may as well have sent out a press release: Asian-girl fantasy trumps that of Hollywood royalty!

    Many of the elite now turn to companies like A Foreign Affair to help them find Asian Trophy Wives. Foreign Affair specializes in matching high power men with model like women form around the world. Foreign Affair boast that they have helped over 20,000 couples during the 18 years of business.

    Not two years after they tied the knot, media baron Rupert Murdoch walked down the aisle with fresh-faced Wendi Deng — 17 days after finalizing his divorce from his second wife. Then, CBS head Leslie Moonves wed TV news anchor Julie Chen; Oscar winner Nicolas Cage married half-his-age third wife Alice Kim; billionaire George Soros coupled up with violinist Jennifer Chun; and producer Brian Grazer courted concert pianist Chau-Giang Thi Nguyen. Add the nuptials of investment magnate Bruce Wasserstein to fourth wife Angela Chao and the pending vows between venture capitalist Vivi Nevo and Chinese actress Ziyi Zhang, and we've got a curious cultural ripple.

    Were these tycoons consciously courting Asian babes? Do any of them qualify for the unnerving "yellow fever" or "rice king" moniker? It's unsavory to think so. But after two or three failed attempts at domestic bliss with women of like background and age, these heavy hitters sought out something different. Something they had likely fetishized.

    Enter the doll-faced Asian sylph on the arm of a silver-haired Western suit. (Hello, mail-order bride!) The excruciating colonial stereotypes — Asian women as submissive, domestic, hypersexual — are obviously nothing new. But decades after The World of Suzie Wong hit drive-ins and more than 20 years since David Bowie's "China Girl" topped the music charts, why are we still indulging them?

    Because they're omnipresent — and often entertaining. Even now, how many cinematic greats, literary best sellers, or even cell-phone ads (see Motorola's latest) characterize Asian women as something other than geishas, ninjas, or dragon ladies? As the object of opening-line zingers like "Me love you long time" (the infamous line from Stanley Kubrick's Full Metal Jacket), I'm not sure whether to laugh or cry at the cheeky blog stuffwhitepeoplelike.com, which ranks Asian girls at number 11 because "Asian women avoid key white women characteristics, such as having a midlife crisis, divorce, and hobbies that don't involve taking care of the children." Sure, I'm petite and was in fact born in Shanghai, but — to the shock of more than one guy I've gone out with — I'd rather down an icy beer and burger than nurse bubble tea and eat dumplings while massaging his back with my toes.

    "This is a common experience among Asian-American women," says Bich Minh Nguyen, who broaches the stereotypes in her latest novel, Short Girls. "They're dating a white guy, and they may not know if it's a fetish thing."

    "It's like a curse that Asian-American women can't avoid," says C.N. Le, director of Asian and Asian-American Studies at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst. "From an academic point of view, the perception still serves as a motivation for white men."

    According to Foreign Affair executives, "Our clients say they just can not find the values that they are looking for with beauty, these men have been looking their whole life here and have had no luck finding it. That is why they turn to us."

    In researching his new book, The East, the West, and Sex, author Richard Bernstein found that the Orientalist illusion continues to influence. "Historically, Asia provided certain sexual opportunities that would be much more difficult for Western men to have at home. But it remains a happy hunting ground for them today," he says, citing one phenomenon in the northeastern region of Thailand called Issan, where 15 percent of marriages are between young Thai women and Western men well into their 60s.

    But I suspect there's something else about the East that's seducing business bigwigs at this very moment: globalization. Consider that, stateside, Mandarin classes have spiked 200 percent over the past five years (apparently, Treasury Secretary Timothy Geithner was an early adopter; he taught Mandarin classes in his Dartmouth days), and China has claimed status as the world's top export nation. In Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell theorizes that Asian kids' intrinsic work ethic makes them outsmart American kids in math. (In the latest Organization for Economic Co-Operation and Development international education survey, Taiwanese students were tops in math, while the U.S. placed 35th.) It's as though these Western men are hungry for a piece of that mystical Eastern formula. As such, Asians (in addition to African orphans) are hot commodities right about now — status symbols as prized as a private Gulfstream jet or a museum wing bearing your name (neither of which goes so well with a frumpy, aging first wife).

    Tellingly, most current trophies of choice are far more than exotic arm candy. They are accomplished musicians and journalists, they have Ivy League MBAs and hail from prestigious political families (Mrs. Wasserstein's older sis is former Labor Secretary Elaine Chao). Why, then, are these women falling for rich white patriarchs? Why be a target for headline comparisons to concubines? When Wendi Deng was described as "The Yellow Peril" in a recent magazine profile, it only marginalized her achievement: As chief strategist for MySpace China, she has become central to News Corp.'s expansion into the elusive Chinese market — something Murdoch himself had attempted, and failed to do, before she came into the picture.

    While I'm sure that real love and affection is sometimes the bond in these culture-crossing May-December romances, could it be that power divorces of a certain ilk make the perfect renegade suitors for these overachieving Asian good girls — an ultimate (yet lame) attempt at rebellion? Maybe these outsized, world-class moguls are stand-ins for emotionally repressed Asian dads (one cliché that is predominantly true). Or...are these women just glorified opportunists? What's so perverse is that while Asians have always revered their elders, sleeping with a guy old enough to be your grandfather is just creepy — in any culture.

    So do these marriages last? Kenneth Agee, marketing director of Foreign Affair say," these marriages have almost twice the success rate of domestic marriages, much less likely to end in divorce"
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    May 29, 2015 1:00 PM GMT
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    We're a Taurus and Libra couple and we're quietly snickering at this nonsense:

    " Taurus and Libra people should be humbled by that if they are born in one of the eight Chinese years where, "No, you cannot materialize self-actualization of Venus qualities the way Peach born-for-Valentines can."


    LOL
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    May 29, 2015 1:35 PM GMT
    I have no interest in horoscope readings, I never follow mine. Such broad advice as "Beware of changes in your life this week" or "You will find new opportunities shortly" are as worthless as parlor tricks.

    UNTIL, I had a complete Chinese astrology reading, which required the day & hour of my birth. Done anonymously online with immediate results, so that it was unlikely anyone had already researched me, it was like reading my résumé. It even predicted some of my health problems, particularly my joints, even to pinpointing my knees as especially weak. I've had surgery there.

    It predicted my success in both military and academic fields (an odd & unexpected combination to foresee), mentioned my wanderlust, but avoided listing a ton of other things just to cover all the bases. Unlike some "generic" horoscopes that can apply to anyone, this was very precise & specific to me. Only I don't recall it mentioning anything about my sexual orientation, one way or the other. I would have expected that to be prominent.

    So now I don't know about these things. I still disdain the Western style horoscope, but this Chinese one was intriguing.
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    May 29, 2015 2:55 PM GMT
    patito saidI'm dating a guy who is a Rabbit (older than me) & I'm a dog. my ex was a Rabbit too but he was younger. what i know is that rabbits are horny as fuck, they just want to procreate all the time -which is fine by me! lol



    Yes, yes, tell me about it.

    See, you and I are part of the Dog-Tiger-Horse Trine. We both discovered that the Rabbit is our love/romantic love/sexual love Peach Blossom.

    You and I have had an older and a younger Peach Blossom.
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    meninlove said

    We're a Taurus and Libra couple and we're quietly snickering at this nonsense:

    " Taurus and Libra people should be humbled by that if they are born in one of the eight Chinese years where, "No, you cannot materialize self-actualization of Venus qualities the way Peach born-for-Valentines can."


    LOL


    Hey, meninlove, missing the point and snickering is not a good contribution to this thread.

    A while back I blocked your profile and ignored all your posts unless I happen to see one, one way or another.

    The Chinese Astrologer Suzanne White is in favor of Taurus and Libra couples because Taurus and Libra share the ruling planet Venus.

    Second, the topic is not Sun signs, it is Chinese Birth Year signs. An honest sharing of what your birth years are would be a good contribution to the thread.
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    Stephen, if you have us blocked then how are you going to see what our Chinese Zodiac signs are?

    How are you even going to see this post? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 30, 2015 7:45 AM GMT
    Anyone can do that. Look at the thread before logging on or use a different browser without logging in. If one uses IE or Netscape, then use Google Chrome.
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    patito said
    meninlove said

    We're a Taurus and Libra couple and we're quietly snickering at this nonsense:

    " Taurus and Libra people should be humbled by that if they are born in one of the eight Chinese years where, "No, you cannot materialize self-actualization of Venus qualities the way Peach born-for-Valentines can."


    LOL


    Hey, meninlove, missing the point and snickering is not a good contribution to this thread.

    A while back I blocked your profile and ignored all your posts unless I happen to see one, one way or another.

    The Chinese Astrologer Suzanne White is in favor of Taurus and Libra couples because Taurus and Libra share the ruling planet Venus.

    Second, the topic is not Sun signs, it is Chinese Birth Year signs. An honest sharing of what your birth years are would be a good contribution to the thread.


    So far, two men with Venus as the ruling planet, planet of love, with a screen name of men in love is according to character.

    My reservation about Taurus-Libra is that the signs are in quincunx. Taurus-Sagittarius is also a quincunx pairing.

    Aspects in Astrology: The Inconjunct or Quincunx
    http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/inconjunctaspects.html

    The inconjunct or quincunx (the terms are generally used interchangeably) aspect in astrology is formed between planets that are roughly 150 degrees apart. If we use an orb of 2 degrees, the planets or points in question can be anywhere from 148 degrees to 152 degrees apart.

    The planets and points involved in a quincunx don't understand each other. Unless it's an out-of-sign quincunx, the signs not only are of a different element, they are also of a different modality. For example, take Leo-Pisces. Leo is Fixed Fire, while Pisces is Mutable Water. It's difficult to see common ground between the signs.

    Some keywords that describe quincunxes are: redirecting, challenging, requiring adjustments, diverting.

    What I have found is that people with quincunxes tend to compartmentalize the two areas of life indicated by the planets and points involved.

    When we express one of the planets or points involved in an opposition, the other planet or point feels "left out". Nevertheless, the opportunities to find a balance are there. With the quincunx as well, it can be difficult to merge the energies of the planets involved. But the difference here is that there is a sense that the two cannot be merged, and this is where compartmentalization comes into play. The areas of life described by the planets tend to conflict with each other—not in as overt a way as is commonly seen with a square or opposition, but the individual separates them either consciously or unconsciously. This is why adjustment is associated with the quincunx—both planets/points represent distinct needs and areas of life, and it can take a lot of energy to sort them into different compartments!

    A couple of examples will shed some more light on the theory. With a Moon-Venus quincunx, our emotions (Moon) and our values/love nature (Venus) are difficult to blend. We feel the need to separate satisfying the needs of our Moon (by sign, house, and aspect) and the needs of our Venus (by sign, house, and aspect). This will play out in a variety of ways, depending on the individual involved, and depending on what the Moon and Venus represent, by way of their position and what houses they rule in the chart.

    The essay continues at the url provided under the title in bold.
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    May 30, 2015 7:58 AM GMT
    Thank you men in love. Speaking up about your relationship presented me the opportunity to see how love persists despite the challenges of the quincunx.
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    May 30, 2015 2:01 PM GMT
    StephenOABC saidThank you men in love. Speaking up about your relationship presented me the opportunity to see how love persists despite the challenges of the quincunx.


    Here, seeing as how you're interested:

    Bill is Rooster, fixed element is metal, yin is fire.

    I'm Sheep/Goat, fixed element is earth, yin is wood.


    You will find most Chinese horoscopes give this combination a fail or very low odds.

    ...and to add a cherry to the cake of incompatibility: I'm Christian and Bill's atheist.

    Your thoughts?

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    May 30, 2015 2:25 PM GMT
    Here, seeing as how you're interested:

    Bill is Rooster, fixed element is metal, yin is fire.

    I'm Sheep/Goat, fixed element is earth, yin is wood.


    You will find most Chinese horoscopes give this combination a fail or very low odds.

    ...and to add a cherry to the cake of incompatibility: I'm Christian and Bill's atheist.

    Your thoughts?

    = = =

    What I'm going to call the heaven element rules of nurturing lends support to an Earth Sheep/Goat Venus Sun Sign - Metal-Rooster Venus Sun Sign relationship.

    Heaven Element Rules of Nurturing

    Earth nurtures Metal
    Metal nurtures Water
    Water nurtures Wood
    Wood nurtures Fire
    Fire nurtures Earth

    = = =

    The other thing I wanted to say is that on the topic of quincunx above, I do not gravitate to that because I really like agreement instead of the expediency of compartmentalizing in resolving differences. I admit that people can be resistant to being agreeable.

    Respectfully yours,
    Stephen

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    ...or you could toss the whole thing out, horoscopes etc and consider that Love cannot be compartmentalized and analyzed and dissected and predicted in such a fashion (horoscopes), as it's like trying to catch the wind in a bottle (btw the Bible tries to do that, too, in regards to completely explaining god).

    Many years ago I went in for all that stuff; I found at best it's a psychological tool, but that's about it.

    Cheers!
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    May 30, 2015 5:50 PM GMT
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    ...or you could toss the whole thing out, horoscopes etc

    stephenoabc:

    Not an option.

    meninlove:

    and consider that Love cannot be compartmentalized and analyzed and dissected and predicted in such a fashion (horoscopes).

    stephenoabc:

    It has.

    meninlove:

    Many years ago I went in for all that stuff;

    stephenoabc:

    Not stuff. Information, knowledge, guidelines, infrastructure of Life.

    meninlove:
    I found at best it's a psychological tool, but that's about it.

    stephenoabc:

    You are in error. It is also a sociological tool for the present moment and definitely for centuries past. See Cosmos and Psyche by Richard Tarnas.

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    That's fine Stephen, but I'm not in error (that's simply your opinion and not fact). If your claims are really true, then single people would be hard to find by this time in human history. You yourself would be in a fine compatible relationship long before by now.

    However, it doesn't work that way. Sometimes it appears to, and so therein lies the justification and being convinced it's all true.

    Always remember a painting of a clock is correct twice a day.

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    May 31, 2015 5:19 AM GMT
    meninlove:

    I'm not in error

    stephenoabc

    You're in error again.

    Astrology is so much more than a psychological tool. Second, you can't agree (that's fine) and then say you don't agree. Either it is more than a psychological tool or it is not.

    The accuracy of astrology at the individual level and at the civilization level over millennia is established and your opinion takes nothing away from the reliability of individual astrology and mundane astrology. Enough.

    meninlove:

    If your claims are really true, then single people would be hard to find by this time in human history.

    stephenoabc

    What is your assumption?
    Think about it.
    After you do, you'll find your assumption is in error.

    meninlove:

    You yourself would be in a fine compatible relationship long before by now.

    Stephenoabc:

    I can think of two assumptions in that statement.
    Both assumptions are in error.


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    May 31, 2015 12:23 PM GMT
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    Astrology is a psychological tool.

    stephenoabc:

    For what use/uses?
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    May 31, 2015 1:27 PM GMT
    StephenOABC saidmen in love:

    Astrology is a psychological tool.

    stephenoabc:

    For what use/uses?


    Should I reply? I am, apparently, completely in error on every count.
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    May 31, 2015 5:22 PM GMT
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    StephenOABC saidmen in love:

    Astrology is a psychological tool.

    stephenoabc:

    For what use/uses?


    Should I reply? I am, apparently, completely in error on every count.


    In the profession of Astrology, there are astrologers with professional degrees in Psychology.

    Astrology is a psychological tool for:

    1) understanding one's own psychology

    2) beyond that, it is a life coach for the individual

    3) it is an excellent input for evaluating relationships

    4) it helps with parenting

    5) it helps with timing long trips

    6) it helps with optimizing not only when one could benefit from a long trip but when one can increase their education

    7) it helps one optimize life choices as to where one should live to get away from danger, get away from poverty, have a fulfilled emotional life, be a professional athlete or have a strong career, or to get educational credentials (locational astrology - Astro-Carto-Graphy)

    8 ) it helps with forgiveness, which can be a topic of religion but not exclusively so

    9) it helps with religion because salvation of the soul IS affected by life choices.

    etc.

    Maybe I listed a use you had in mind.

    Cheers,
    Stephen