James_Thunder_Early said...I think monogamy works best for those who find someone that they have such good relations with, that they are going to be fulfilled being with only that person. If the right guy snags you and the chemistry is off the charts, it's possible to be fulfilled just by being with him.
Monogamy cannot be forced, and it shouldn't, but monogamy definitely is possible and I don't think it's abnormal at all.
People are free to live how they want to live. What is typical, however of serial monogamist proselytizers is this propensity many of you seem to have to attempt elevating the status of monogamy over open relationships when the research data shows that open relationships are as healthy if not healthier than closed relationships for those who enjoy them.
You'll note that unless citing actual research, you'll rarely see the opposite: you don't see people in open relationships putting down people in closed relationships. They hardly ever mention the cheating that goes on in supposed monogamy. They rarely if ever mention the jealousies and insecurities that might be inherent to closed relationships, the lack of trust, the lack even of variation. How many guys in open relationships are checking the cell call lists of their lovers' phones?
You'll hardly ever notice someone who has no objection to open relationships note how a closed relationship can require what is essentially rape by people engaging in sexual activity that might not really even turn them on, just to keep a partner. Because the rule of a closed relationship is that you can't satisfy sexual aspects of yourself outside that relationship.
You'll rarely if ever see someone who has no issues with open relationships feel the need to recruit others into open relationships because, frankly, neither do they give a flying fuck what others do, nor do they need the validation of a crowd doing the same thing to make them feel comfortable with their relationships.
How curious then that it is the guys in closed relationships who always put down open relationships, who always recruit for monogamy, who, even when they attempt to consider that maybe the research is correct, that people in open relationships can be just as happy, if not happier than those in closed relationships, that even then they tend to say stuff like "they have such good relations with, that they are going to be fulfilled being with only that person" to try and justify their false sense of superiority.