what does it mean to be homosexual?

  • johnnyqhomo7

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    May 28, 2015 7:12 PM GMT
    What does it mean to be homosexual? I mean, the straight world just looks at gay sex as a abberaation, but they never understand the love between partners of the same gender. I have to say as a gay black man in America, its so fucked up. i just wonder what everyone's thoughts on being gay were. icon_smile.gif
  • LostSailor

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    May 28, 2015 8:15 PM GMT
    While I'm not gay gay, just bi, I AM however black.
    I don't have the same viewpoint.
    Ive met quite a few people that totally and REALLY see gay relationships the same as straight relationships.
    Either way, you shouldn't care what others think of who YOU fall in live with.
    If I weren't married I could 100% see me falling in love with another man.

    Pay no attention to others.
    In 2015 a person is lucky if they could fall in love with a llama.

    Be well.
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    May 28, 2015 8:20 PM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidWhat does it mean to be homosexual?
    It means you're physically and emotionally attracted to certain people of your own gender.
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    May 28, 2015 10:11 PM GMT
    I will post a reply here I posted in a comment on the advocate:

    Homophobia and internalized homophobia starts in the home at a young age. A lot of black families will be aware of their childs homosexuality but will take the silent approach. The "just don't bring it up or bring it in my face approach". Usually, because of the stigma, fear of being ostracized, shamed, many develop the behavior of keeping their sexuality a secret. Families (fathers and mothers set the ground rules from early). They make homophobic comments or threats (if any of my boys come to me about being a homo, I would slit their throat or kick their ass to the curb). That creates a fear, you end up acting the part, internalizing homophobia leading to the down-low behavior that is so pervasive in our culture and community.

    A lot of the times, its not even about the church, its about the ideal of what it means to be a man in the black community. Most times, you are being raised by a single mother because the father is not there or never was from the beginning. You don't want to perpetuate the myth of momma's boy being a sissy, soft, emotional and eventually being gay. There are expectations of a young man in the black community, even if he does not get a full education; being involved in the church, finding a woman, getting a job, getting married, starting a family, thats the perfect ideal and sigh of relief for many black families. Thats why even here in Jamaica (in the Caribbean) so many young men are thought, if you don't have a youth (child) by a certain age, you are homo.

    Thats why teenage pregnancy is not even seen as a big deal out here, because at least he's not a homo (battyman/faggot) or she is not a lesbian. The difference I see though is in most cases the community and the church will rally around the pregnant girl. Peer pressure forces a lot of young men to make this rite of passage just to camouflage their sexuality. It goes right back to the church. The church is always the root cause of this.

    The church and government in Jamaica are especially big on homophobia. Jamaica’s foundation is built upon the church; it plays a critical role in every facet of society. The fact that a church exist for every square mile in the country speaks volumes about its control of how society thinks. At the same time, the church turns a blind eye to activities that are really having a negative impact on society such as crime, standard of living, corruption, adulterers in heterosexual relationships and the hypocrisy in church where pastors are involved in relationships with members or have women outside their marriages and even fathering children. As long as you had something to say against Gay people, you were alright in their book. I remember a comment by a prominent bishop who said, it was better for his son to be a thief than to be homosexual.

    Part of bigger misunderstanding within the black community of what it means to be gay is part of the problem. It is so foreign to many simply because so many reduce it to physical attributes surrounding sex. The thought of my son playing the female role in a relationship is so heartbreaking for many fathers and even mothers, brothers and sisters. Again, this going back to ideal of a man, the machismo behavior. Its also racism issue, homosexuality even in the African American and Afro Caribbean communities is still seen as a rich white man behavior.
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    May 28, 2015 11:01 PM GMT
    This is an interesting question. First: I like that you used Homosexual instead of just Gay. I try to drop all the social shorthand terms for sexuality because I believe that my sexuality is not a social construction. I am Homosexual with some glaring Bisexual tendencies. I can't deny my erotic dreams about women or my attraction to the rare woman, any more than I could deny my fucking insatiable attraction to men.

    Being Homosexual isn't easy. It'd be a lot easier if Homosexual men were a lot kinder toward each other. It's a real mindfuck to battle all that stigma at home or school in the hopes of one day reaching the embrace of a community that accepts you, only to find that this community is cut throat, critical, biased and often times racist... horribly racist.

    Lots of white homosexual men will exclusively have sex with black and latino men but never dream of dating them... they'll date the skinny fare skinned ones, but only as a trophy. It's such Blanco Diablo, Colonial bullshit.... some gay extension of Manifest Destiny. (Hi, I'm gonna fuck you, exhibit you, buy you gifts, treat you like king - BUT I WILL NEVER RESPECT YOU.) All that Nubian queen/king crap.

    So yeah... the Gay experience is not at all like the experience of Blacks accross the globe. Besides, Gays can "pass" if they so wish. You can't hide your skin.

    What it means to be Homosexual therefore, must rest on your own shoulders. You need to find what you mean to be Homosexual - dig your own path. Because quite honestly, you're never going to find an answer you can live with, otherwise. Make sense?
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    May 29, 2015 2:26 PM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidWhat does it mean to be homosexual? I mean, the straight world just looks at gay sex as a aberration, but they never understand the love between partners of the same gender. I have to say as a gay black man in America, its so fucked up. i just wonder what everyone's thoughts on being gay were. icon_smile.gif

    "It is a peculiar sensation, this double-consciousness, this sense of always looking at one's self through the eyes of others, of measuring one's soul by the tape of a world that looks on in amused contempt and pity."~~W. E. B. Du Bois

    MikeKrieger saidThis is an interesting question. First: I like that you used Homosexual instead of just Gay. I try to drop all the social shorthand terms for sexuality because I believe that my sexuality is not a social construction. I am Homosexual with some glaring Bisexual tendencies....

    Being Homosexual isn't easy. It'd be a lot easier if Homosexual men were a lot kinder toward each other.

    While I might appreciate your effort to own the homosexual of homosexuality (not unlike how some black people enjoy owning "the N word" and how perhaps questionably debatably admirable that is) are you being less kinder towards gay men by throwing in their face the clinically constructed term* (often used in the pejorative by homophobes--so you know it makes gay people wince), which was replaced by what you consider construct?

    *http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality
    Many modern style guides in the U.S. recommend against using homosexual as a noun, instead using gay man or lesbian.[23] Similarly, some recommend completely avoiding usage of homosexual as it has a negative, clinical history and because the word only refers to one's sexual behavior (as opposed to romantic feelings) and thus it has a negative connotation.[23] Gay and lesbian are the most common alternatives. The first letters are frequently combined to create the initialism LGBT (sometimes written as GLBT), in which B and T refer to bisexual and transgender people.
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    May 29, 2015 2:41 PM GMT
    be the logical animal; gay, homo, black are all vastly different.
  • TheBaise

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    May 29, 2015 6:10 PM GMT
    What does it mean to be homosexual? What kind of question is that, exactly?

    Here's your answer, man / in the plainest way I can spit it out for you: It means that instead of desiring a woman beside you / day and night / for physical and emotional company, we desire a person of the same sex for those (and other) reasons. It's how we're wired.
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    May 29, 2015 9:41 PM GMT
    joeree saidI do not think so because I'm not gay but I love to use MRSEXCAM.com ;)



    trollololol. How's being captain of the Galway team working out for you?

    *FAKE ACCOUNT*
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    May 30, 2015 1:36 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]johnnyqhomo7 said[/cite]What does it mean to be homosexual? I mean, the straight world just looks at gay sex as a abberaation, but they never understand the love between partners of the same gender. I have to say as a gay black man in America, its so fucked up. i just wonder what everyone's thoughts on being gay were.

    aberration - a departure from what is normal, usual, or expected, typically one that is unwelcome.

    ...and it will remain so as long as gays remain closeted. The more people see and know gay people that attitude will change. The ones whose refuse to love and accept his fellow man just because he loves someone of the same sex...well unfortunately we have to wait for those people to die off. Change will come. It's coming already. The signs are everywhere.
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    May 30, 2015 3:30 PM GMT
    johnnyqhomo7 saidWhat does it mean to be homosexual? I mean, the straight world just looks at gay sex as a abberaation, but they never understand the love between partners of the same gender. I have to say as a gay black man in America, its so fucked up. i just wonder what everyone's thoughts on being gay were. icon_smile.gif


    You aren't in Nigeria. That's fucked up.

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    May 30, 2015 3:34 PM GMT
    JuanPablomv89 saidHomosexual: Same sex gender emotionally and physically attraction
    Gay men who only dick and ass not pussy or tits

    Homoflexibility: Persons who considered themselves homosexuals but they have sex with the opposite sex gender persons but they are not bi they are gay but once in a while desiring pussy in case of supposed "gay men" shows their flexibility in their sex life

    Sexual human beings without labels: They fuck anything and everything it moves

    Bisexuality: Emotionally and physically attraction to both genders. Bisexuals dont fall in love with the sex gender they fall in love with person

    Bi curios: Heterosexual persons with homosexual tendecies

    Heteroflexibility: Heterosexuals persons who have sex with same sex gender persons but they are not bisexuals but once in a while supposed heterosexual men desiring a guy ass and mouth to suck his hard dick

    Heterosexuality: Opposite sex gender emotionally and physically attraction

    Hope you can understand human beings sexual orientations







    Hmm...homo and hetero flexibility are simply bisexuality that's not a 50-50 balance in attraction. Same with bi curious.
  • faint

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    May 31, 2015 10:21 AM GMT
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    johnnyqhomo7 saidWhat does it mean to be homosexual?
    It means you're physically and emotionally attracted to certain people of your own gender.

    You have my upvote icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 31, 2015 1:26 PM GMT
    To be homosexual means that you have a dick and you also like dick.
    You like to place said dick into your oral or anal cavities and enjoy doing so.

    For the few that say they don't like to do that, in the very least you have a dick and are emotionally and/or physically attracted to other people that also have a dick.

    If you fit any aforementioned criteria then congratulations, you're at the very least partially homo (said for those apparent "straight" but curious guys who enjoy gay sex).
  • giodude

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    May 31, 2015 1:41 PM GMT
    @ MikeKriger

    I agree with you completely. One would think that adversity would draw people together, but gay people are the most cliquish minority group ever.

    Racism is also a real pain. I've noticed that relationships with white men (concerning white men) are considered relationships other races are more like fetishes. I think that it's disgusting to treat an entire group of people as if they're accessories. The gay community does this a lot.
  • NealJohn

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    May 31, 2015 1:47 PM GMT
    Homosexuality is so hot, heterosexual men have to hate it to stop themselves from liking it
  • Sincityfan

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    May 31, 2015 6:16 PM GMT
    Homosexual=/=gay
    Well, I do not think so.
    There are simply way too many connotations associated with the word "gay," so that when you say "I'm gay," people instantly think you're excessively flamboyant and a complete hoe-bag with the hiv.
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    May 31, 2015 10:44 PM GMT
    Chicks told me that I'm just normal like some of the other straight guys, lol, however I just happen to like cute, sexy boy next door dudes !! Surfers maybe ?? lol icon_razz.gificon_redface.gificon_eek.gif
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    May 31, 2015 10:48 PM GMT
    -That I can write just as well with my left hand as I do my right
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    May 31, 2015 10:55 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said-That I can write just as well with my left hand as I do my right

    That's ambivalent, darling.
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    Homosexual is when your pipi only gets big and hard for other boys.