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  • Matthew56

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    May 29, 2015 9:22 AM GMT
    Compare or at least one time in your life compare yourself physically to other gay men who you perceive or consider to be really attractive. Do you also may feel envious to them and feel inferior to gay men who are considered to be very attractive. Or are you happy with your lot and do not care ?
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    May 29, 2015 10:46 AM GMT
    Everyone feels insecure at times.

    Being gay is weird in the sense that the people who make you feel insecure are the same ones you're attracted to.
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    May 29, 2015 11:07 AM GMT
    Matthew56 said Compare or at least one time in your life compare yourself physically to other gay men who you perceive or consider to be really attractive. Do you also may feel envious to them and feel inferior to gay men who are considered to be very attractive. Or are you happy with your lot and do not care ?


    Does everyone realize some people are more attractive? Yes.
    Does everyone sometimes feel envious they weren't so genetically blessed? At times, yes.

    But most of us learn to play the cards we've been dealt. And make the most of it.
    As should the OP.

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    May 31, 2015 12:46 AM GMT
    Yeah... I just work two jobs and keep to myself. Pretty boys tend be self-absorbed anyways. Envious but...neah
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    May 31, 2015 5:35 AM GMT
    You should learn and be happy with yourself. There will always be people who are better or prettier or hotter than you or they have ton of things more than you but you don't know their struggles. So just be content and happy with yourself, beside if you're too envious and jealous, that's not really an attractive trait to attract guys.
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    May 31, 2015 6:48 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidCompare or at least one time in your life compare yourself physically to other gay men who you perceive or consider to be really attractive. Do you also may feel envious to them and feel inferior to gay men who are considered to be very attractive. Or are you happy with your lot and do not care ?


    Focus on what you CAN control. The other stuff is a losing battle in a war that need not be fought.
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    Jun 02, 2015 1:21 AM GMT
    Matthew56 saidCompare or at least one time in your life compare yourself physically to other gay men who you perceive or consider to be really attractive. Do you also may feel envious to them and feel inferior to gay men who are considered to be very attractive. Or are you happy with your lot and do not care ?


    This makes me think of when someone says "oh he's so out of your league" I mean, isn't it so infuriating?
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    Jun 02, 2015 1:55 AM GMT
    (seems I had put the following in some other thread you did. I thought I was answering this one. Wow you have a lot of them. So, anyway, here it is again).

    Well, OP, you seem completely neurotic but at least you are consistent. Have you considered retargeting your focus?

    When I look at another man I'm not comparing him to me at all. I'm only sizing him up for whether or not I'd want sex with him.

    Envious or inferior? Wow, I don't relate to that in the slightest. I understand it, but my mind is not inclined towards it. I'm glad for people that they have what they have. Good for them. And even in loving I'm not of a jealous nature. I get my satisfaction from within me, not from outside forces.

    And it isn't even a matter for me of being happy with my lot as you put it. If I had my druthers, I'd rather the option of experiencing all the wonderful sensations of living sans being corporeal. This arthritis sucks. So in practical terms I think being happy is a bit overrated, and nor do I put much stock in even being satisfied. Satisfaction itself can be death. Not being satisfied can be motivating.

    Life is what it is, man. Accept that.

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    Jun 02, 2015 2:37 AM GMT
    I find that comparing myself to pugs always makes me feel better about myself.
    They're short, fat, wrinkled, hairy, and fart a lot; and I'm not, so life is good. icon_biggrin.gif
    But I do fart a lot ...
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    Jun 02, 2015 2:53 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI find that comparing myself to pugs always makes me feel better about myself.
    They're short, fat, wrinkled, hairy, and fart a lot; and I'm not, so life is good. icon_biggrin.gif
    But I do fart a lot ...
    Do you fart a lot while riding your bikeicon_lol.gificon_question.gif Does it help you with steep, hilly climbsicon_question.gificon_lol.gif