(seems I had put the following in some other thread you did. I thought I was answering this one. Wow you have a lot of them. So, anyway, here it is again).
Well, OP, you seem completely neurotic but at least you are consistent. Have you considered retargeting your focus?
When I look at another man I'm not comparing him to me at all. I'm only sizing him up for whether or not I'd want sex with him.
Envious or inferior? Wow, I don't relate to that in the slightest. I understand it, but my mind is not inclined towards it. I'm glad for people that they have what they have. Good for them. And even in loving I'm not of a jealous nature. I get my satisfaction from within me, not from outside forces.
And it isn't even a matter for me of being happy with my lot as you put it. If I had my druthers, I'd rather the option of experiencing all the wonderful sensations of living sans being corporeal. This arthritis sucks. So in practical terms I think being happy is a bit overrated, and nor do I put much stock in even being satisfied. Satisfaction itself can be death. Not being satisfied can be motivating.
Life is what it is, man. Accept that.