Older/younger, top/bottom

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    May 30, 2015 11:47 AM GMT
    Let's TRY and not have this turn into a daddy-son thread or an into-younger-only thread or an into-older-only thread. icon_rolleyes.gif

    What I'm curious about is whether other guys who don't mind age differences of more than 2 years have a set preference for who does what in bed. When you're "versatile," that is. For you is it always older sucks younger, younger tops older, etc?

    Personally I can never get enough oral & am all about giving as good as I get. icon_wink.gif "Butt" where rear action is concerned I totally prefer being the one who wraps and taps. It's probably because, as a rule, guys looking back at 30 are WAY better at taking cock back there. (For one thing they're actually capable of giving me complete entry in the first place. Not to brag...necessarily...)
  • coolman_vn

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    Jun 01, 2015 8:40 PM GMT
    I can't give you advice by your question but I like to be wrapped and tapped.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 01, 2015 9:09 PM GMT
    I think it is always assumed that older tops younger but I don't expect that older/younger is any different than with any two guys. Probably older guys who actively seek out younger guys, especially for a sex-only encounters, are often tops but I don't really know that to be true. As to sucking dick, I bet 90% of all gay guys do that and love both giving and receiving although again, there are exceptions. I'm always suspicious of guys that bill themselves as "TOTAL TOPS" and whether they suck dick may be conditional on how they see their macho label. Rimming is kind of a specialty and not related to age, I'd guess.

    For me, I can swing both ways with either older or younger but not flip on a given night. The chemistry just falls into place and then it stays that way for most of the time (but not always).
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    Jun 02, 2015 2:23 AM GMT
    I'm not particularly seeking out age differences but I don't mind them either. I consider myself versatile and ideally I'd like to take turns in top and bottom roles (over the course of time, not necessarily in every encounter). Age doesn't make a difference to me as to who does what. I'd just like it if, over time, we each get to do both. (I.e., this also means that I'm not looking to have one-time only hookups.)

    As for oral, it's okay but I much prefer having both of our heads at the same level kissing and jerking each other off at the same time...

    But to the extent that there is oral involved -- again, I don't think relative ages ought to make one bit of difference in terms of who does what.
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    Jun 02, 2015 6:08 PM GMT
    I had a lot of encounters before settling down, with guys of a wide age range, and who was older or younger never had anything to do with what happened sexually between us.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jun 02, 2015 8:52 PM GMT
    I have not noticed any significant relationship between age and preferred sexual roles. A dude who is a top will tend to top with each and every partner he encounters (and wants to have sex with).

    Versatile dudes and most of the other guys, usually agree to bottom for a bigger guy, if he wants them to. This is a bit of a modern-day default if there is one at all.

    It is pretty hard to find a dude who is not into oralicon_lol.gif Few guys take this as a very "serious" sex kinda thing. Reciprocation is hardly an issue. You are gonna get it one way or the other.

    There is a perception that "older" dudes tend to top. Mostly because the older guys were perceived to be possibly "bigger", more generous, coloring the whole affair into the sugar daddy - trophy boy relationship. Stereotypes of this kind do not pop out of nowhere. There is some truth in them, too.

    In real life terms, the old kind of bottom shaming is now largely past us, and hence, the sexual role discussion has lost much of its original meaning.