Need advice... How to flirt with a gay roommate?

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    May 30, 2015 7:42 PM GMT
    I've recently moved into my university's dormitory for the summer. I'm in an apartment with 3 other guys, one of whom is gay. I haven't gotten a chance to get to know that particular roommate very well yet; but he's very cute and seems to be a really nice guy. I usually don't appear on people's gaydar. For all I know, he's probably assuming that I'm straight. How can I make it playful and flirt with him in a manner that will get him interested, but not make it obvious that I'm gay? No agendas. I'm not trying to hook up with him or date him. Has straight men ever done anything that made you think that they were flirting with you?
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    May 30, 2015 8:46 PM GMT
    scott69617 said... I make it playful and flirt with him in a manner that will get him interested, but not make it obvious that I'm gay? No agendas. I'm not trying to hook up with him or date him...


    no one cares so tell him your gay too
    have a friend for the summer.
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    May 30, 2015 9:54 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    scott69617 said... I make it playful and flirt with him in a manner that will get him interested, but not make it obvious that I'm gay? No agendas. I'm not trying to hook up with him or date him...


    no one cares so tell him your gay too
    have a friend for the summer.


    lol its not that I mind telling him --- but there's no fun in that! There are no problems with straight guys flirting with girls without having to explicitly display any socially constructed norms of masculinity. Can't we interact with others without having to label ourselves or limit ourselves to a closed category?
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    May 31, 2015 2:12 AM GMT
    scott69617 saidHow can I make it playful and flirt with him in a manner that will get him interested, but not make it obvious that I'm gay? No agendas. I'm not trying to hook up with him or date him.


    I'm not sure if I'm misinterpreting this but it just sounds kind of cruel. Why not find a better hobby?
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    May 31, 2015 3:07 AM GMT
    So basically, you like the thrill of mind games and manipulation. Spare the guy and look for something else to do, mate.
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    May 31, 2015 4:07 AM GMT
    pellaz said
    scott69617 said... I make it playful and flirt with him in a manner that will get him interested, but not make it obvious that I'm gay? No agendas. I'm not trying to hook up with him or date him...


    no one cares so tell him your gay too
    have a friend for the summer.


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    May 31, 2015 4:18 AM GMT
    lol .... I have news for you .. there is a special power that 99% of out gays have... that is the ability to clock you from 1000 paces ...he knows , he has already assessed you , if he is not showing interest .. he does not have any
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    May 31, 2015 6:01 AM GMT
    SirAndy saidSo basically, you like the thrill of mind games and manipulation. Spare the guy and look for something else to do, mate.

    I can't help but feel sorry for the roommate. It's going to be a long summer for him.
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    May 31, 2015 11:02 AM GMT
    That's hella nasty! Get a life, dude.
  • carew28

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    May 31, 2015 6:52 PM GMT
    Flirting is really just a mind game that doesn't go anyplace in the long run. Wait for a Friday night when the other 2 room-mates aren't around. Take the guy out to a bar, and get him good & liquored-up, I mean falling-down drunk. Then take him back to the dorm, tell him it's awfully hot in Boston this summer, too bad the dorm isn't air-conditioned, and make him take his clothes off. Grab him playfully, horseplay around with him for awhile,feel him up and get him hot, and then wrestle him to the floor. That should do it.
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    May 31, 2015 10:18 PM GMT
    You don't, unless if you really want a very awkward situation after.
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    Jun 03, 2015 1:33 AM GMT
    SirAndy saidSo basically, you like the thrill of mind games and manipulation. Spare the guy and look for something else to do, mate.


    Haha this! I feel sorry for the guy OP is rooming with. Sounds like it's going to be an awkward summer
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jun 04, 2015 3:12 PM GMT
    It hardly makes any sense to flirt for the sake of flirting. Sure, str8 men tend to do this rather often mostly because they think that they are expected to do so. If you do not flirt with an available female, the word may spread that you are not str8, rite?

    There is really no need for you to come out as gay/bi/str8 to your roommate. If you are interested in having some fun with him, flirt and have some fun. If this is NOT what you want to do with him, move on, and look for someone else. Do not waste anyone's time.

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    Jun 04, 2015 4:50 PM GMT
    You went from sounding naive to a flat out bitch in two posts. That must be a record.
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    Jun 04, 2015 7:31 PM GMT
    "I'm a gay man who's willing to flirt with another man, but I don't want him to know that I'm gay while flirting with him."

    Even if he thinks you're straight, if you keep flirting with him, he's going to catch on.
  • Amira

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    Jun 04, 2015 9:34 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidlol .... I have news for you .. there is a special power that 99% of out gays have... that is the ability to clock you from 1000 paces ...he knows , he has already assessed you , if he is not showing interest .. he does not have any


    I love this post because it's soo true haha
  • LJay

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    Jun 04, 2015 11:55 PM GMT
    "Has(sic) straight men ever done anything that made you think that they were flirting with you?"

    Well, this one guy did smile and say hi. I was hooked.

    Why don't you just sit down and have a beer with him and clear the air? Games are silly.
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    Jun 05, 2015 5:03 AM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidlol .... I have news for you .. there is a special power that 99% of out gays have... that is the ability to clock you from 1000 paces ...he knows , he has already assessed you , if he is not showing interest .. he does not have any


    Yep. I occasionally have those moments where I realized a guy is being a little too friendly and I'm reciprocating it
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    Jun 05, 2015 1:33 PM GMT
    Rune said
    scott69617 saidHow can I make it playful and flirt with him in a manner that will get him interested, but not make it obvious that I'm gay? No agendas. I'm not trying to hook up with him or date him.

    I'm not sure if I'm misinterpreting this but it just sounds kind of cruel. Why not find a better hobby?

    No, you got that right. Super creepy. The hobby is either being a douche or being a sock or being a sock/douche. Actually, this one seems less of a sock and more of a paper bag
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    Jun 05, 2015 3:48 PM GMT
    Nah ha. You are encounter a unsuspicious behaviour in manner. He is tempting you to drain your allowance that is something you should be aware, right you need to be decisive. He maybe every wanted man you desire but this way isn't right. Now it's your choice. icon_idea.gif
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    Jun 06, 2015 7:45 AM GMT
    scott69617 saidFor all I know, he's probably assuming that I'm straight. How can I make it playful and flirt with him in a manner that will get him interested, but not make it obvious that I'm gay? No agendas. I'm not trying to hook up with him or date him.


    You don't make a lot of sense. You say that you don't have a sexual interest in him, but yet you want to flirt with him, and you want to get him interested. Why?

    You say you don't want to be obviously gay to him.

    You want a gay "friend"? If you want him to know that you too are gay, just talk to him. If you want friendship, it helps to be real.
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    Jun 06, 2015 7:53 AM GMT
    HikerSkier said
    scott69617 saidFor all I know, he's probably assuming that I'm straight. How can I make it playful and flirt with him in a manner that will get him interested, but not make it obvious that I'm gay? No agendas. I'm not trying to hook up with him or date him.


    You don't make a lot of sense. You say that you don't have a sexual interest in him, but yet you want to flirt with him, and you want to get him interested. Why?

    You say you don't want to be obviously gay to him.

    You want a gay "friend"? If you want him to know that you too are gay, just talk to him. If you want friendship, it helps to be real.


    OP says he just wanna play with that guy's heart like how most straight guys flirt girls. He ain't serious yet he thinks we're all the same level as him, that's why he's aking here. Lol
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    Jun 07, 2015 3:14 PM GMT
    Take your clothes off and hide under his bedsheets while he is brushing his teeth at night.