-The video was all about straight mostly married couples.
-gay or straight a lot of things in a relationship are the same but the concept of society accepting a gay relationship as a god given right is new.
-90's gay men may choose to not adapt well.
woodsmen saidInfidelity Hides in Your Genes
another bro science discovery, blame your father, mother...
After seeing the video i thought she (Esther Perel) said:
-the cheater may think; i deserve to be happy so i cheat
-infidelity says your not the special one, not the best friend, not a confidant…
-choosing to immediately dump the chatter is the new shame
-not so much about the other partner but the cheater is looking for another self caused by death and bad news raise personal doubt
-if one puts a tenth of the effort in to the relationship that is was spent cheating things would be better off
-the cheater needs to feel gilt for what he did to the relationship not just his partner
-what was it like for you when you came home after having the affair
-what was it that you could not have done with me?
-to the person doing the cheating: are you pleased its now over?
-what is the legacy of the affair that will never go away; my first marriage is over, i am creating a second one together with the same person after the infidelity. Most people have 2or3 relationships in their lives.
my personal views if they matter:
1)if someone cheated on me 6 months into a relationship i would just end it. No drama. After some TBD time you have invested your self into this person and thus I would put some effort into repairing the situation. At some point the extra stress just gets un healthy and you need to end it.
2)life is a long winding road. likely someone does you some big bad now, given enough time, you might do an even more grievous sin to him.