Having sex for the first time with a Daddy

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    Jun 01, 2015 3:58 PM GMT
    I'm 18, and the guy is 40. I met him on Grindr. I have only been a top. I never bottomed before, so I'm not sure if I want to pop my cherry with an older guy. He seems like a really gentle and nice guy, he told me that if anything hurts he will stop. He only wants to do things that I feel comfortable with.

    Have you ever had sex with a guy who is much older than you? Do you think older guys are more gentle and careful in bed than younger guys?
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 01, 2015 4:55 PM GMT
    I did and I do. An older guy was my first and he was amazing. I'd been thinking of trying for a while and had practiced a bit with a dildo so I was at least somewhat familiar with how to relax. We're still friends after all these years. I think younger guys could be just as considerate/skilled but truthfully, younger guys' hormones take over and things get a bit selfish. Not all, I'm sure, but especially the first time. There's always a rush of energy associated with a first time with a guy you're attracted to but older guys can more easily bridle the energy because of practice, and frankly, somewhat reduced hormonal power. Like with everything else, not everyone is highly skilled at sex (at any age) and as for you, just remember that like with everything else, you get better with practice. If he knows you're a virgin as a bottom, he'll be OK with going slow and staying in close touch with how you're doing.
  • coolman_vn

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    Jun 01, 2015 7:39 PM GMT
    Not always older men are tender and gentle. If he has experience and skills he was. But if he is just active man who run away from his wife don't give him!
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    Jun 02, 2015 6:24 PM GMT
    When I was younger, I had sex with a lot of different types of guys, including some who were "older." I never had a bad experience being topped by an older guy; but like Destin said, some younger guys with raging hormones can be a bit overly aggressive and selfish - more interested in using your ass then in giving you mutual pleasure. That's not a bad thing if that's the kind of experience you are seeking. But I take it that's not what you want at this time.
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    Jun 02, 2015 7:07 PM GMT
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jun 02, 2015 8:35 PM GMT
    Life provides no warranties for such choices. If you like and trust the the guy, and want to give it a shot, go for it. Conversely, if you want to have a younger dude pop your cherry...

    I agree with a number of posters that the chances are that an "older" dude may be a bit more controlled when it comes to respecting your limits. He also may be a bit more patient, and possibly more skilled than a young guy who may be doing it for the first time, and feels that this is where he has to prove himselficon_wink.gif

  • WApilot

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    Jun 15, 2015 4:17 PM GMT
    My partner is 13 years older than me. Personally, I've always had a thing for older guys. A fine wine gets better with age. Plus the maturity level is on par with my maturity. Thing is, all guys are different. Before my partner, I'd fool around with many different guys. Some older, some younger (above 18 of coarse) and each guy was different. I'm versatile, so, the top/bottom thing was never a question, but from my experience, older guys are more gentle (when you want them to be). I don't mind a rough pounding every now-and-then.
  • uncut7in

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    Jun 19, 2015 12:26 PM GMT
    For me it's the other way round - I'm the daddy and I'm looking for a cute son. Dad/son sex is what works for me - as a top dad I'm experienced and know what to do with my big cock. Enjoy fucking young guys who are 40+ years younger than me.