ItsMe236 saidJust from curiousity. How gay-friendly churches teach or tell us differently from the ones that are not?
Well first you have to understand that gay friendly is not the same as gay accepting. Also, you have to be more specific in your question of what type of religion you're referring to. Christians tend to mostly be gay friendly, at least in the coastal areas of the country, other areas may be a little more conservative. This means that they welcome you but still view homosexuality as a sin but they don't chastise you any more than the person who covets his possessions, or the person who commits adultery. Religion is a very personal thing and usually revolves around family. I think mostly the fear is what family will feel rather than the fact that they see being gay as a sin.
Being gay and being religious can work. It just a matter of understanding what the inaccurate perceptions some have about what the bible says. They tend to either only listen to others and not research scripture itself or take the literal translation of some verses in the Bible but not others. I true Christian understands and wants to learn more about what the Bible really means in the interpretation of God's word by the prophets.
The recommendation of being patient and talking about it is a great ideas. Many here have made some great suggestions for you. Talk to him and when he brings up things of confusion or that you don't know or understand, sit together and google them with the idea of looking at it from a gay perspective. The religious right will always have their reason but it can usually be disputed and with good argument
I'm a practicing Christian who has struggled with this for year and now I'm beginning to understand more, but more importantly I'm seeing the bitterness in many gays. It's understandable, the way they've been treated but unfortunate that there's not more patients with trying to understand what the faithful feel.
So I agree with others that you need to be patient, talk to your friend, ask him to explain what issues he has, do your research and see if you can open a dialog about spirituality and homosexuality and both learn more.
Good luck man.