When does ones midlife crisis usually hit??

  • venue35

    Posts: 4644

    Jun 05, 2015 10:44 PM GMT
    Before or after 40???
    I'm confused as to what happens.
    Is the subconscious all of a sudden telling you that you won't live for ever???
    Not that I feel like something like this is waiting for me
    in a couple of years or so..just curious that's allicon_rolleyes.gif
  • Ruggededge

    Posts: 3

    Jun 05, 2015 10:48 PM GMT
    It doesn't !
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 12:32 AM GMT
    For gay men it's 30, not 40. It's all downhill after that.   icon_twisted.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 12:45 AM GMT
    Most typically it's mid to late 40s. I'm not sure there's a distinction between gay & straight.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 1:07 AM GMT
    I agree with Art. I typically see it in friends in their late 40's just before they're about to turn 50.
    I find that BOTH gay men and straight men act foolish at the same age bracket.
    You can find it on Facebook and RJ both.
    Been there, done that, glad it's over.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 2:07 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI agree with Art. I typically see it in friends in their late 40's just before they're about to turn 50.
    I find that BOTH gay men and straight men act foolish at the same age bracket.
    You can find it on Facebook and RJ both.
    Been there, done that, glad it's over.

    As usual I'm a late bloomer

    Can't wait for it to start! I'm due some foolish action.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 2:56 AM GMT
    Do what my friend did: buy a corvette and a sailboat (both used). Most of our mutual friends applauded him.

    I joined a health club for mine. Our friends thought that was rather pathetic, lol.

    :-)
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 2:57 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidFor gay men it's 30, not 40. It's all downhill after that.   icon_twisted.gif
    Ironically, I started downhill mountain biking at age 41.
    Yep, it's all "downhill" after 40. icon_cool.gif
  • bobbobbob

    Posts: 2812

    Jun 06, 2015 3:03 AM GMT
    For me it started at 40 when the boys left for college. LOL. Part of that was empty nest syndrome. We got 2 more dogs, 2 cats and had college students living with us just to have some distracting commotion all the time.

    And I bought a big boat...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 3:09 AM GMT
    Mine was early, 35.
    Had a big bad breakup and left a thriving business to go on a year-long vacation which led to 5 more years in Latin America, pretending I was creating a business.

    Mine was crazy but I've bounced back after getting it out of my system.
  • SilverRRCloud

    Posts: 874

    Jun 06, 2015 5:45 AM GMT
    It hits some. And it does not hit the others.

    As with so many other things in life, it is up to you to decide if a new development, a process or a discourse out there will magnify your strengths or your weaknesses.

    Once your 20's are over, you know that life is good, and probably getting even better in some sense. But not in the sense of being 21, and trying to see if you can have sex a dozen of times a dayicon_surprised.gif

    Once your 30's are over, you know that life is good. You have achieved something. You may be having a stable relationship. There is great comfort in knowing that you have somehow rounded your achievements, and that your efforts are now paying dividends.

    Once your 40's are over, you know that your definition of 'good life' has changed. You are transitioning into the second half of your life. This is roughly when you choose how you want to life that life. Some guys go for used or new Corvettes. The others hope that a flashy new Ferrari and possibly, a new yacht will help. And, it may help some dudes...

    More likely, staying fit, both physically and mentally, learning a new foreign language, and acquiring a new marketable skill will help a lot more than any new tat, car or boat. If it is easy to get, it ain't really worth that much...

    This is when you may want to re-invent yourself if you have what it takes to do so. This is when you continue to be an inspiration to yourself, and possibly start being an inspiration to the others. This is when your wisdom, experience start massively attracting the enthusiasm of the youth, and many magic moments still lie ahead.

    SC

  • mstone18

    Posts: 84

    Jun 06, 2015 7:53 AM GMT

    For some its a chronic problem after 40

    40 - joined a gym
    45 - bought a car (temporary insanity, father passed away)
    50 - visited a foreign country
    51 - consider being a single parent

    its not always bad, its just often inhibitions are lifted.. you can gradually feel less responsibile for the consequences and begin to enjoy life.


  • venue35

    Posts: 4644

    Jun 06, 2015 9:04 AM GMT
    Wow these aren't the responses I was expecting.
    So a midlife crisis is linked to what we have or haven't achieved as we reach 40-45?
    What if life isn't so good and you haven't achieved what society expects of you when you hit 40??
    I'm really stressed out at the moment by the fact that 40 will be coming up fairly soon, and that time has gone by very fast and I feel I've wasted my youth and the big 4-0
    seems scary to me in that I've never really considered
    the fact that I won't be here forever and I have no control over that.
  • rnch

    Posts: 11524

    Jun 06, 2015 1:34 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidMost typically it's mid to late 40s. I'm not sure there's a distinction between gay & straight.




    Agree. And agree.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 1:40 PM GMT
    When my best friend and I got these almost 20 years ago.

    photo Museumdelivery.jpg

    No no, that's not me. That's the Camaro brand manager and my friend.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 2:32 PM GMT
    "So a midlife crisis is linked to what we have or haven't achieved as we reach 40-45?"


    Yes, it's about self dissatisfaction. The awareness of it seems to come on pretty quickly.

    Most guys seem to handle this self dissatisfaction pretty superficially: sports car and hair implants!

    Smart guys try to find more meaning in their lives. They begin to think of the good they can accomplish.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 3:29 PM GMT
    venue35 saidWow these aren't the responses I was expecting.
    So a midlife crisis is linked to what we have or haven't achieved as we reach 40-45?


    Yes

    If you've been living life on your own terms you rarely have one
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 3:44 PM GMT
    It started this year ,and i am turning 59 this month ..
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 06, 2015 7:34 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said
    venue35 saidWow these aren't the responses I was expecting.
    So a midlife crisis is linked to what we have or haven't achieved as we reach 40-45?


    Yes

    If you've been living life on your own terms you rarely have one


    BINGO! Mid-life crisis is a myth IMHO. I've had 7 sports cars/convertibles since I was 32.

    I like cars!

    I'm gay and single. It's my life. I do as I please, $$$ being the stopping point!
  • mystery905

    Posts: 745

    Jun 06, 2015 11:30 PM GMT
    I'm 46 years old, and haven't had a mid-life crisis yet icon_eek.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 07, 2015 1:53 AM GMT
    For me it wasn't so much of a crisis as an awakening.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 07, 2015 5:04 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidFor gay men it's 30, not 40. It's all downhill after that.   icon_twisted.gif

    After reading the threads on here over the year, I think it's actually 25. icon_lol.gif
  • AMoonHawk

    Posts: 11406

    Jun 07, 2015 5:41 AM GMT
    I think it started at about 16 and ended around 30icon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 07, 2015 5:57 AM GMT
    @SilverRRCloud

    Your texts are long but you are the antithesis of pazzy. They are actually worth reading.

    As for mid life blings I'll probably buy, I'll probably have a double manual harpsichord. I hope by that time I will also be a good classical singer, so I may invite some friends over to play my harpsichord while I sing or vice-versa. I can serve them lemonade and light snacks. I'll be a hip old guy! icon_lol.gif And I hope I will have learned German too so I can read my favorite philosophers. Life is too short to accomplish everything I want to do...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jun 07, 2015 9:38 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidFor me it wasn't so much of a crisis as an awakening.

    +1