Overthinking past relationship?

  • ccaa

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    Jun 06, 2015 11:49 PM GMT
    Hey,
    I had a relationship with someone for 1 year (he is 6 years younger) and we both had a great time except from the last month when we had some fightings. He broke it off by saying that we don't match to be together although we both loved each other. I was really hurt and he said that it was hard for him too. Next months I've tried to reach him several times, in order to solve our problems and maybe get together. He seems curious about what I'm doing generally in my life and wants to spend time with me, but he was refusing to meet me alone giving me angry answers like i don't love you anymore and i will only meet you when you find new contacts. I know i pushed more than i should but that was because i really loved the guy and i always thought that we could really be happy together.

    Yesterday after 5 months, I accidentally met him close to my house where he told me that he is going to someone's else house (someone new i guessed) and he said and asked about my job/studying news . I was cool about it and didn't ask for a meeting or anything or contacted him after that. He knows that i love him anyway.

    Im i too silly to believe that feelings don't fade away that easily and he s having some kind of rebound relationship?
    Is everything negative and its only me who is overthinking about it?
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    Jun 07, 2015 12:39 AM GMT
    There is no way to know if it's a rebound situation and even if it is, that doesn't mean he wants to get back together with you. All you can do in these situations is take them at their word. If he says he doesn't want to see you anymore, you have no (emotionally healthy) choice but to give him what he asks for. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear but it's the absolute truth.

    The ONLY way to possibly lure him back is to let him see that you've gone on with your life. This means going out with friends and dating and having a great time. If there is any interest left in him at all, this will bring it out. But it cannot be an act. And it involves ZERO contact with him. No texting. No emails. No phone calls and no (accidentally bumping into him.) In other words, you must actively AVOID him and actually move on. If he cares about you at all, he will eventually get curious why he hasn't heard from you.
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    Jun 07, 2015 1:59 AM GMT
    Just my two cents, it seems like he was on his mission to leave you when that fight has begun. It was as if he was trying to look for reasons to break with you.

    But no matter what it is, get over it before things become toxin for you. There are other fishes in the sea, don't limit yourself to one; you can find a better one.