Would strong men like me?

  • Jario

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    Jun 08, 2015 3:24 PM GMT
    So I'm not your average workout person. I like to eat and get bigger and rounder, but I still workout sometimes, because I'm a gainer. I know it probably goes against everything on here. Just want to know if a strong guy would like a fat guy like me. :/
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    Jun 08, 2015 8:45 PM GMT
    I firmly believe there's somebody for everybody.

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  • goodmagic

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    Jun 08, 2015 9:07 PM GMT
    How is the dating pool in Jacksonville Mississippi? To be real strong men usually stick to there own kind. Unless you got something they want like drugs or money. If I were you I would hit the gym and go on a diet. Forget about this strong man fantasy it will only distract you from dealing with your problems.
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    Jun 08, 2015 11:11 PM GMT
    I agree with David.

    The real question is the confidence in your self to take the leap and go after what you want.
    If that's a strong guy or the aspiration to be stronger yourself, both are great goals. I think in the end both go hand in hand.
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    Jun 09, 2015 12:40 AM GMT
    Eating's fun, and it sure is easy to come by. Big, strong men are harder to come by. Whichever you value more, put your effort into that.
  • goodmagic

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    Jun 09, 2015 2:51 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidEating's fun, and it sure is easy to come by. Big, strong men are harder to come by. Whichever you value more, put your effort into that.


    I totally agree Mickey,

    Why are you valuing something this superficial? Yeah it's nice to look at but you got to base a commitment in a relationship more than just that. You want a guy with muscles for social status? If you want real value look what you have to offer instead of this fantasy that a muscle man will make you now acceptable in a community that might never accept you..As a black man who also grew up in the south I know what your going thru. I didn't have the best body but my personality was solid gold!
  • Wonderboywill

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    Jun 09, 2015 3:26 AM GMT
    What the hell is a strong guy exactly. Muscles don't make someone strong...
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    Jun 09, 2015 1:45 PM GMT
    I wouldn't definitely say no. I know a lot of other muscular guys generally are into other muscular guys due to the enormous commitment they make to themselves to get that way. Strict nutrition and training is a major lifestyle commitment applied for decades and something they need to immerse themselves in to achieve day in and day out.

    With that I have known well built guys who are definitely into the complete opposites. I have one friend who would totally be into dating Justin Bieber and he's built like a brick shit house.

    Bottom line yes, there's someone out there for everyone. With 8 billion humans on the planet you just have to keep looking.
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    Jun 09, 2015 2:55 PM GMT
    With the exception of Sumo and some professional
    Type wrestlers, most guys that work out a lot would probably watch what they eat,making large calorie filled meals not fit into their lifestyles. It says nothing about you as a person, just that activities that are a big part of your lives are at odds with each others. Like a recovering alcoholic and a hardcore partier trying to have a relationship. Could be two of the greatest guys on the planet, but their core activities would force one or the other to change.
    Good luck in trying to find your guy, but maybe try for a personality match rather than looking for a particular body type.
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    Jun 09, 2015 10:23 PM GMT
    Jario saidSo I'm not your average workout person. I like to eat and get bigger and rounder, but I still workout sometimes, because I'm a gainer. I know it probably goes against everything on here. Just want to know if a strong guy would like a fat guy like me. :/


    Are there a handful of muscular guys out there who are chubby chasers? Very possibly, but the majority of very muscular men tend to be attracted to either only very muscular men, or much smaller twinks. Sorry.
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    Jun 09, 2015 10:41 PM GMT
    As per this other thread, OP wouldn't be ready to be with such a guy even if he found one who happened to be into him.
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    Jun 10, 2015 12:46 AM GMT
    Try to think of it like this: like minded people are attracted to each other by their commonality. Now, ask yourself a very truthful question: other than a pee pee, what would you have in common with someone such as me? There comes a point where you need to accept that your wish is more of a delusion / fantasy, than anything. True, there may be a chubby chaser, but, they likely won't be on this site. And, true, there may be some big, fat, strong guys, too, but, unless you're active, chances are a real jock is not going to be attracted to you. That's no being cruel. That's the way of The World. Now, you get to decide if you want to take personal responsibility for your health, and become a real jock, or not. Do you have the discipline, focus, patience, persistence, and drive to change to become better? Do you have the where with all to accept that you have a personal responsibility for your own health? You should. You need to educate yourself (you do it yourself) around wellness. Exercise, and good diet, is a powerful tool in having sound physical and mental health. Do you have the ambition to change? Do you have the strength to change? Life is to be lived. Live it.
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    Jun 10, 2015 1:30 AM GMT
    goodmagic saidHow is the dating pool in Jacksonville Mississippi? To be real strong men usually stick to there own kind. Unless you got something they want like drugs or money. If I were you I would hit the gym and go on a diet. Forget about this strong man fantasy it will only distract you from dealing with your problems.


    I disagree, I have a friend who is model handsome, built like a brick house...but he is totally attracted to guys who are bears.

    So be who you are and you will find what you want, it just takes time and the right moment.
  • jjguy05

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    Jun 10, 2015 4:41 AM GMT
    Jario saidSo I'm not your average workout person. I like to eat and get bigger and rounder, but I still workout sometimes, because I'm a gainer. I know it probably goes against everything on here. Just want to know if a strong guy would like a fat guy like me. :/


    I'm assuming by "strong men" you mean well-built guys.

    Don't put them on a pedestal. You'll get burned if you keep doing that.

    Consider becoming one instead.

    Jario saidI like to eat and get bigger and rounder, but I still workout sometimes, because I'm a gainer.


    Do you like being overweight? I'm only asking because of this sentence.

    It's totally cool if you don't wanna be muscular and/or ripped. But being seriously overweight is bad for your health and robs you of having a full life. Do you find yourself frequently getting exhausted? Make changes for yourself.

    Edit:

    I looked at your profile...you're not morbidly obese by any means. You have a decent build. If you find yourself to be an easy "gainer", use that to your advantage to gain muscle instead of fat. It's definitely not too late if you wanna change things around right now.
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Jun 10, 2015 9:43 PM GMT
    Love it when someone speaks for all of us on Realjock, as if all the fit and muscular guys on here fit into the same mold!? but it is refreshing to read comments from other fit guys, who does not fit into the Gym rat, I am better off then you, narcissistic attitude towards others less fit.

    As for me, I used to be heavier, and frankly was very happy with my weight! I lost 70 lbs in a period of three years, primarily not for looks but for my health, as my Cholesterol got to dangerous high levels. I got so skinny to a point that I looked sick, so I took on Weight training, and so far gained 30 lbs back! I have no intention of bulking up, but my muscles seem to respond great to toning from weight training! my body image may be changing, slowly, but I am still the same person I ever was!

    God, I do hope as I get more toned and perhaps even more muscular, I don't overlook a fit mind, regardless of their physique!
  • NealJohn

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    Jun 10, 2015 11:17 PM GMT
    I'm sure I'll get abused for this , but ...

    No. Fat is repulsive. No man or woman spends hours in the gym and on their diet to give it up to some slob who doesn't have the self control to watch what they eat or spend an hour exercising. Question is this; would you f$@k you? If you answer that honestly, you will say no- same reason why you want a strong man.
    That said. In a world of disease and sickness, I'm offended that people can choose to be handicapped in such a way. Or that there isn't a tax on overweight people, as they strain everything, from the economy to the healthcare system.
    I don't mean this as an offense, I'm just saying you should seriously consider bettering yourself. This isn't Disney, no one is going to love you for ONLY your inner beauty.
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    Jun 10, 2015 11:38 PM GMT
    David_Lauderdale saidI firmly believe there's somebody for everybody.

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    Damn that's a huge bitch!

    *Bonus points for reference*
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    Jun 10, 2015 11:53 PM GMT
    Yes, strong men would like you...as a person.
    But the chances of them being physically attracted to you is still up for debate.
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    Jun 11, 2015 1:36 AM GMT
    There's always a chance. But sad to say, based on the feedback I've seen on similar threads skinny guys, if they're ripped, have a better chance of landing "strong men:"


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  • Beeftastic

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    Jun 11, 2015 1:52 AM GMT
    NealJohn saidI'm sure I'll get abused for this , but ...

    No. Fat is repulsive. No man or woman spends hours in the gym and on their diet to give it up to some slob who doesn't have the self control to watch what they eat or spend an hour exercising. Question is this; would you f$@k you? If you answer that honestly, you will say no- same reason why you want a strong man.
    That said. In a world of disease and sickness, I'm offended that people can choose to be handicapped in such a way. Or that there isn't a tax on overweight people, as they strain everything, from the economy to the healthcare system.
    I don't mean this as an offense, I'm just saying you should seriously consider bettering yourself. This isn't Disney, no one is going to love you for ONLY your inner beauty.


    For you maybe but your opinion is not the only one. I used to be larger, and there were a number of chubby chasers I met that were muscle heads with bodies similar to NealJohns. They only liked guys that were 250 lbs or larger. Also there were a couple of muscle guys I met that were Feeders too.

    I definitely think it's better to aspire to fitness for your health and overall well being. Having been exposed to the Gainer/Feeder mentality through chubby groups I used to belong to, I don't believe it's a mentally or physically healthy direction for anyone.

    But then again a lot of things that guys trying to perfect their bodies on here do are not actually that good from a overall health perspective. Steroids being the first thing. Body Builder levels of protein intake are not very good for your health long term either, or extreme exercise, etc. etc. etc. But since they result in looking good on the outside the health consequences are ignored.




  • Jun 11, 2015 3:05 AM GMT
    I feel you dude, I'm attracted to muscular guys and at the very least fit guys, but generally speaking, with a few exceptions, they are not attracted to me. I totally understand, respect and accept that muscular guys are only seeking other muscular guys (I learned that the hard way). I'm attracted to average bodied guys but depends on facial features and other qualities they have or don't. For the most part, the men I'm attracted to who are mutually attracted to me live far away. This makes me wonder, what is wrong with me? But I wish you the best in finding that person who mutually likes you for who you are. I use to be obese but lost 80-90+ lbs and kept it off for the past 4.5 years, so you'll get there!!! icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 11, 2015 4:30 AM GMT
    If you have to ask, then no.
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    Jun 22, 2015 10:48 AM GMT
    Neil had the best answer of all. Would I fuck me? In my case...yes....

    Just as a picture less profile says I'm lazy, and I don't want to play the game by the rules, fat people send a message that they are incapable of managing their relationship with food, lazy, depressed, etc. I.e., a mess of laziness, low esteem, etc. While empowering people to become better, you can't help them if they won't help themselves. I have the greatest respect for folks who take action...go to the gym, fix their self esteem issues, etc. But, if you say you don't want to do anything except ruin your human machine, and still want someone to embrace you for having such a poor sense of responsibility to yourself and The Global Village, ... to me...it means a huge lack of character...laziness...no self respect. A mega huge turnoff. Ikk.