Who doesn't have one? Beginning to question WHY I don't and IF I'll get, a tattoo

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    Jun 12, 2015 10:05 AM GMT
    Would you guys have a preference or have less interest in a guy with or without tattoos? I've come to a point in life that I haven't faced since the Beenie baby and giga pet days, and later the basketball and football tryouts in middle and high school. Trying to fit in with he majority, and feeling left out.

    I've noticed that pretty much every guy at the gym has a tattoo, every guy I date/hookup with under 40 has one....and at the gay bars, it's crazy how thirsty guys get when they see someone with a sleeve. A whole conversation revolves around their ink. it's almost like to get a conversation going nowadays, you have to smoke cigarettes, or have a few tattoos.

    Personally, I grew up in a family that never had tattoos. And growing up, it was mainly the predictable types who had them. But nowadays, everybody has one. From the ones straight out of prison, to the conservative minded types in the suburbs. I thought seriously about getting one a couple years ago, but I've realized I'm too switchy and not even sure I've come to my identity even at 27. I don't know if I'd be happy with the tattoo I choose.

    Now, I LU, LU, LOVE my tatted dudes. No lie. BUT, no offense to anyone who has some, but it usually never fails: the guys Ive meet/date with tattoos usually displayed a lot of un-warranted animosity towards people, or tend to be very petty, jealous, always trying to compare and compete with me or party too hard. Not saying non-tattooed guys aren't that way either, but The tatted guys I've known REALLY come off having a sour edge, even the ones who may be successful and have something going for themselves. They seem nice and charming one minute, but can turn on you at the drop of a hat.

    That being said, I have concerns about what image I'd be sending out by having some, and what I may become myself. Part of me still believes the deeper spiritual and satanic connections tattoos can hold, and from an African point of view, I know the ancient meanings are very different than today's fashion accessory meaning.
  • venue35

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    Jun 12, 2015 10:08 AM GMT
    I think it's cooler not to have one these days.
    Everybody has one or wants one it seems..
  • venue35

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    Jun 12, 2015 10:18 AM GMT
    In the 90's it was so daring and a rarity..
    These days you HAVE to have one because it's cool.
    Having said that your tattoos look good on you.
    I've seen many guys with tattoos and they just don't look right on them for some reason.
    And the star on the elbow...i see that everywhere.
    So basically people are copying eachother instead of really looking into it and finding something that suits them.
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    Jun 12, 2015 10:38 AM GMT
    venue35 said
    And the star on the elbow...i see that everywhere.
    So basically people are copying eachother instead of really looking into it and finding something that suits them.


    Lol, yes yes. A (EX) friend of mine....I've known him over the course of 2 or 3 years. At first he had just a barb wire on the wrist, and a tribal thing on upper arm. But then he went to the elbow star. Then a wrist tribal thing. Then a gargoyle. Then angel wings on his back.

    Going back to how I said guys with tattoos can turn on you in an instant, I had to permanently and finally stop being friends with him when he texted me a couple weeks ago, that "I'm going to get what's coming to me", and to "watch out for that"....all because a friend of his made up some lies about us sleeping together. Which he found out wasn't true, but fact he couldn't come to me like a normal person,, and to threaten me with some ish like that was the final straw. By product of the other attribute: partying too hard.

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    Jun 12, 2015 10:49 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    venue35 saidI think it's cooler not to have one these days.
    Everybody has one or wants one it seems..


    I honestly have to agree with venue.

    Once in a while I'll meet a hot guy who has no tattoos who will ask for my advice for getting one. This happens because I'm excessively tattooed, of course. In my response I try to dissuade him from getting any and tell him that he's more of a rarity with clear skin than all the guys you see with tattoos.


    Haha, that's interesting. I'd think someone with lots of tattoos would condone getting inked.

    But now let me ask, if a guy likes a guy with tattoos....in the world of being tattooed, do some tattooed guys prefer someone who isn't super tattooed? Because I'd think if a tattooed guy got with another super tattooed guy, it would take away some of the attention? Lol (hypothetical here)

    That said, I'm finding all the "where you got your tattoo, what kinda tattoo" small talk bullshit getting annoying nowadays. Unless you spending time with that person, it just comes off like meaningless chatter and someone getting aroused by the attention.

    I went out to the club 2 weeks ago. My friend's date was all over my date talking about his tats. This was not a double date. This was me saying hi to a passing friend. My date and his date got all in depth about tattoo talk, even kinda flirting a bit, At the end of the night, my friend's date ditched him. The guy I was on a date with, he later turned out to not be about shit. One rude act leads to the next.

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    Jun 12, 2015 10:59 AM GMT
    I've spent 10 years deciding what I am going to get. I then spent 6 months finding an artist. But then it turns out she was moving to New Zealand.

    The meaning behind what I'm getting is very personal so I wouldn't share that with just anyone.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jun 12, 2015 11:48 AM GMT
    If you have awesome physique a tattoo won't spoil what you already have.

    If you don't a tatt would always look like a cheap shortcut in an effort to look great, i.e. look like dudes with great physique and some ink on them. Frankly, this never works. Coz, it both looks and feels like a fake. Well, it is a fake.

    A dude who is looking the best he can does not need anything else. When it comes to attraction, everyone has his own taste. But the rule is that less is usually more.

    Trying to fit in is always a bad plan. You are who you are, and that is good enough. Mimicking the others, hoping to fit in, won't really work. A dude who finds you attractive, will go for you. The notion of trying to fit in is somehow a turn off, because it shows that you are not really succeeding. You are kinda trying.

    It is also true that practically everyone has some ink on them these days. Unless this really reflects your personality and your lifestyle, it is a wrong choice altogether.

    Think of a corporate dude who is pretending to be a thug from the hood? Not a good choice, is it?

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    Jun 13, 2015 4:40 AM GMT
    Thought about it in high school, but wanted to make sure it would be a good design and meaningful. Thought about it too long and lost interest. I'm actually glad I didn't get one.

    I'm ok with tattoos on other guys. As long as it's something interesting and the quality is good. Not this guy though..

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    Jun 13, 2015 5:07 AM GMT
    I prefer scarification over tattoos. It's more painful, but the statement is the same...it says "I have something to say that can't be put into words." icon_wink.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jun 13, 2015 5:59 AM GMT
    I'm still debating between invisible in light glow in the dark tatoo or magical incantations icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 13, 2015 6:44 AM GMT
    My mum has extremely unique handwriting. I can't even compare it to a font because I've never seen letters stylised the way she writes them. Anyway, she always writes long birthday/Christmas cards, and down the bottom it's always signed "Love always, Mum" in her distinct handwriting. I've been thinking about getting a small tattoo of that on my inner-left wrist. That way I could cover it up with a watch if I ever wanted to cover it.

    I would never get anything more than that though. I love tattoos, but I'm too indecisive. I'm a completely different person to the person I was 2 months ago, let alone 5 years ago. I don't know if I'd like the idea of never being able to take a tattoo off.

    I think it's a bad idea to get them before 25-30. You're still figuring out who you are.
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    Jun 13, 2015 2:16 PM GMT
    If you're getting a tattoo because everyone else is getting one or because of an image you want to convey, I would recommend against getting inked as there are other "less permanent" ways you can accomplish that. Based on your posts, your personality seems to be somewhat transient and emotional so you'd likely find yourself regretting any tattoo you get down the road.

    My recommendations BEFORE YOU EVEN DECIDE to get a tattoo:
    1. You should get a tattoo if you're dying to get one and have had a sustained desire for a year or more.
    I know so many people who regret their ink (mainly the location or the color). Your ink will be with you for life, so give it some thought and allow yourself to go through all 4 seasons as you think about the design. Your mood might be different in winter than in summer.
    2. Your tattoo should mean something to YOU.
    You'll like your tattoo if it looks nice, but you'll LOVE your tattoo if it has a meaningful story to YOU.
    3. WHERE you get the tattoo matters.
    Great tattoos not only look beautiful but they complement the canvas. Your skin moves, stretches, crinkles and is subject to more wear and tear in some areas more than others. Also, think about animation. I have a lion and it "roars" when I move my arm.
    4. I highly recommend against getting tattoos that can't be covered up when you want. Just as tattoos are often personal, there are times and situations you'll experience, especially when you're older, when maybe you'll want to choose who get's to see your ink and when they get to see it.
    5. Research your artist! Research your artist! Research your artist!
    Is she highly recommended? Does he specialize in your type of art. Is the place clean and reputable? Look at their work. I found my artist in Canada, traded emails and design ideas and waited 6 months for him to come down to Texas to get mine.
    6. Lastly, tattoos hurt man.
    It should be the least of your concerns and even a rite of passage. But you need to know your threshold for pain before you decide to get that full body tattoo. It's not so much the pain, it's the duration of the sensation. It's tolerable and you can totally handle it and distract yourself from it. But I am a pussy when it comes to pain. If you are too, start with a smaller design first and add on to it over time.

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    Jun 13, 2015 2:42 PM GMT
    venue35 saidI think it's cooler not to have one these days.
    Everybody has one or wants one it seems..

    I agree. It's cooler now NOT to have a tat, cuz literally everyone has one now a days. And never have I looked at a tattoo and though "wow, how cool!, makes him look super sexy, omg, im cummin in my pants rihght now"...


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    Jun 13, 2015 3:09 PM GMT
    venue35 saidI think it's cooler not to have one these days.
    Everybody has one or wants one it seems..


    Exactly my thought ! icon_smile.gif
  • rdberg1957

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    Jun 13, 2015 3:39 PM GMT
    I am definitely an older guy, age 58. When I came out, guys were wearing earrings and long hair. I definitely liked that. I no longer have much hair and have long since ditched the earrings. I never found tattoos attractive, don't like thick beards, and am pretty conservative in my dress.

    My preference is definitely for guys without tattoos, mainly because I don't find it visually appealing. Of course, my preferences matter less and less because I'm not as marketable as I was when I was 22.
  • Svnw688

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    Jun 13, 2015 3:55 PM GMT
    I think tattoos are cool on some/most other guys, but I personally do not have one and will never get one. This is WRONG, but my mother taught me that only low-class, trashy and prison people get tattoos, and to have more dignity for myself than to scar myself for life.

    Obviously, that belief is a crock of sh*t, and is wrong, but there is SOME truth to that wrong idea. All things being equal, a person is more likely an ex convict, gang member or poorer person if they're tattooed. I honestly don't see that many tattoos at the country club (and yes, I see many bodies at the pool, tennis courts where guys go shirtless often, etc.), among lawyers or investment bankers, but I see a lot of tattoos at dive (blue collar) bars, when paint balling, and at the (public) beach or park.

    It's a false belief, but one that is instilled in me, and so I'll never get a tattoo because it would feel 'icky' to me. Wrong and irrational, but I can't control my emotions my mom wrongly programmed. And I know it's a SEXIST double-standard, but I have NEVER seen a good tattoo on a woman. That is just trashy in my opinion.
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    Jun 13, 2015 4:00 PM GMT
    My grandfather has JULIA tattooed on his right bicep. My grandmother's name is Marie.
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    Jun 13, 2015 4:23 PM GMT
    DefensiveEnd saidMy grandfather has JULIA tattooed on his right bicep. My grandmother's name is Marie.


    Lol, that's a funny/cute story. I hope Marie takes it in stride icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 13, 2015 4:42 PM GMT
    Svnw688 saidI think tattoos are cool on some/most other guys, but I personally do not have one and will never get one. This is WRONG, but my mother taught me that only low-class, trashy and prison people get tattoos, and to have more dignity for myself than to scar myself for life.

    Obviously, that belief is a crock of sh*t, and is wrong, but there is SOME truth to that wrong idea. All things being equal, a person is more likely an ex convict, gang member or poorer person if they're tattooed. I honestly don't see that many tattoos at the country club (and yes, I see many bodies at the pool, tennis courts where guys go shirtless often, etc.), among lawyers or investment bankers, but I see a lot of tattoos at dive (blue collar) bars, when paint balling, and at the (public) beach or park.

    It's a false belief, but one that is instilled in me, and so I'll never get a tattoo because it would feel 'icky' to me. Wrong and irrational, but I can't control my emotions my mom wrongly programmed. And I know it's a SEXIST double-standard, but I have NEVER seen a good tattoo on a woman. That is just trashy in my opinion.


    Your mom got it right all the way around, Svn. Ditch the contemporary labels and go with what she advised.
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    Jun 13, 2015 5:02 PM GMT
    Imagine yourself in 30 years. Do you still think it looks good? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 13, 2015 5:04 PM GMT
    Svnw688 said
    DefensiveEnd saidMy grandfather has JULIA tattooed on his right bicep. My grandmother's name is Marie.


    Lol, that's a funny/cute story. I hope Marie takes it in stride icon_lol.gif

    He claims Julia's dead. I've never heard Grandma mention it. Just reinforces NEVER put another person's name on your body permanently. Not even MOM. These days Mom might be Dad somewhere down the line.
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    Jun 13, 2015 5:14 PM GMT
    DefensiveEnd saidMy grandfather has JULIA tattooed on his right bicep. My grandmother's name is Marie.

    You identify an issue with having ink: your life changes over time, your tastes change, and your appearance also ages, but your tattoo does not. I wonder what people will think of "Mr. Cool ICE" above when he's in his 80s.

    I mentioned about a month ago that I got my first and only tattoo. But for medical notification purposes, not decorative. And I had it placed where first responders will hopefully find it (underside of my wrist), but otherwise not very obtrusive, especially with a coat and tie. My medical condition will never go away, so the tattoo can be permanent, unlike names of lovers or other special interests and associations.
  • coyoteandhawk

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    Jun 13, 2015 5:41 PM GMT
    Tatoos are like all the ads on the Nascars etc., kinda obscures what I'm trying to see. Love nice original body work.
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    Jun 13, 2015 7:51 PM GMT
    DefensiveEnd said
    Svnw688 said
    DefensiveEnd saidMy grandfather has JULIA tattooed on his right bicep. My grandmother's name is Marie.


    Lol, that's a funny/cute story. I hope Marie takes it in stride icon_lol.gif

    He claims Julia's dead. I've never heard Grandma mention it. Just reinforces NEVER put another person's name on your body permanently. Not even MOM. These days Mom might be Dad somewhere down the line.



    LOL! really!
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    Jun 13, 2015 7:58 PM GMT
    I don't have any tats.

    Not that I don't like them. I just change my mind too often. If I could get a semi-permanent tat that I could do myself, and redo on a whim.....then sure.