What age were you when you had your first serious relationship/ love

  • italiano027

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    Jun 16, 2015 10:26 PM GMT
    So I'm 26 and still single and never had a real relationship before

    Maybe it's me but I just don't know where to go to meet people. Online apps are very sketchy like POF and Grindr, and tinder hasn't been useful either.

    So where do u go in person to meet people?
    Maybe Connecticut just sucks but I'm at a loss.

    Everyone I meet either plays games or falls off the earth and I never hear from them again or were not compatible?

    Is there a point where you have to just settle?

    I see all these people settling down getting married and buying houses and stuff and it just bugs me.
  • Pete36

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    Jul 02, 2015 10:14 PM GMT
    I was 18 and it was my college roommate. I was not out and you could not tell I was gay by the way I acted. I woke up in the middle of the night our second week as freshman and caught him JO to gay porn. He was so scared of being outed. Well after a brief talk and a little petting and making out he was at ease. the rest is history
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    Jul 02, 2015 10:29 PM GMT
    Turning 25 in August and it still hasn't happened yet!

    I mean I'm in love with someone who is straight and probably doesn't love me back the same way, but I'm not sure if that counts. -_-
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    Jul 03, 2015 2:49 AM GMT
    Nvr had a real relationship. I had gf's in highschool one of them lasted 8 months. Nvr been in a relationship with a guy though. There is a guy at my gym who I think is hot as hell and is my type at least as far as looks go and he kinda seems questionable. If I see him tomorrow im gonna just go up and ask if he is gay maybe i'll start my first one tomorrow!
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    Jul 03, 2015 9:01 PM GMT
    I was about 25, had my first serious thing. About 8 months, then I turned 26, had a 3 year with my ex. And I dated on and off before and after that. Grr, I'm looking forward to my next prince charming. icon_wink.gificon_lol.gificon_redface.gif
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 04, 2015 1:59 AM GMT
    I first felt love, not lust, when I was nineteen, at university, with another student. He came from Jordan and physically he was exactly what I was looking/hoping for: tall, black hair and eyes, bearded, and athletic; a bear type. He was twenty two and dressed more like my lecturers; formally, a jacket, shirt, and tie, etc.
    More than that, though, he was kind, thoughtful, intelligent, and we seemed to get on very well.
    We were together for about eighteen months, then gradually we drifted apart. I think I slowly realized the relationship was going to be short as he would be returning to Jordan after graduating, probably to make a good marriage and settle down with a family. I think he took his chances whilst he could in Britain. But until then I adored him.
    I still think of him nowadays.
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    Jul 04, 2015 2:21 AM GMT
    I had dated women in college and my early twenties, and then men after I came out in my late twenties. But the first relationship that was really serious and included professions of love and moving in together wasn't until I was 36.
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    Jul 04, 2015 9:48 AM GMT
    I was 23. It lasted a year and it was awesome!
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    Jul 04, 2015 5:11 PM GMT
    italiano027 saidSo I'm 26 and still single and never had a real relationship before

    Maybe it's me but I just don't know where to go to meet people. Online apps are very sketchy like POF and Grindr, and tinder hasn't been useful either.

    So where do u go in person to meet people?
    Maybe Connecticut just sucks but I'm at a loss.

    Everyone I meet either plays games or falls off the earth and I never hear from them again or were not compatible?

    Is there a point where you have to just settle?

    I see all these people settling down getting married and buying houses and stuff and it just bugs me.


    When I was in junior high I had some extended, paired-off relationships with girls, for lack of a better phrase, loving, coupled, some petting, heavy at times, but never consummated sexually. I thought at the time that they were close friendships (and I guess in some of that I was mimicking what str8 guys did) but the girls thought we were an item. And I later learned that a number of girl-friends wanted to be my girlfriend. I had no idea at the time and was pretty surprised when they fessed up later in life.

    With men I had a two-year relationship when I was 20 (dumped me then tried coming back) and then two 10-year relationships (widowed from each) in my mid 20s-30s and again late 30s to about 50.

    Relationships are less about settling for the qualities of another person but more about self realization and acceptance of another person.

    To settle is to presume that your illusionary expectations are superior to reality.

    You won't meet people by thinking you need to settle, by looking down on them. That's not where they are. So that's why you're not meeting them. You meet people by meeting them head on.
  • ImBlackYall

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    Jul 07, 2015 11:30 PM GMT
    First serious relationship in general lasted with a female for 6 years (15-21)

    First relationship to go longer than 4 months with a male, I was 25 (25-hopefully present)
  • Just_Tim

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    Jul 12, 2015 8:01 PM GMT
    26- present
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    Jul 12, 2015 9:30 PM GMT
    I've had relationships that I thought were serious at the time starting at 25.
    But the one I have now makes makes me realize that most of them weren't.
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    Jul 12, 2015 9:53 PM GMT
    I had just finished my university, and moved to Madrid. I was 24 years old. It lasted for two years.