I'm thinking about sleeping with a married man

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    Jun 16, 2015 11:52 PM GMT
    So I used to find the idea of doing this totally immoral. It was the line I dared not cross. I thought it spoke to a sound ethical sense within myself that I simply wouldn't have sex with a married man. But recently, I met this really hot guy on Craigslist. We are both bi and are in a similar situation. His body is unbelievable. I keep telling myself I won't do it. I convince myself every night that I was just crazy for even thinking about it. But then in morning, I excitedly check my email, respond to his message from the day before and click send. My heart pounds as a watch the arrow spin in a circle before the fateful "message sent" confirmation appears. I know I can't do it. I know it's wrong. I know I can never look at myself the same way in the mirror if I acquiesce. And yet every morning I click send...

    What should I do? Any advice? Would it really be wrong? I'm terrible for even thinking about it.
  • HottJoe

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    Jun 16, 2015 11:59 PM GMT
    I sleep with a married man every night. Granted, he's my husband.
  • Import

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    Jun 17, 2015 12:14 AM GMT
    if he doesn't sleep with you, then he will sleep with someone else.
    just sayin.
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    Jun 17, 2015 12:14 AM GMT
    Go for it! What have you got to lose? (besides your place and belongings after his wife finds out and burns the place down)
  • Destinharbor

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    Jun 17, 2015 12:15 AM GMT
    Personally I don't see it being your issue to decide. One thing I know for sure is that you never know what goes on behind closed doors in a marriage. She may know and be ok with it, whether they've discussed it or not. Many women just lose interest in sex but still value the marriage. Or maybe his occasional flings satisfy his need and makes it possible to stay with her. He has his reasons for staying in the marriage. You shouldn't expect a future husband out of the meet but it has happened. In any event, it's his life. He's the one making the choice. If my partner strayed I'd consider it his decision and the guy he hooked up with would be Irrelevant. Though this goes against recent thought. (Just for full disclosure, I was married to a woman and never hooked up until we were separated and filing for divorce.)
  • Import

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    Jun 17, 2015 12:19 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Import saidif he doesn't sleep with you, then he will sleep with someone else.
    just sayin.

    Good, go let him. He's not yours to sleep with.
    That water hose attached to my house is not yours either, so please don't steal it.

    what im trying to say is.... the other guy the OP is conversing with is going to cheat anyway.... or so it seems. So it might as well be with him? no?
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    Jun 17, 2015 12:31 AM GMT
    Deceit is deceit is deceit.
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    Jun 17, 2015 1:45 AM GMT
    donj499 saidSo I used to find the idea of doing this totally immoral. It was the line I dared not cross. I thought it spoke to a sound ethical sense within myself that I simply wouldn't have sex with a married man. But recently, I met this really hot guy on Craigslist. We are both bi


    No surprise there icon_rolleyes.gif... and bisexuals wonder why no one likes them icon_idea.gif
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    Jun 17, 2015 2:03 AM GMT
    DON'T DO IT! I just got off of that roller coaster myself....icon_cry.gif


    Slept with a married guy on a business trip....the chemistry between us was AMAZING, his looks were AMAZING and the sex was BEYOND AMAZING, but when I realized that he could never rightfully be mine, it was the worst feeling in the world. Unless you can get over it quickly, just find someone else. It took me about...hmmm a week to get back to my normal self but I bounce back relatively quickly...

    Now if it's an open relationship, I dunno what to tell ya lol
  • brokenpen

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    Jun 17, 2015 2:05 AM GMT
    ryyyder said
    donj499 saidSo I used to find the idea of doing this totally immoral. It was the line I dared not cross. I thought it spoke to a sound ethical sense within myself that I simply wouldn't have sex with a married man. But recently, I met this really hot guy on Craigslist. We are both bi


    No surprise there icon_rolleyes.gif... and bisexuals wonder why no one likes them icon_idea.gif


    Unnecessary comment of the day goes to...!
  • brokenpen

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    Jun 17, 2015 2:09 AM GMT
    donj499 saidWhat should I do? Any advice? Would it really be wrong? I'm terrible for even thinking about it.


    My advice: Have the sex you want to be having. He's a big boy and can make his own decisions, then he can either feel bad about those decisions or not. Same as you. Your feelings, as complex as they are, are all valid. If you think that your inevitable regret outweighs the experience, then go ahead and move on. But if you think you can live with it, go have fun.
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    Jun 17, 2015 2:13 AM GMT
    If you don't feel you could look at yourself in the mirror after doing it, then that means you shouldn't do it.
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    Jun 17, 2015 5:49 AM GMT
    There is nothing wrong if that guy is in an open relationship, meaning if that guy's husband/wife is aware of the whole thing then... Do it; if not then don't. Lol
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    Jun 17, 2015 2:23 PM GMT
    Just know what you're getting into and be prepared for the potential consequences or ramifications.
  • rnch

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    Jun 17, 2015 3:53 PM GMT
    If all you want is an occasional 45 minutes (being generous here) of man-on-sex, go ahead. He will prolly do things with you than his wife won't do.

    If you like being alone on holidays and when you are feeling down, go ahead.

    Just don't forget: They ALWAYS, eventually, go back to their wife. You will NEVER come first in his life.
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    Jun 17, 2015 4:11 PM GMT
    No... just no!
    That fact that you have to ask means you already know this is a very stupid idea.
    Get the thought out of your head and don't wreck a home.
    Just because some douche wants to be a fuckwit to his wife doesn't mean you have to be the obliging partner in crime simply because the opportunity presented itself.

    Even to those guys who are saying to go ahead and do it but you'll still regret it in the long run... don't even listen to them.
    Just a plain and outright NO is for real the best answer here.

    Stop JUST thinking with your dick, get your conscience back and understand this is a very stupid fucking idea.

    Sorry for the harsh language but honestly the very best answer here is a big fat NO.
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    Jun 17, 2015 4:38 PM GMT
    You say you both are "bi and in the same situation" , meaning you are both married ..
    So you BOTH will be unfaithful to your loved ones , being unfaithful for a roll in the hay isn't worth the pain you both will cause to your spouses ..

    Even in the case you are single , think about the pain you will cause to HIS partner when he/she will find out .

    Think about it 10 times before jumping in bed with him ,and then make your choice .
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    Jun 17, 2015 6:06 PM GMT
    Lol oh come on boo, do you really think being a home-wrecking hoe is a good idea?? lol icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_razz.gificon_eek.gif
  • Svnw688

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    Jun 17, 2015 6:15 PM GMT
    No. Bad idea and hurt feelings ALL AROUND. Liars are liars. Please be honest.
  • mar0302

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    Jun 17, 2015 7:11 PM GMT
    Look, you have two choices.. first you can sleep with him.. The issue here is that you may feel guilty after, or you may not.. the reality is that he's the one who's cheating, not you.. it's his drama and issue, although he's making you an accomplice. If it wasn't you, it would probably be someone else (and probably has been before). If you are okay with that, and you won't feel depressed or guilty later, then I say go for it.

    Second, or on the other hand, if you can't abide the thought that you've ruined a relationship (if that happens), or you'll feel like you've committed some sort of sin by sleeping with a married guy, then I suggest you refrain.

    If you do decide to go for it, then use protection. You don't know where he's been - clearly.
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jun 17, 2015 7:23 PM GMT
    i do it all the time. coz i dont love myself
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    Jun 19, 2015 3:55 PM GMT
    Do it. You will get lots of gifts and trips as he tries to assuage his guilt.
  • ZakSayWhat

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    Jun 19, 2015 5:27 PM GMT
    Blondizgd saidDo it. You will get lots of gifts and trips as he tries to assuage his guilt.


    you won't.

    you'll always be the side piece. in my case he came we had sex drank and ate my food, talked about how shit his life was had sex again and got threatened a lot. do it enough and you'll end up with bad self image and an inability to connect with other men healthily.

  • Zigs_01

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    Jun 19, 2015 5:32 PM GMT
    So this thread was three days ago. What happened? I hope OP didn't agree to sex with the person.
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    Jun 19, 2015 5:42 PM GMT
    If ever you feel tempted to sleep with another married man...take a lesson from a very profound psychologist on the issue. I swear his words will prove fruitful.