same sex marriage is always better

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    Jun 26, 2015 6:42 PM GMT
    an interesting read:
    http://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2015/06/gay-marriages-better-than-straight-marriages-119465.html?ml=m_pm#.VY2bJqZ0Fcx


    along the lines:
    -both husbands can figure out what the partner is feeling better than hetro partners
    -argue less often, get over with it better faster
    -no gender roles
    -generally communicate better
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    Jun 26, 2015 11:35 PM GMT
    I can only go by my own personal experience. My first marriage (to a woman) was a disaster. We fought over the same shit for over twenty years. I couldn't see myself spending the rest of my life like that. Divorced her and accepted my true self. Now I've been with the same guy for over a year and married nearly two months and we have NEVER had a fight or argument.
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    Jun 27, 2015 1:56 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidI can only go by my own personal experience. My first marriage (to a woman) was a disaster. We fought over the same shit for over twenty years. I couldn't see myself spending the rest of my life like that. Divorced her and accepted my true self. Now I've been with the same guy for over a year and married nearly two months and we have NEVER had a fight or argument.


    You were with a woman for over twenty years; with a man for only a year and two months. Give it some time. There will be some arguing. It doesn't matter who you're married to. As long as you have your own mind, there will inevitably by arguing. I hope it doesn't happen to you. But if you're with this guy as long as you were with your ex-wife, there's going to be some shouting matches at some point.
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    Jun 27, 2015 4:27 AM GMT
    Marriage is marriage, don't compare it. Everyone's experience differs, let alone if it's a straight one or not.
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    Jun 27, 2015 6:15 AM GMT
    What happens when you have two women and they don't agree on the same thing; yet neither is ever wrong.
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    Jun 27, 2015 6:18 AM GMT
    sadly Gay Marriage has been coined, and for this, its not going tots imply a marriage or just a wedding. It's now gay marriage, and that's created a two tired marriage system.
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    Jun 28, 2015 2:10 AM GMT
    This article is completely ridiculous and has a lot of generalizations in it. It implies that gay marriages act the same way and so do straight marriages. Gay marriages are not healthier than straight marriages and vice versa. We just won a huge battle in U.S. history and we should not be responding with this kind of hypocritical prejudice. All marriages are unique and the idea of what constitutes a healthy marriage is constantly changing. You can only make accurate generalizations on things that remain constant and the idea of marriage and what makes a marriage healthy is always changing. We should not be making generalizations about which kind of marriages are better.

    Also when you are making a "scientific" inquiry it is best to change only one variable to pinpoint cause and effect. In this case they are presenting sexual orientation as the one variable, however their are multiple variables here. The main two variables being the two individuals that are married, then you add sexual orientation in the mix. Because their is more than one variable involved, no one can possibly support the idea that gay marriages are healthier than straight marriages.

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    Jun 28, 2015 2:26 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidI can only go by my own personal experience. My first marriage (to a woman) was a disaster. We fought over the same shit for over twenty years. I couldn't see myself spending the rest of my life like that. Divorced her and accepted my true self. Now I've been with the same guy for over a year and married nearly two months and we have NEVER had a fight or argument.


    No offense but your marriage was unhealthy because you were lying to a women for two decades not because you were married to a women. I don't think that your first marriage even counts as a straight marriage more so than a fake marriage.
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    Jun 28, 2015 5:58 AM GMT
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    UndercoverMan saidI can only go by my own personal experience. My first marriage (to a woman) was a disaster. We fought over the same shit for over twenty years. I couldn't see myself spending the rest of my life like that. Divorced her and accepted my true self. Now I've been with the same guy for over a year and married nearly two months and we have NEVER had a fight or argument.


    No offense but your marriage was unhealthy because you were lying to a women for two decades not because you were married to a women. I don't think that your first marriage even counts as a straight marriage more so than a fake marriage.


    No offense but you weren't there, you weren't in it, and you aren't me. You don't know what you're talking about.
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    Jun 28, 2015 6:11 AM GMT
    You're right, I wasn't there but I know that your failed marriage doesn't justify the belief that gay marriages are "healthier" than straight marriages. Straight people have healthy marriages and unhealthy marriages, and so do gay people. It saddens me that gay men could actually believe and promote this article. Especially with our history of prejudice against us.
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    Jun 28, 2015 2:28 PM GMT
    i have had both a wife and a husband. Some truth to the article. Only some truth tho, you make your own marriage.
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    Jun 29, 2015 1:07 AM GMT
    But the only reason to get married anymore is to discriminate against single folks.
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    Jun 29, 2015 3:13 AM GMT
    Alpha13 saidBut the only reason to get married anymore is to discriminate against single folks.



    LOL, you win the assinine comment of the day.
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    Jun 29, 2015 3:41 AM GMT
    pellaz said
    an interesting read:
    http://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2015/06/gay-marriages-better-than-straight-marriages-119465.html?ml=m_pm#.VY2bJqZ0Fcx

    along the lines:
    -both husbands can figure out what the partner is feeling better than hetro partners
    -argue less often, get over with it better faster
    -no gender roles
    -generally communicate better

    I'm not sure there's any convincing evidence to support this article. Among our good friends is a straight couple who've been together 60 years. My own parents were together over 40 years, until my Mother died. Same with my husband's parents, until his Father died. We know numerous other straight couples whose marriages have lasted decades, and continue.

    But then likewise with gay couples. One RJ couple we know are halfway through their 4th decade together. Our closest friends are past 30 years.

    I think the issue is compatibility, of course. But that includes living the true sexual orientation you really are. I should never have married a woman, which I did to please my parents, to conform, and frankly to advance my Army career. A post above said what a disaster his own straight marriage was.

    Mine, too, ending in divorce. Not that I didn't try to make it work, but I didn't have the natural "talent" if you will.

    I learned that we're all happiest and most successful when we live according to our natural orientation. Straights with straights, gays with gays. I notice no difference in the happiness or potential longevity of either type of pairing. Other than we pick a good match for ourselves, which is always problematical, gay or straight. But first get the orientation right.
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    Jun 29, 2015 6:45 AM GMT
    needsomebodytohold saidYou're right, I wasn't there but I know that your failed marriage doesn't justify the belief that gay marriages are "healthier" than straight marriages.


    I don't believe I said any such thing.
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    Jun 29, 2015 7:33 AM GMT
    There are advantages to being similar, that is no revelation. Regardless of orientation, people often relate better to the same sex and that is how friendship bonds are built. When you apply that logic of relating better to the same sex to romantic relationships, it is an advantage.

    With that said, not everyone is wired the same and even if there is a better sense of understanding/relating that is connected to being of the same sex, relationships are still hard and I don't think same sex marriage is necessarily easier than straight marriage.
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    Jul 09, 2015 4:28 PM GMT
    Except for the major obvious fact in that the human race would cease to exist without the ability to reproduce naturally, which clearly is lacking in homosexual couples.
    Also contrary to that article, more and more gay couples prefer to be open any way so gay marriage is mostly for the benefits it allows a couple to have as opposed to the spirituality of marriage itself.
    Then again, at the end of the day convenience seems to matter more so I cared about gay marriage as much as I did before it became legal; not that much.