Would you date a bi person?....n verse if you are one sided?

  • Goodluckyman

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    Jun 26, 2015 8:46 PM GMT
    Would you date a bi person without fearing that they will be competing with the other gender in some instances. How likely is it that a bi person will settle on one side of the divide if they commit to someone?

    This may also apply to our able verse?

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    Jun 26, 2015 9:54 PM GMT
    I actually find bi guys hotter for some reason icon_cool.gif
  • nomad4life

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    Jun 26, 2015 11:31 PM GMT
    As a bi, I can tell you that yes, we do settle with one person once we fall for them. It falls under the headline of just because you CAN do something doesn't mean you HAVE to do it. I can have sex with a girl, doesn't mean I have to. If I'm currently dating someone, I'm grown up enough to stay committed to them regardless of the gender.

    Also had many guys dump me because of this very fact. Honestly don't know where the gay man's insecurity of bisexuality comes from.

    ...I'm also vers, and the same things apply.
  • Apparition

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    Jun 26, 2015 11:44 PM GMT
    hell no.
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    Jun 27, 2015 12:45 AM GMT
    I would date a bi guy before I'd date a closeted gay guy.
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    Jun 27, 2015 1:03 AM GMT
    When I was singled I would say no. But now years later and having known some bi guys I would say yes.

    I good buddy of mine who everyone thought was st8 was actually bi with a leaning toward gay guys. He was always worried about rejection.
  • wellwell

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    Jun 27, 2015 4:01 AM GMT
    I'M COUNTING ON IT !
  • Goodluckyman

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    Jun 27, 2015 4:45 AM GMT
    Thanks guys! Av always thought otherwise. A verse friend of mine once told me they must date a verse since every so often he wants to experience the other side.

    I was imagining it would be the sane with bi people....
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    Jun 27, 2015 5:03 AM GMT
    Yes, bi or gay or straight they are all humans after all.

    The ones you shouldn't be dating are the unsettled people, those who don't know what they want. And those kind of people are not exclusive to bisexuals.
  • mar0302

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    Jun 27, 2015 9:13 AM GMT
    It depends.. I might.. comes down to the person.. gay men can be unfaithful, so can bi guys.. If I trusted him or if we talked through how it would work, then I'd be okay with it..
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    Jun 27, 2015 2:18 PM GMT
    Normally when we're this many posts into a thread about dating bi guys, there isn't as much agreeance. icon_neutral.gif

    Is this still RJ?
  • BloodFlame

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    Jun 27, 2015 5:07 PM GMT
    Yes I would. A person's sexuality won't determine if he is going to be a cheater because a gay man is just as capable to cheat as well. So yes, if I liked the bi guy and he liked me and we connected, I'm open to dating them. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 27, 2015 9:21 PM GMT
    One could argue "he/she can be attracted by both genders, so she/he is more likely to cheat on me, because there will be more temptations"... Well, other than beeing a complete cliché, it is also not a real proof of anything ! Let's considerate this thought : "Someone who's attracted by both genders has more choice, so... he/she must have higher standards !"

    This make as much sense as the stereotype I just described ! My conclusion ? No ultimate rule ! You cannot apply a generic thought on someone specific : everyone is different ! There are cheaters and trustworthy people in every "categories" so to speak.


    That beeing said, when you're aiming at LTR, I think an important issue must be adressed when you're a gay man dating a bisexual : his willingness to have children of his own. If that's the case, it is obviously easier to achieve this with a women.
    Don't get me wrong : any couple should have the right to raise children ! There is always the solution of adoption, or an egg donor and a surrogate mother, but... that leaves at least one of the two without any direct link to the child. Everybody can have a different opinion on the importance of raising a child of his own flesh and blood.

    I know, I push my thinking very far, just beeing real you know ! :p
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    Jun 27, 2015 9:26 PM GMT
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    Also had many guys dump me because of this very fact. Honestly don't know where the gay man's insecurity of bisexuality comes from.

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    I'm bi as well. One of the reasons some gay and straight people are insecure about bisexuals is because we challenge the idea people are either gay or straight. The fact of the matter is that almost nobody is totally gay or straight. Gay people have anxiety about their heterosexual side while straight people have anxiety about their gay side. In fact, I think the whole your either gay or straight thing was created to hide bisexuality.

    In short, we create identity crisis in people who struggle with a part of themselves they don't like to acknowledge. That's one reason why it's still acceptable to hate us.




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    Jun 28, 2015 4:27 AM GMT
    go_dreaming saidNormally when we're this many posts into a thread about dating bi guys, there isn't as much agreeance. icon_neutral.gif

    Is this still RJ?


    People change, take it easy! icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 28, 2015 4:34 AM GMT
    go_dreaming saidNormally when we're this many posts into a thread about dating bi guys, there isn't as much agreeance. icon_neutral.gif

    Is this still RJ?
    You're thinking of page two. Just wait...
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    Jun 28, 2015 10:43 AM GMT
    no
    yes
  • Antarktis

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    Jun 28, 2015 12:43 PM GMT
    Goodluckyman saidWould you date a bi person without fearing that they will be competing with the other gender in some instances. How likely is it that a bi person will settle on one side of the divide if they commit to someone?

    This may also apply to our able verse?



    Yeah, hell with gays you get to compete with your own gender.
  • NursePractiti...

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    Jun 28, 2015 1:10 PM GMT
    I would, but as usual with understanding it's just us. It comes with the same worries as dating a gay guy
  • Chastize

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    Jun 28, 2015 8:12 PM GMT
    I would.

    I'm bi and verse... It'd be hypocritical for me to say otherwise haha. icon_cool.gif
  • wellwell

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    Jun 28, 2015 11:59 PM GMT
    I could not get serious about anyone else . . .
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    Jun 29, 2015 3:46 AM GMT
    Remington47 saidI actually find bi guys hotter for some reason icon_cool.gif


    Most are actually more comfortable around sexuality once they understand.

    Bisexuality is actually very, very, very, very normal. Ever spend time in nature? Ever read The Kinsey Studies.

    Many bi folks fear rejection, even more so than gay guys (which are head fucked so much of the time), but, once the bi guys / girls know you're not rejecting them most are the MOST understanding around sexuality because they live it every day. Confidence is attractive. Most bi guys don't starve, nor self type, etc. I hate that shit of labels for gay people. Stupid.
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    Jun 29, 2015 3:50 AM GMT
    Goodluckyman saidWould you date a bi person without fearing that they will be competing with the other gender in some instances. How likely is it that a bi person will settle on one side of the divide if they commit to someone?

    This may also apply to our able verse?



    If you've ever studied sexuality, you know that most of us...around 75% are actually some shade of bisexual. That is, we can get down with a chick, but prefer guys, etc.

    Having a sexual relationship with a bisexual person is tricky, because, their desire fall somewhere in the middle of the scale, instead of on any either end. I get hit on by couples all the time...straight, and non-straight. Folks like to get off. My look is also a novelty. So many times, my "straight" friends have had a few beers, and want to feel my bare chest. LOL. True that.

    Dating a bi guy, and I go about 95% gay, and 5% non-gay...(I did hot chicks, I just suck at fucking them, but, can show them a good time, and enjoy their company), there's always an element that the person will want the other gender.

    I think it's something you have to come to an agreement on. Every bi guy I have hung out with, except any closed ones, have been a great time...but, then...I get it.
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    Jun 29, 2015 3:52 AM GMT
    donj499 said[quote][cite]

    Also had many guys dump me because of this very fact. Honestly don't know where the gay man's insecurity of bisexuality comes from.



    I'm bi as well. One of the reasons some gay and straight people are insecure about bisexuals is because we challenge the idea people are either gay or straight. The fact of the matter is that almost nobody is totally gay or straight. Gay people have anxiety about their heterosexual side while straight people have anxiety about their gay side. In fact, I think the whole your either gay or straight thing was created to hide bisexuality.

    In short, we create identity crisis in people who struggle with a part of themselves they don't like to acknowledge. That's one reason why it's still acceptable to hate us.




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    Yes. Any educated, and informed, person knows this to be true. Either go into nature, or read the studies. Bi really is the norm, except many of us land on more towards one side of the scale rather than in the middle.
  • Goodluckyman

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    Jun 29, 2015 1:30 PM GMT
    Thanks guys for your insights on this. I like the way people share their thoughts.

    This question was motivated by comments from 2 friends of mine.... One is bi and the other is verse.

    For example, the verse guy told me that every so often, he wants both his apparatus to take some action esp. After bring dormant. In fact he mentioned that its for the same reason he only does verse people coz then he gets the benefit of using both sets of "apparatus" after some time.

    Same case with my bi friend. There are days he craves to feel a woman"s insides and there are days he craves the river between a man's mountains.

    I would wish to reassure all that I respect all sexualities......none is superior to the other in my view.

    Best,
    GL